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Pick Up Made Easy

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One of the great misfortunes (in a man’s mind) is that beautiful women are rarely found alone. Most men waste time waiting for the woman they are interested in approaching to be alone, or trying to plot how they will remove her from the group of friends she is with. Not only is this a waste of time, but it is a very predatory behavior, and viewed as a threat by most women.

Instead, you need to learn to approach the entire group of women in order to eventually single out the one you want. However, the task of approaching a group of women in a bar or club, or anywhere else, is a daunting task for most single men. Here are some helpful tips and hints on how to approach a group of women anywhere, any time.

Approaching Women Tip #1: Use A “Time Constraint”

One way to make your approach seem like less of….well….an approach….is to use a method I call the “Time Constraint”. What this does is it puts the women at ease because hey see you as a temporary threat or fixture. They know you will be leaving soon, so they don’t have to worry about finding ways to blow you off. They relax and let their guard down, and any guy with imagination can figure out how beneficial that is to the dating scene.

Simply say (at the beginning of your approach) something like, “I can only stay for a minute because I’ve got to get back to my friends,” or “I’ve gotta run in a second, but…”.

Approaching Women Tip #2: Approach With Energy

When you approach a group of women, make sure your energy level is equal to or slightly higher than theirs. Nobody wants to talk to someone who is going to bring them

Down nor do they want to talk to someone who doesn’t “fit”.

Approach Tip #3: Keep Everyone Warm

In a group setting, you need to make sure that every individual in the group gets attention and stays engaged… or someone WILL become your enemy, or at the least, lose their interest and try to move on, bringing the group with them. When you approach a group of people, usually it is because there is one single woman within the group that you are attracted to. This is the one you want to pay the LEAST attention to when you approach the group.

Start by chatting with her friends…this gives you a chance to demonstrate your personality and to become a challenge for her by teasing her and using Cocky Comedy techniques to bust on her and boost HER level of attraction to you.

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Meeting Women Online

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David Deangelo recently interviewed a gentleman named Grant Adams in his Interviews With Dating Gurus series.  Grant Adams, who is also known in the dating world as Adam Gilad, as it turns out, knows quite a bit about how to meet and attract women –      especially when it comes to meeting women online.  Grant Adams tells David DeAngelo that he uses a particular communication style online that “short-circuits” a woman’s defenses… and simultaneously super charges her attraction.

Not only that, but Adam has figured out simple changes that ANY guy can make to his pictures, profile, and emails that dramatically increase the amount of responses you get from women almost instantly – so YOU can begin meeting women online.

Here are some killer dating tips for meeting women online from Grant Adams:

1. Make your strengths and attributes really stand out.  Most guys described themselves in SELF-CRITICAL ways. They put themselves down, saying things like, “My name is Eric. You can call me Mr. Lonely…” This is a downer and will not help with meeting women online.  Grant found that if he could convey his strengths in an attractive, factual, and sensual way… he’d be eons ahead of his “competition” online. And that’s exactly what he did.   Take these strengths and show-case them in your profile or online and then COMBINE them with a vision of romance that paints a picture of a life that’s more exciting than the life she’s living.  This shows her that you are not only a man who knows who he is, but that you’re a guy who can bring her a new realization of how great life can be.  Communicating to women on this level drives them absolutely CRAZY… and you need to try it out.

2. Show them your confidence!  Grant Adams believes that every guy has things about him that are attractive to the average woman. The only problem is we usually don’t know what they are. And even if we do, we don’t know how to communicate them in a way that AMPLIFIES or MAGNIFIES them… in a cool, not self-involved sort of way. Grant Adams suggested when trying to meet women online that when you describe your confidence and strengths, don’t use weak – yet all too common – phrases like “some people say I am…” or “I’m sort of…” Instead, demonstrate that you’re a guy who knows who you are by describing yourself in bold, clear terms. Don’t exaggerate… but don’t be wishy-washy either. And Grant pointed out something very interesting.  He said that when you focus on your strengths instead of your weaknesses the people around you will ALSO focus on your strengths.

