DATING TIPS MAILBAG: Approaching Women
By David DeAngelo
Hello
Dave,
I
just wanted to start off by saying you have very valid points with your
dating advice for men. I have worked at bars and restaurants where women
come in looking to hook up with men. And the
cocky funny attitude works wonders. I'm
22 going on 23 and I have had no problem ever getting women to give me their
number. But there is one problem I do have. That is timing "the call". When
should I call? Plus I used your "Are you single" approach with this very
attractive girl. She gave me 5 mins of her time and I found out some cool things
about her. She was very hesitant on giving me her phone number, but after I sat
down to talk to her, she gave me her number. Well, I called her two days after
she gave me her phone number and she was on the other line. So she told me to
call her back in 15 mins. I waited 30 and she never answered the phone. so I
left a message. Should I rip up her number and never call her again? Or should
I call her in a week? Your advise would be greatly appreciated.
Plus
why would she give me her number if she planned on not talking to me in the
first place?
Thanks.
>>>DAVID
DEANGELO's COMMENTS:
I
personally think that this is one of the funniest questions I hear. I mean,
haven't you watched "Swingers"? lol...
My
rule of thumb is to wait at least one day, but not more than a few. The real key
is how OFTEN you call her, and more importantly, what you SAY when you call.
But let's talk about the psychology of why women give out their phone numbers,
and why I personally like to get email addresses.
You must remember that attractive women are being approached all the time by
men, in one way or another, trying to seduce them.
They have an unlimited supply of guys to choose from.
I
think that a lot of women who give out their numbers, then respond by being
flaky when you call are doing something that many of us guys wouldn't have
thought of in a million years:
I
think they're making themselves feel good.
Explained differently, I think that many women who give out their numbers are
looking for the self-image-boosting hit of power that comes from having a lot of
men calling them... men that THEY have the power to ACCEPT OR REJECT.
They can also use it to get attention from friends:
"All these guys just keep calling me! Why don't they just leave me alone! Don't
they get the hint!?"
Now, don't get me wrong. I know that this sounds a little bit negative... and I
don't mean to say that ALL women do this, or that ALL women are bad, etc.
To
me, it's just part of the real world that you need to learn to accept and deal
with.
Which leads me to why I get email addresses...
Keep in mind, I've tried a lot of different things when it comes to curing this
problem of hot-and-cold women who act one way when you meet them, then totally
different when you call.
And what I've found is that if you get EMAILS instead, you not only
differentiate yourself, but you also increase your chances of hearing back from
her by about 100%. No lie.
For some reason, email has a power that a call does not.
If
you have my eBook "Double
Your Dating", then you have read about the technique for getting
a woman's email address within a few minutes of meeting her. Email is also seen
as lower risk by her... and it's easier to get as well.
Try it. You'll like it.
***QUESTION to DAVID DEANGELO***
David
Being
cocky and funny is the best way to go! I have picked up more chicks
reading your newsletter then I ever have in my life. Getting the digits is a
problem I used to have and really sweat about. But now its a breeze! I average
about 3-5 a week.
But
anyway to my dilemma..! I met this chick at work, she is very good looking and
we flirt all the time. But she has a boyfriend! He drives a killer truck and he
is 22 and I'm 19. Recently we have been flirting and talking more then ever. But
a co-worker went up to her and said that i really like her and that she should
stop sending me the wrong signals since she has a boyfriend. So she comes up to
me and tells me that flirting is just part of her personality and that she has a
boyfriend that she plans on being with for a while. But it just doesn't add
up... when im around her i get a totally different vibe...everybody around me
tells me that they can tell she wants me. Plus i already have her number THANKS
TO YOU!!!! but how do i get past the mature rich boyfriend. Or boyfriends in
general!! im stumped on how to retaliate Please help me find out what she wants,
and how to send the boyfriend packin! i am so stuck on this chick that i even
find myself being depressed after that day... HELP ME!!!
your
loyal fan.
>>>DAVID
DEANGELO's COMMENTS:
With all the women out there that don't have boyfriends who drive trucks... and
don't work at the same place you do (which can only lead to problems in the long
run), why are you spending your time pining away over this one?
I
know, I know. She's extra good-looking, and she's funny, and blah blah blah.
Look, just be her friend, and keep teasing her. She's great target practice.
But do yourself a major favor, and go find a girl who doesn't have a
truck-owning boyfriend, and who doesn't work with you.
