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of the biggest fear that men have in dating is the fear of the
CONVERSATION. Where do you go to learn how to have a conversation? Or
how to start a conversation? What do I say to a girl when I meet her?
What do we talk about? What happens if….gasp…there is SILENCE? I know, I hear
the horror movie music playing in the background too.
Here
are some great dating and conversation tips to remember when
having that ever awkward "first conversation" with a girl you are
attracted to from none other than Alpha Man Carlos Xuma
First
of all, relax. Think of
conversation as building rapport with a woman, getting to connect
with her on a level deeper than simple physical awareness. Easier said than
done, I know, but the fact is that if you are uncomfortable or uptight, you are
not going to be able to be involved in a naturally evolving conversation.
Keep in mind that the girl you are approaching is going to be nervous too,
especially if she is attracted to you as well. So get comfortable, and create
an out for yourself if you need to (remember this, that is a great piece of
dating advice called the time constraint). Tell her you only have a
few minutes and set a timer on your phone. If the conversation is as dead as
your great grandmother's tulips, then you have a great excuse to jet in about 5
minutes. If the conversation is great, then you can tell the girl that
your timer can wait.
Next
- Carlos Xuma tells us to make a list of things to chat about beforehand! Before you venture out to a
bar or club, sit down for a few minutes and put together a list of "conversation
starter" material. What keeps conversations going? Not questions like
"What do you do for a living". YAWN!!! Try open ended questions and
conversation topics that she is not going to hear every day. This will do
several things - it will spark her attraction and interest in you, and
like an 18 letter word in a scrabble game, open the conversation up to
many possibilities the further you go. Here are some examples:
· Do
you think men or women lie more?
· If
you were stranded on a deserted island and could have one of the following, what
would you have? A pen and paper, a radio or a monkey? Why?
· What
animal would you be if you could be an animal?
· Who
is a person you admire and why?
· Who
is someone you despise and why?
The
conversation, though, is basically the clothing for the real animal
beneath - attraction. The conversation has got to be interesting to both
parties. Keep her on her toes, bust her balls and use Cocky Comedy with her.
Maintain eye contact with your date or potential date, use casual and light
touches on her arm or hand to keep building the attraction as the night goes on.
Later!
Carlos Xuma
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