Do you know what the second biggest complaint from women is about online
dating?
It's that each and every man they see seems like every other man they see!
They all do the same things, say the same things, list the same things, IM
the same things, and in the end, seem like the same guy. And this applies no
matter what you look like, what you wear, what you drive, or what you do for
a living.
To millions of these beautiful women online who get net attention, we're all
just an Army of Dilberts, living in our online dating cubicles, trying to
get by. Isn't that how you sometimes feel when you're writing your profile,
or sending an email? I used to.
Well, it's time to DEFECT!
You need to ABSOLUTELY STAND OUT. How to capture her attention and build it,
step by step until she can't get enough of learning about you? You need to
be the guy who's got a way of speaking, and of hearing her.
And you've got to start with your profile. Guys make all sorts of mistakes
when writing their own profiles. Stupid mistakes. I call them Blunders
because they are so incredibly easy to detect and avoid, but they get made
every day by most men anyway. But some of these blunders are repeated over
and over again, sinking most guys like rusty battleships.
Women read these profiles and assess who you are by what you write. If you
write like an idiot, they'll think you're an idiot. So here's what to look
out for. Read this list -- it's the bare minimum you need to rise over --
then go check you're your own profile.
1) Don't misspell
Dude, use your spell-check, stick your file in Word and spell-check it. Are
you a computer idiot? Use a dictionary. Women hate it when men misspell. It
shows sloppiness, an inattention to detail. And women like attention to
detail – just consider their predilection for oh, decoration and foreplay.
Get it? The two words I see misspelled most often – "independent" and
"definitely".
2) Avoid clichés
You are not a "hopeless romantic", a "gentleman and a scholar", or "a boy
next door". Please! It's been done.
3) Avoid general, generic language
You don't like walks on the beach, a nice wine with dinner, feel comfortable
in jeans and t shirt. Dude – go read some guy sites and see how often men
write the same thing. They are clueless. More importantly, to an attractive
woman online, they are the same as all the other… invisible.
4) Be precise in your language
Say "Chicago Blues" – which is better than "blues". "Shiraz" is better than
"wine". (no Chardonnay (feminine), no Merlot (lazy)). The Palms is better
than Vegas. Ribeye steak is better than mere steak. Azure is better than
blue. Aspen grove is better than forest. The more precisely you can paint
the environment of your life, the more tactilely and sensually her
imagination will project her into it.
5) Be dynamic in your language
That means active verbs. Verbs that pack power, action, movement. Avoid
static words like "is" "are" and "have" – those are static verbs. Use
dynamic verbs – USE A THESAURUS to make your sentences sizzle.
6) Show, Don't Tell
Possibly the most important writing rule of all. Don't list. Don't talk
about. Don't tell about yourself. Show yourself. If you're funny, don't say
you're funny – be funny. If you love your little nephew don't (cliché) say
he's the "light of my life" – paint a picture of something you and he do
together or how he makes you laugh. This is the difference between George
Clooney coming on screen and telling you the story of Ocean's 11, and George
Clooney in the action of it. Which is more interesting? Show your life,
don't describe it. Write little movie scenes in your profile. She will be
drawn into that movie.
Got it? Now, there are lots more specific techniques to increase mystery,
ignite desire, and incite to action. And to truly stand out online, you'll
need to master those, too.
Don't waste your time dating online if you aren't going to make the effort
to do it right.
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Grant Adams is author of the wildly effective
"DAO System Manual: How to Stand Out Online So That By The
Time You Meet, She's Already Yours"
Learn more at
http://www.DeepAttractionOnline.com
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