3. Expand Your “Self”.  Here’s another killer dating tip Grant shared with David Deangelo.  Never let a woman online define you.   Ever seen a profile with the headline “Skater Guy” or “Nature Lover” or “Dr. Doolittle”? Most guys love to label themselves with a characteristic. But the problem is that once a woman can easily label you, much of the MYSTERY is gone… and she just won’t be as interested.  Grant Adams says that is one of the basic laws of attraction, whether you are meeting women online or in person.  However, if a woman reads your words and gets a sense that you’re deeper than your words say – that your words suggest more than they describe – then you’re in good shape. Relay that you can’t be defined – that you’re unpredictable and dynamic – and she’ll become irresistibly curious about all of the interesting side-streets of your personality waiting to be discovered.

4. Show Her You’re Sensual.  And yes, you can do this when meeting women online!  Every woman wants a man who appreciates the “senses”… a man so “in touch”, that he can ignite powerful, passionate feelings inside of her. But if you’ve ever done any “reconnaissance” online and read other guys’ profiles – I’m sure you’ve seen that most men have NO CLUE about how to attract women… let alone “ignite feelings” in a woman who they are trying to meet. Lucky you!

So how do you do this? Well unfortunately, you can’t just TELL a woman directly “Oh, I can make you feel great.” You must demonstrate your ability to make her feel good through the way you COMMUNICATE. Grant says that to create feelings in women over the web, you need to use vivid details. For instance, he suggests that if you talk about the food you enjoy, don’t just say you like fine wine… talk about how you love how a fine wine changes textures as it rolls around in your mouth.  If you talk about a walk on the beach, don’t just say you like walking on the beach, describe in detail how you love the feeling of warm sand between your toes. Grant Adams suggests using sensual words like bare, ripe, supple, soft, sway, feline, tender, etc. When you use words like these, although you’re not talking directly about sex… you send a strong message that you know how to make her feel GREAT.   And that’s what every woman wants to hear… in a subtle, mature, sensual way.  This takes meeting women online and makes it more real to them, more immediate.

5. Create An Electrifying Life.  Another point Grant made that seems obvious, but most guys miss is that if you want to be interesting to a woman, you have to lead an interesting life… and do interesting things. For example, let’s say there’s a woman you see online who you want to meet.  She says she’s adventurous but you really haven’t done many adventurous things in your life. If you met her, you wouldn’t be able to connect on the “adventure” level.   Grant suggests to step out of your comfort zone and DO something adventurous… jump out of a plane… go bungee jumping… do something that’s “radical” and BOLD. Now you have a very interesting experience you can talk about, not only with HER… but with EVERY woman you meet online or in person for the rest of your life. Another way to expand your horizons and make yourself more interesting is to take some classes on things you find interesting and that women might find interesting as well -like cooking, wine, or art.   Most men are so afraid to try something or to take a class of any kind out of fear of embarrassment. But if you show a woman that you’re willing to “step out” there and expand who you are… it makes a DRAMATIC impact. Even simple things like mentioning that you looked at a book on cooking, or visited a wine-tasting website, show that you’re the type of guy who is constantly evolving and improving yourself which ALL women find very attractive.

How To Get A Woman’s Phone Number And Email Address Within Three Minutes Of Meeting Her

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By David DeAngelo

Let me start off by telling you something interesting:

I’ve personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers. I’ve found that EMAIL addresses are far better (I still get the phone number too, of course).

Let me explain.

I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.

If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a minute or two (if I’m in a hurry). I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this that GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESN’T EQUAL SUCCESS.

You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get from men, and in my personal experience, women act different on the phone than they do in person.

When you call a woman for the first time, she’ll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. It’s almost like she’s a different person than the one you met.

I’ve found that getting an EMAIL address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It’s almost as if women appreciate it that you’ve taken the time to think about what you’re going to say when you write an email to them, and they think of you more like someone they know.

The other benefit of email is that it can be written and answered anytime.

If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email can be answered anytime. And I’ve found that emails are answered FAR more often than voicemail messages.

HERE’S THE HOW TO:

After I’ve talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I’ll often say something like “Well, it was nice meeting you. I’m going to get back to my friends.”

They usually don’t know what to do, as they’re used to guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say “It was nice meeting you too…” Then, just as I’m turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say “HEY! Do you have email?”

