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Is there a such thing as a human mating dance? It is very clear in nature when two animals are mating, because they use their body language to display it, with complex rituals, dances, displays or projects. These rituals are hardwired into the animals, they are completely instinctual, not something they learn from their parents or from a movie on the discovery channel.
So, do human beings have a mating dance, a set of ritual courtship steps that we go through in the process of selecting a mate and proceeding from that selection into the consummation of that selection? Yes, we do. However, most men do not KNOW the steps of that dance, and therefore will not be chosen by a woman to be their mate.
Let us digress for just a moment. How is a solid gold coin different from paper money? Paper money is actually a representation of money, it is not worth anything outside the value of what society or the government has placed upon it. The gold coin has value outside of monetary value, it can be melted down and made into other objects.
In this same vein, how is body language different than other languages? Body language is an innate method of communication that is incapable of lying, as well as has no language barrier. A smile is a universal sign, whereas the word “hello” is different in languages around the world. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian in his Psychology Today article, it is estimated that only 7% of communication is purveyed by words, 38% by voice tone and the remaining 55% by facial expression and body language.
Body Language and expression, then, are KEY COMPONNTS in understanding the complexities and mechanics of attraction. I highly recommend STUDYING Body Language if the mechanics of attraction interest you at all. By studying Body language, you can learn the subtle signals and methods of sparking attraction with a woman that 99% of the population have NO IDEA exist at all. The Naturals? THEY KNOW. The guys you see at the bars and clubs just picking up woman after woman? THEY KNOW. The dork-wad making moon eyes at every hottie that walks by him and getting rejected more times than a dick flavored sucker? HE does NOT know.
That being said, how about some recommendations? If you want to get in the know, here are a few STELLAR programs for you to check out, and dude, learn what they have to teach and you will be AMAZED at the results you get. These guys all guarantee it.
LANCE MASON of PICKUP 101 and his PHYSICAL CONFIDENCE PROGRAM:
Over "15 Amazing Hours" of Insights, Exercises, and DrillsI know, I know. It's Quality NOT Quantity that matters. Honestly, Lance didn't even want me to tell you how long the program is. He was worried that people might think there was some kind of 'filler', or other material that wasn't essential. I can assure you this is not the case. Lance has spent over ten years mastering the secrets of physical confidence himself, and over 3 years teaching them professionally, so to have him pack them all into an 8 DVD program was quite a feat. This is dense stuff, and cannot be absorbed in one sitting. In fact, when you get the product, the first this you'll see is a training program schedule that tells when to watch the DVD's and when to do the exercises, and when to take a break so you can notice that changes that are taking place. Until you get the full training program in your hands, here's a short list of what's included. DVD Disc #1 DVD Disc #2 DVD Disc #3 DVD Disc #4 DVD Disc #5 DVD Disc #6 DVD Disc #7 DVD Disc #8 A Program that goes hand in hand with Physical Confidence: DRESS FOR SUCCESS Listen, one of the most powerful ways to get women attracted to you, is to send the message to them that you're a man who has women in his life. That you're a man who's comfortable around women. You can communicate that message easily if you follow the advice I give you in this program. It works this way because fashion is important to women, and most guys are basically clueless and have no sense of style beyond which sports jersey to wear to watch the game. I've broken this down for you in two important ways, first how to build your look step-by-step, and second by category of clothing such as shoes, pants, shirts, accessories, and even grooming. And what's more, you'll get to see me do 5 full fashion consultations with different men on the third DVD. You'll get to be a fly on the wall as I take each man from typical guy no sense of style (boring) to cool guy with his own unique look, custom tailored to his physical qualities and his identity. Remember, When you combine a unique look that also enhances your one-of-a-kind identity, the image you project will have women wanting you to come over and talk with them. They'll already be attracted to you, so opening them is so much easier. Enhance your attractiveness by developing your own style. This is extremely powerful when done right, but it can work against you if you get it wrong. Here's What You'll Get With This Program Three digitally recorded and edited DVD's of me PERSONALLY teaching you everything I've described above (plus a whole lot more). Sixty Three pages of detailed transcripts to accompany the DVD's, a sturdy 3-ring binder to hold your DVD's and other materials. Listen, one of the most powerful ways to get women attracted to you, is to send the message to them that you're a man who has women in his life. That you're a man who's comfortable around women. You can communicate that message easily if you follow the advice I give you in this program. It works this way because fashion is important to women, and most guys are basically clueless and have no sense of style beyond which sports jersey to wear to watch the game. I've broken this down for you in two important ways, first how to build your look step-by-step, and second by category of clothing such as shoes, pants, shirts, accessories, and even grooming. And what's more, you'll get to see me do 5 full fashion consultations with different men on the third DVD. You'll get to be a fly on the wall as I take each man from typical guy no sense of style (boring) to cool guy with his own unique look, custom tailored to his physical