David Deangelo, well known “dating Guru” from Double Your Dating, recently interviewed Payton Kane, radio show host and owner of the popular Seduce and Conquer system. David Deangelo’s interview with Payton Kane was overflowing with tons of helpful dating tips for men.
One of the first things that Kane reveals is a simple little trick about approaching hot women. He says to approach good looking women as if they are “Ugly Bush Pigs.” The entire idea behind this perception key is that men have no trouble approaching women they are not attracted to. Adding the factor of attraction is what makes approaching hot women difficult. Payton Kane insists the entire theory is based upon the tried and true adage that “When you want them, they don’t want you. When you don’t want them, they want you.” His concept is affectionately called the “Balls Factor” , using the technique of picturing an attractive woman as ugly will enable the man to get the gumption to approach her.
Payton Kane also tells David Deangelo that there are several factors that greatly affect a man’s initial approach to women. These factors are the way a man dresses, the way a man talks and tried and true body language. Kane says if you learn how to master these three things, you will never again have trouble approaching a woman.
The dress factor, or looking good, actually has nothing to do with the looks that your mother gave you. What it means is that a single man needs to learn how to dress himself in order to emphasize his good features and make himself more attractive. (One killer attraction tip – get a tan. Tans make you look healthy, vigorous and active, and these attributes are appealing to women of every level.)
The way a man talks means that a man should make every attempt to sound intelligent, but above all – charismatic! Convey that you are excited about yourself, and she will be too. Next, body language is important along the same lines because body language conveys confidence, attitude and status in every move you make.
Kane tells Deangelo that the worst thing a man can do when trying to get a woman’s interest is to give her a compliment. He believes that once a woman feels that she can have you (which giving her a compliment will tell her) then she immediately loses interest and is looking for a bigger challenge from someone else.
So what does a single guy do to get the attention of hot women? Kane gives the listener several methods. The first method goes back to revealing interest. If a man conveys interest in a woman, she sees him as an easy catch and loses interest. Why? It all comes back to STATUS. Women are biologically BUILT to look for higher status in a mate (or date). If he is submissive – i.e. – complimenting her, chasing her, wanting her – then he is lower status than she is. However, if he is higher status, if she has to pursue him to get him, if she has to fit into his life and his schedule, then he is higher status and therefore worthwhile for her to chase.
One way a man can convey higher status is simply by communicating no interest when he first sees her. Kane says, “Rejection is really one of the keys to getting laid”. Do this by breaking eye contact with her before she can break contact with you like you are bored. Give her a look of amusement or even mild disdain. Walk away. Talk to another woman in front of her. If she talks to you, talk to her for a bit, and then dismiss her. Tell her to go away! Then watch as she stews in it and can’t help herself from coming back for more!
Eventually, of course, you will allow her to worm her way into your graces. One of David Deangelo’s key elements to develop attraction with a woman is to tease a woman (playfully) and use his Cocky & Funny techniques. Payton Kane also encourages this, busting on the girls and having a good time with her once you have her attention. Kane adds to this theory, though, adding a seduction element to David Deangelo’s method that he feels are essential to seducing women. And remember, this can be done whether meeting women online, or in person!