The “HEY!” is a bit surprising, and “Do you have email” is non-threatening. In fact, I’m technically asking her if she HAS email, not if she’ll GIVE IT TO ME.

If she says “yes,” I take out a pen and paper and say “Great, write it down for me” and I have her write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the ‘yes’ that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they’ve almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE’S IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say “Write your number down there too.”

When you ask for email, it’s very low risk for a woman, so she’ll think “Fine, I’ll do that.” Most women will give out an email address without thinking about it, because they know that they can choose later to just not answer.

The magic of asking them to write their phone number down WHILE they’re in the middle of writing down their email is all about the psychology of human behavior.

She’s already mentally said “OK, I’ll give you my email address”… and she’s in the middle of writing it down. When you say “And just write your number down there too” it’s only NATURAL to just write it.

In other words, it’s a MUCH smaller step than giving out the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this simple move, but it works like magic! You will have women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice.

Here’s a great add-on to make sure you’re getting a real phone number and not a pager or voicemail:

As she’s writing down her phone number I say “Is this a number that you actually answer?” If she looks at me and hesitates, or says that it’s her “voicemail or pager number,” then I say “Look, write your real number down. It’s going to be OK, I’ll only call you nine times a day…” They laugh and usually give me their real number.

Now, if she answers my first question and says “No, I don’t have email” then I bust on them and say “Well, do you have electricity?” This is a GREAT opportunity to use humor.

Then I say “Well, OK then. I like email better, but I’ll take your regular phone number. It’s so damn hard to reach people on the phone these days.”

Just realize that all you have to do is ask.

Like I said, I’ve tried all kinds of things. And I’ve gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone number. I’ve gotten to the point where I can often do this in a minute or two – no kidding!

Now that you know the sequence, write it down with the words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each response.

Many guys have asked me “But what do I tell her as a reason why I want her number or email?” I’ve never had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows why you asked. If she doesn’t give it to you, then she also knew why you asked.

Just assume that this is the case.

If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way, you’ll get a lot of emails and phone numbers.

Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it’s small, classy, and women love it!

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David DeAngelo is the author of “Double Your Dating – What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women”, and has taught thousands of men how to be more successful with women and dating.
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Copyright 2008 David DeAngelo Communications Inc., All Rights Reserved. “David DeAngelo” and “Double Your Dating” are trademarks used by David DeAngelo Communications Inc.

Get Her To OPEN Your Email!

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Are you having trouble getting women to OPEN your emails?

Are you are struggling to FIGURE OUT what you need to do, so women will actually read the emails you send them?

Or maybe you’re having problems FINDING real, practical, “no BS” advice that really works?

If you answered YES to any of the above, Don’t get bent out of shape on this yet… I want you to know 2 things:

1. This problem is easy to fix.

2. You’re not alone. Most other guys make the same mistake 🙂

A mere 15 characters of text (or less) may be all that stands between you and meeting the woman of your dreams.

Getting a woman’s attention on virtually any online dating site is becoming harder than ever. And guess what? There’s a good chance…

YOUR EMAILS MIGHT BE INVISIBLE!

The good news is that you can fix this right now. I will get you up to speed quickly.

Don’t worry, it’s nothing painful. In fact, the advice I’m about to share with you will almost guarantee more women will open and read your emails

… Without sending any more emails than you’re sending right now, without following 864 steps, doing the MoonWalk, or really doing any more “work” than you’re doing right now for that matter.

It’s really easy.

I always say it: ONE advantage is all you need to start meeting women online, and to separate yourself from the masses.

All you need is one little “trick”, a competitive advantage, to get ahead of the competition.

If you can double the # of women who read your emails, then you can be just “average” with everything else, and you will STILL meet women online.

Online dating can be easy and fun for you… if you use the right methods. In a world where everyone seems to be isolated in cars, office cubicles, surgically attached to their blackberry’s, cell phones and ipods —

WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO GRAB WOMEN’S ATTENTION?

Fact is, it’s pretty hard to meet women online. It’s getting nasty out there competition-wise. And here is an unfair advantage handed to you on a silver platter.

You’re about to discover something most guys NEVER figure out… until it’s too late.

