Dating Tips for Guys

6 Tips on Approaching Women and Attraction

How to Get Women Attracted to You Without Using Looks

Here are some fabulous dating tips for guys out there - straight from the interview between David Deangelo and Joseph Matthews. David D - as you well know, is the great guru mastermind behind Double Your Dating. These interviews he does are amazing - because what he does is interviews the men that most people would see as his competition! This one is with Joseph Matthews, author of the Art of Approaching. This is one of the best pieces of dating advice I have heard lately, and just had to pass it on to you all.

Now we all know that the mechanisms of attraction work differently for men than for women. Men, the pigs that we are, are visual creatures, and attraction for us starts with what we see. Women, on the other hand, are entirely different when it comes to attraction. Women may be attracted to a man at first by looks, but many times, attraction starts in a woman for reasons totally unknown to her and NOT because of a man's looks. Good news for most of us when it comes to dating, huh?

Alright, so I'll quit blabbering and move on to the advice:

Dating tips for guys: Get over your looks. There is SO much more to dating and approaching women than looks, so ditch the hang up. You can attract a totally hot woman without looking like Orlando Bloom. He thing about our physical appearance is that every person, every man, is his own worst critic. You have all sorts of hang ups about your appearance, like you think your nose is too big or your ears stick out. Chances are no one has ever had that same thought about you. In the world of dating, attraction mechanisms can overcome even the homeliest man's appearance. So have faith, and read on.

Dating tips for guys: Cash in on your strengths. Another mistake guys make is focusing too much energy on improving their weaknesses… instead of capitalizing on their strengths. Not too sure what I mean? Well, outside the dating tip world, one great example is Tiger Woods. Tiger’s long game is amazing, but he has trouble in the sand traps. So what does he do? Instead of wasting time trying to get better in the sand traps, he does everything he can to keep improving his long game and AVOID the sand traps altogether. Get it? In other words, don’t use your weakness as a dating disaster excuse. Instead, use it to identify your STRENGTHS and center your dating game around those, avoiding your weaknesses like the dating plague.

Dating tips for guys: Master your inner game. Inner game is not about meeting or approaching women, actually, it is about BEING the kind of man that women are naturally attracted to in the first place. Men who are actually successful with women and dating have learned how to take control of this portion of their life, hone their attraction skills and land more dates than any other guy they know. All because they have taken control of their inner game. They key to a tight inner game is the elimination of your own insecurities. Understand that you do not need others to validate you, in the dating, sex, attraction or any other arena of your life. You are your own validation, your own ruler and your own boss. Once you truly understand that, you will start attracting the women, because what women really want is an alpha male.

Dating Tips for guys: Silence your “Inner Critic”. This goes hand in hand with getting your inner game together. If you want to be successful with women and dating, if you do not want to remain single and perusing the personals all your life, then you have got to shut this jackass up. What does he say? Things like, "Oh, she will never go for me" "She thinks I am a loser" "She is too hot for me" and all those other negative, attraction busting thoughts. The truth about women and dating? You fail BECAUSE of thoughts like these, not because the thoughts are actually true. If a woman looks at you and sees that you are nervous about approaching her - immediately she knows that SHE is higher status than you - and any hope for scoring with her goes right down that singles-bar toilet. Project and THINK what you want her to see and she will see it.

Dating tips for guys: Get Her Talking – And Interested In YOU. Ok - approaching women is like the number one thing on the minds of all single guys, right? So - the trick is to be different than the masses. How do you accomplish this? By making your approach seem not like an approach at all. Most single men will approach a woman and say something totally stupid, like, "Hey baby - what's your sign?" (Ok, if you ever hear this line being said in seriousness, you have my permission to walk up, punch him in the mouth and look at the girl and tell her you just did mankind a huge favor). Anyway - the key is to make your approach unlike Dufus Man's. Instead, approach a woman, and ask her opinion on something to get her talking.

This is what’s become known as the “Opinion Opener”, which is simply walking up to a woman and asking her opinion on something. Try this: “Hey, I don’t mean to bother you, but I need a female opinion on this. Who do you think lies more, men or women?” The great thing about this is it doesn’t “feel” like a pick-up line to a woman. You’re just asking for her opinion. As a bonus, most women love to share their opinions, so you will also be making her feel good, which is great news for YOU. And whatever you do - DO NOT give her compliment.

Dating advice for guys: Gauge Her Interest BEFORE You Approach! DUH, right? Not really. Here is a GREAT little trick you can use to gauge a woman's interest and decide whether or not she is worth approaching. It is called the “Eye Contact Test”. It’s based on the idea that a lot of human communication happens not through words, but through body language, or specifically, EYE CONTACT. This is so simple is stupid. Make eye contact with a woman… and hold it… and simply smile. If she smiles back, guess what? She’s communicating that she’s open to talking to you. It’s that simple. According to Joseph Matthews and David Deangelo of Double Your Dating, when a woman smiles at you BEFORE you start talking to her, it’s really hard for her to react negatively to you when you come over to talk (unless, of course, you start acting like a jackass).