qualities and his identity. Remember, When you combine a unique look that also enhances your one-of-a-kind identity, the image you project will have women wanting you to come over and talk with them. They'll already be attracted to you, so opening them is so much easier. Enhance your attractiveness by developing your own style. This is extremely powerful when done right, but it can work against you if you get it wrong. How to Have Unstoppable Confidence and Power With Women by Ross Jeffries of Speed Seduction This one is a digital download for under $30 - you can start using it right now! Instant Kick-Ass Confidence, And All The Right Moves, No Matter What Your Past Has Been. Not only do we (you and I) wire it up so that you'll find yourself naturally making all the right moves, smoothly sailing from one hot, hard bodied, eager to surrender girl to the next, but we also rewire your past so it seems at the deepest levels of your mind that your Body Language has always been this sharp. Day One: The Key To Changing Anything You Want, The Power Attitudes For Success With Women, Super-Affirmations To Super-Charge Yourself. (Hey, the power attitudes, BY THEMSELVES, are so incredible that if all you do is listen to this one side, you'll at least triple your success with women!! But do yourself a favor, and listen to the rest of the tapes too!) Day Two: Building A Thunderously Powerful Self Image: Staying Laid Back To Get You Laid Like Crazy Day Three: Automatic Pick-Up And Seduction Programming! Day Four: Cleaning Up Your Past: Changing Your Flub-Ups, Mistakes, and Snafus Into Powerful Guarantees Of Success! Day Five: Wrap Up And Special "On The Prowl" Super-Chargers, Including the World's Best Pick-Up Lines and Approaches Day Six: Special Bonus Side... How To Reach Through Time and Space To Find Your Ideal Dream Lover (my partner begged me not to put this in because he thought we could make big bucks off it by itself as a separate program but I told him where to stick it! Here it is, available to you now, worth your entire investment in and of itself!) David Deangelo’s Double Your Dating and Body Language Series
According to David Deangelo, the idea of controlling your body language is not to appear nice, to impress her, to win her approval, to fit in, or to not make any waves. What your objective should be is to spark attraction, to do everything you can to evoke a response from her on an unconscious level that she cannot control.
What are some attractive qualities to convey? One is independence. This can be conveyed by slow, deliberate movements, and giving yourself permission to “be cool”. Start paying attention to fashion, movies and the world around you to figure out what is cool, and what works for you.
Status is another important message your body language conveys. Women, according to David Deangelo, are attracted to men that have a higher status than they do. David goes on to describe the “Sexual Threat”. What is the “sexual threat”? It is a concept that originates with Julius Fast, in his book on Body Language. This is a concept that if a woman is attracted to a man, a powerful, alpha male, she runs the risk of being with him sexually, and getting pregnant and potentially having to raise a child on her own. The woman risks, on an unconscious, survival level, sacrificing much of her life for a sexual encounter with an attractive man who can “love her and leave her”.
Deangelo also creates a definition for the sexually aggressive male, or S.A.M., which is the man who creates sexual tension between himself and the woman. One key point, though, to being a S.A.M. is that you do not wuss out at any point, or the attraction will be dead on the spot. Keep the tension, keep the status, and get the girl.
One method for conveying this attributes is a simple method upon greeting someone. Simply tilt your head away from the individual you are meeting and greet them, saying “what’s up” or some other simple phrase without smiling. You do not need to look angry or anything like that, just an aloof, unsmiling demeanor. Keep your body aloof as well, lean back, lean away, not toward the person you are greeting or talking to. Leaning in to a person can indicated engagement and submission, like you are avidly following what they are saying. You want them to follow you.
Be sure, as well, not to project approval seeking or approval keeping behaviors, such as self-depreciating humor and submissive gestures. Honest signals, as David Deangelo calls them, are the most sure fire way to convey the message you want to convey. Honest signals are those signals - like the size of a buck’s antlers - that cannot be faked. Some of these signals include strong eye contact, your posture and the way you walk, slower than usual movements and gestures (indicating deliberate thought and confidence), and knowledge of the human mating sequence.
What is the human mating sequence? Simply put, the sequence goes like this. Eye contact, verbal contact, hand to arm, hand to waist, mouth to mouth, hand to genital, mouth to genital then finally genital to genital contact. Know the sequence so you can recognize the signals you are getting from the women you are trying to pick and can guide the smoothly through them.
How does a man maintain control of the movement through the human mating sequence? One of the first steps is to allow the woman to orient herself to you. What this means is do not take your cues from her, allow her to take her cues from you. Maintain strong eye contact at all times, watch her pupils and notice how they dilate and contract before certain actions and steps. Larger pupils will indicate stronger interest.
David Deangelo says, as well, that women will start to perform certain rituals with their bodies when they are attracted to a man. The will use their bodies, arching their backs, flipping the hair, walking with more of a sway to the hips, trying to accentuate their sexuality so they will be noticed my the man.
Another way to control the situation is to make the woman come to you. Do this by moving away from her, beckoning to her to come to you, or even remained turned away from her while speaking so she has to adjust her body to maintain the conversation.
