Cocky Comedy by David DeAngelo

Approaching Women

Here are some fabulous excerpts from David DeAngelo's newsletters regarding his Cocky Comedy techniques and how to use them to approach women.

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WOW! Yeah, that's the best word I can describe your techniques with. I've been in situations where I can't help but smile, or even burst out laughing when I see the magic work... keeping a straight face can be hard just because I never thought it would work so well. Anyway, to the point: I've been using the 'Cocky Comedy you can't get what you want' on this girl. Well it was working well, but one instance she was discouraged, and I wasn't sure what to do. I felt bad, like I broke her or something... I was hoping you could help me with a funny line that would give her, or any other girl alike, a good feeling after they turn around and feel bad. I wanted to make sure and not turn into 'PUSSYMAN' to make her feel better. Rather, something to encourage her to pursue me, and give her the 'it'll be worth your while impression.' Your advice seems to have covered everything but this, or I just missed something. Help make it clear. I appreciate the time you put into saving our lives. I think I was on the verge of wasting a lifetime before I was introduced to your work.

F. F. Toronto

>>>David DeAngelo's response in the Double Your Dating Newsletter:

One of the things you need to watch for when you're learning to be cocky & funny and using Cocky Comedy is GOING TOO FAR.

I've seen guys get a little too cocky, while forgetting that FUNNY is a key component of the formula... and then winding up turning a woman off instead of making a woman laugh.

I've done it myself a few times...

Just remember, if you wind up coming across as arrogant and hurting a woman's feelings, you need to change the frame of what's going on.

Try saying:

"Lighten up... what, you don't have a sense of humor?"

This tells the woman you're talking to that it was a joke without you turning into a wussy in her eyes.

Then add more humor.

Women are very adaptable, and if you take things too far, just remember to diffuse the situation quickly and learn from it. Once she sees that you were just busting on her, she'll most likely bounce right back.

Unfortunately, too many guys will turn into insta-wuss and start apologizing. Don't do that!

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

You are more than just the man; you're the man's man. I don't know how the hell you did it, but you've done what Freud couldn't--figure out what a woman wants. Buy the BOOK!!!! There's so much more to learn from it, including BRIDGES and SEX SECRETS. In Sex Secrets, Dave even teaches you how to transition into the position that woman hate, but men love...DOGGY-style!!!! You can't beat this. You had better believe I've got a SUCCESS STORY.

My cousin (he has a long-term girlfriend) and I wanted to work on our Cocky Comedy routines, so we decided to go to Barnes and Noble...like you said normal places.

NOTE: he went to work on his Cocky Funny, but not to meet women. Anyways, I tell you what: its nerve racking as hell approaching a girl, but each time I went and talked to girl I became more and more confident. I RECOMMEND this to anyone: find a friend who has some balls and go with him...it was good having the support, and we had an awesome time. In the end, my cousin got this hot ass model chic's e-mail, along with the usually "you're kind of rude." (He accused her of faking a cell-phone call ...LOL) But whatever, it worked. Anyways, later we met this chic...I didn't have anything to lose, so I went balls to the wall with the Cocky Comedy. She completely dug it, she was hinting at sex and all that.

PROBLEM: I eventually found out she was married, and like you say, there's too many women out there to ruin relationships. The point is THAT A MARRIED WOMEN WANTED TO RISK HER MARRIAGE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO SHE FOUND ATTRACTIVE!!!!!!!!! My question is this:

We sometimes found that our jokes didn't always catch. For example, my cousin walked into Ravegirl and accused the waitress of stealing. LOL. She didn't quite take the joke, and she got all pissy (Don't worry he didn't apologize). How do you hint that what your saying is supposed to be a joke? Should you smile (I know you say to avoid this)? Also, what books other than Comedy Writing Secrets do you recommend? Also, we're both attractive (I'm getting a 9 at HotorNot.com), thus we have to work on the FUNNY part of Cocky and Funny because chicks assume the cocky part.

PS. Don't forget to keep us posted on the videos or audio tapes of the seminar. I couldn't make it.

PPS. Even when we failed, we laughed our asses off. It was great. Just make sure that your partner pushes you to go by YOURSELF to talk to the chic.

--Student in NY, 21 years old

>>>David Deangelo's Comments in the Double Your Dating Newsletter:

You have some great points here... and I think that you're going to find your balance very soon. A quick distinction that I'll point out to you:

When you're first meeting a woman, I think it's better to just get the email/number and leave.

Then, when you email, talk on the phone, and meet up later start being more cocky and funny...

This will probably help you out A LOT.

As for married women... I don't recommend going there.

A final note: If you're a pretty good looking guy, you might turn down the cocky, and turn up the funny.

Women perceive good looking guys who act cocky as MAJOR PLAYERS, and too much cocky too soon can backfire on you. Learn the art of the "sly smile"... squint a bit and smile just barely. This says "I just teased you but you didn't get it..."

It's great...