Then, if the stars align in the future, she won't have Truck Man anymore, and
you won't work at the same place, and she'll be so attracted to you from all of
the teasing that she'll follow you around like a puppy.
Stop wasting your mental energy trying to get something that has a high risk of
turning out very bad, and focus on finding opportunities that make more sense.
***QUESTION to DAVID DEANGELO***
Hi
David,
I
need some dating advice on approaching groups? And what's the best way
to approach a group of girls? I just moved to Vegas, and I've found that
beautiful girls will frequently travel in groups of up to 8 girls or more. What
have you found works best for approaching groups? Thanks!
S.
>>>DAVID
DEANGELO's COMMENTS:
The only reasons I can see for approaching a "Group" of 8 or more women are:
1)
You have a bunch of friends, and you're trying to hook them all up.
2)
You really like challenges and entertaining people.
I
know someone who loves to approach groups of people, and he's great at it. He
uses a combination of magic, humor, and other great techniques to charm
everyone, then leaves with the girl of his choice.
But as far as I'm concerned, it's not the group you're after most of the time...
it's one woman in the group... so stop with the "GROUP-THINK".
OK, 8 women walk into a club together (sounds like the beginning of a good
joke). What happens over the next 2 hours?
Well, some of them peel off and dance, some go to the bar for a drink, some go
to the lady's room to powder their noses...
There are all kinds of opportunities to meet women when they're not in the group
of 8. And I'll tell you what, if she is standing at the bar with her 7 friends
and you start talking to her, the other 7 will go about their business and not
care.
Just go get her email address. That's all you need.
Or
learn magic. Really.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
David:
As
a female subscriber i'd like to admit to consciously falling for many of the
techniques outlined in your newsletter. I'm a nineteen year old college girl and
have been dating my boyfriend for four years. His occasional disinterest in me
only makes me want him more. He doesn't call or email me as often as i call him
or think it necessary that we spend every weekend together and i know he has a
life other than me (i find this terribly attractive). His body language or habit
of "taking up space and leaning back" is irresistible and his cocky attitude has
been making me hot for years. I want to tell your male subscribers not to lose
the cocky/funny routine after they have found a girl they like; not just to keep
her, but to attract other girls as well. i find it a huge turn on when i catch
other girls checking out my guy.
>>>DAVID
DEANGELO's COMMENTS:
Ah, yes. Thanks for the comments. Next time do tell more about the whole "I find
it a huge turn on when I catch other girls checking out my guy" thing.
***QUESTION for DAVID DEANGELO***
Hi
David,
I
have a question for you. Does the techniques you use in your
book work on women of all races? I am African - American.
Thanks,
GB
>>>DAVID
DEANGELO's COMMENTS:
I
get literally hundreds of emails a week from all over the world telling success
stories, so my guess is that "yes, they do"...
And as a matter of fact, I'd like to thank all my readers from every corner of
the planet for staying tuned, and for sending in your questions and stories.
Often, the person sending the story doesn't speak or write English very well,
and I don't speak their language, so I don't include them in these Mailbags...
but I try to respond personally when I can.
My
answer to you is: Try it. I think these principals are universal when it comes
to women.
Just
take your local customs, traditions, and benchmarks of proper behavior, as
cultures differ... and I know that our culture in America is different than many
of the cultures around the world.
***QUESTION to DAVID DEANGELO***
David, I just wanted to give your book a plug to all the men out there who are
currently involved in a long-term relationship and want to spice things up.
Using the techniques and dating tips described in your
Double Your Dating eBook I completely turned around a 10
year relationship that had gone stale. We went from having sex 2-3 times a day
in the first 6 months of the relationship to once or twice a MONTH in the last
couple of years. After reading your book, I began the whole cocky funny
routine on my wife and stopped giving in to every little whim she had and...BAM!
Just like that she was attracted again.
She
tried to pretend that she didn't like the cockiness, but her actions showed how
she really felt about it. We're now back to 2-3 times a week and I'm loving
life. Thanks buddy for a great education.
>>>DAVID
DEANGELO's COMMENTS:
Can I just tell you how much I love getting emails like this one? Hats off to
you.
***QUESTION***
I
just wanted to say I LOVE YOU MAN! for emphasizing the
COCKY FUNNY philosophy. I've recently tried out this
internet dating thing and man I'm telling you that I turned up the volume to the
max on being "cocky and funny" towards the cutest chicks on the web. Let
me tell you man that my profile reads like a dickhead who can be hilarious at
the same time wrote this stuff. I LOVE it!
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