Keeping the woman protected, as well, is another method of controlling the situation. Put your arm around her, put yourself between her and any perceived threat. You can also lead the woman physically by taking her hand and leading her out of the room or building. Put her where you want her to be, whether you are just sitting there on the couch or you are in bed.
David Deangelo goes further into unraveling the mysteries of Body Language by bringing in several guest speakers. One of the first speakers is the renown Mystery. Mystery goes through three basic phases of courtship.
The first step in the program is meeting a woman. You value must be demonstrated to her as higher than her own, so you can impart value to her. The second step is a campaign of comfort and trust building, which then moves in to the final stage of seduction. According to Mystery, it takes on average seven hours to go from meeting her to having sex.
One way to assure that you are valued highly is to generate repertoire with other women, to get the woman you want to look at you and think, “Hey, someone else already wants him….” Mystery also goes into how to infiltrate sets of women using your body language, using techniques like leaning away and breaking up sets, initiating chats with groups of women but looking like you are going to leave, to say that you are not all that interested.
Mystery also advocated looking for IOI’s, or Indicators of Interest. One way to look for IOI is called a “Kino test” or sometimes called a “Trust Test”. The test consists of asking a woman to give you her hands, if her hands come up to you palms up, that is an indicator of disinterest, palms down, though, is an indicator of interest. On the same note, if you then lower your hands, and her hands follow yours, it is an indicator of interest. If they remain elevated, it is an indicator of disinterest. Mystery expounds further on this in the Body Language program.
The Attraction Stage comes next. Mystery suggests approaching women with a smile. You do not need to keep smiling in a false manner, but upon the initial approach, smile at the woman you are approaching, and use a “time constraint” method, acting like you have little time (using a method Mystery calls Body Rocking) or even stating that you have little time, or like you are about to leave.
After attraction comes Comfort and Kino Escalation. Parts of the comfort stage include hand holding, kissing, cuddling, touching, French kissing and such. Kino escalation will include moving the touching from the hands to arm and arm, hand on leg, or other innocuous touches.
David Deangelo’s next guests are Steve and Eric. One of the key points that Steve and Eric make are that the thoughts translate into body language. Insecure feelings, negative emotions and other down factors will transmit themselves through your body language and expression. Getting your inner game straightened out will be conveyed by your body language, and as they say, your body and emotions are like a well tuned engine. If you have one portion of that engine out of whack, it effects the entire performance of the car.
A specific technique that Steve recommends to build attraction using body language is the lip biting technique. When talking to a woman, subtly look down at her chest or her mouth, then bite your lip. Then look back up to her eyes. Then, a few moments later, do it again. This tells the woman with your body language that you are attracted to her and pulls her in to your attraction.
Patty Contenta is Deangelo’s next guest. One of the first things that Patty recommends is not revealing (in contrast to Steve & Eric’s advice) your attraction to a woman’s body. She says withholding that is a powerful attraction mechanism.
Patty also tells men to pay attention to a woman’s body language. If the woman is turning her body away from you and putting distance between your body and hers, this is a sign of disinterest, and at that point it is better to go find another target than to try harder, because the harder you try to capture her interest, the more you are going to turn the woman off.
Stance is another thing Patty goes over. Men should stand with their feet hip distance apart and their weight evenly distributed between their feet. Push the chest out a bit and your chin back, which will at first feel unnatural, but the more you practice the more natural it will feel. So also goes over how to allow your body to sway naturally when you walk, thinking about the power of the muscles of your core.
Craig is next in the line-up of David Deangelo’s guests. Craig urges the men to develop their own style with body language, by taking bits and pieces of all the recommendations and find what works for you. Craig also runs through an exercise he uses personally when entering a club or bar. He recommends imagining that you are the owner of the venue you are in, and how you would walk, stand or act if you were the owner.
He also goes over somebody language mistakes that send women running. Do not crack your knuckles, play with your mouth (tongue ring, lips, etc). Do not look to other men to see how to act. Do not be a wallflower – do not hold your drink in front of your chest, hold it at your side.
Body language tips that Craig recommends in order to get noticed consist of holding your head up and chest out, and taking up a lot of space. Eye contact and other forms of contact that Craig recommends – using a serious nod or even an exaggerated wink to acknowledge a woman looking at you. Craig sometimes even hides his face playfully or “shows them some skin” in a playful manner when he finds a woman looking at him. Craig also recommends hair pulling as an attraction builder, as well as playful spanking.
David’s next guest speaker is Will Daddy. Will Daddy tells the audience that you need to be aware that women are always watching you, especially when you are interacting with the other men of your group. Pay attention how you act with the other men, be sure to relate your alpha male status. Will also tells the men to never buy a drink for the ladies!
All these gurus have a different perspective on body language and its display, as well as different perspectives on what women want or hate in an attractive mate. However, the common theme amongst them all is that body language is a key component to dating, and not knowing what message your body is sending is perhaps a fatal mistake in the dating world.
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