And, guess what? A lot of guys blame themselves when they don’t get the results they had hoped for right away.

They think, “maybe I’m doing something wrong”…. or “women are not interested in me because… I’m not good looking”…. (or fill in any other reason you can think of).

Maybe you’re frustrated and confused on just HOW to meet women online yourself right now, maybe you’re struggling at this very crucial point in your life.

I *KNOW* what that’s like. I went through the same thing. And all I can say is this:

IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!

What you’ve been taught and what you’ve been studying about online dating has probably gotten in your way more than it’s helped.

I can’t emphasize this strongly enough: those who ACT on the specific recommendations I make in this newsletter will have a cutting-edge advantage over their “so called” competition.

Ok, let’s get down to business.

POP QUIZ

What is the first rule of online dating?

Do you know?

Answer: Your email MUST get opened.

The first rule of meeting women online is that your emails MUST get opened — and unless you know how to “cut through the clutter”, your email won’t ever be seen or heard.

It doesn’t matter how great your message is if nobody knows about it.

Or more accurately, that killer email… the one you just spent 15 minutes writing and thought was so great, was completely for nothing, UNLESS it gets opened.

One of the many observations I’ve made about how to get a woman’s attention online is you MUST understand this from a woman’s point of view. I want you to consider this for a moment…

Take any cute woman at a party. Most don’t have 100 guys lined up, waiting to talk to them.

The only real difference is… on virtually any online personals site -THEY DO!

In fact, these same women are probably getting 10, 15, 20 TIMES the amount of emails you get… each day.

Imagine if… all of a sudden, you’ve never had much attention from women before, you aren’t expecting much, and then… BAM!

You check your inbox and in less in than an hour, 20, 40, 60… 100… 140 emails from new people all wanting to get to know you.

I hope that just hit you like a sledgehammer right upside your head.

… And why am I bringing this up?

Well, in case you haven’t guessed it already, something you say or do has to reach out and GRAB the quality women online.

Now let’s switch gears and talk about ways you can “stack the deck” in your favor. If you follow what I’m about to tell you, expect to get more of your emails open and read.

Here’s the scoop:

If you’re like most people these days, you can barely keep up with the sheer volume of email flooding your inbox on a daily basis.

Most people sort through emails by looking at the SUBJECT LINE first. From there we often delete anything that doesn’t immediately capture our attention.

Okay… so what does this have to do with meeting women online?

Well… a LOT.

Because the goal of your subject line is to create anticipation and suspense. And the better it is, the better the response will be to your emails

Here’s the logic, and you should really listen closely …

When writing your subject lines, you want women so overcome with curiosity they can’t help but wonder…

“WHAT THE HELL IS INSIDE THAT EMAIL?”

Now, I want to talk with you about three expert techniques or “shortcuts” you should consider when writing your subject lines.

Tactic #1: Your subject line must be intriguing.

Lets face it, if your subject line doesn’t make her CURIOUS, if it doesn’t have an air of “mystery” to it, not too many women are going to want to open it.

Make it intriguing, suspenseful, think of it as a “cover story” you’d find in one of the tabloids. It grabs your attention and you somehow want to know more. (even if you don’t want to admit it).

Tell her JUST ENOUGH to make her have to know more. The only way to know more is to of course, open your email.

The reason this is so effective is because it’s based on the number one thing women crave…
CURIOSITY.

Need I say more?

Let me give you a great “real-life” example I use:

Subject: “I like your style, but…”
Subject: “I liked your profile, but…”

Women read this and wonder, “ok… you liked it, but… WHAT?”

Tactic #2: Make a promise

Let women know they can expect something interesting inside the email. The question you want to answer in the subject line (and emails for that matter) is:

“WHY should I read your email?”

Think about this from a woman’s point of view:

1. What’s in it for HER?

2. Why should she even care about your email?

3. Why should she bother reading it?

It must make a promise.

Tactic #3: Don’t try TOO hard.

Oh, this is the biggest mistake most guys make.

Most guys try to be too “cute”. They THINK they’re really clever and coming off the like a guy who gets it…

But women see through this immediately and see this as a BIG RED FLAG. They think you’re trying too hard to get something from them.

Women will dismiss you and delete your email because they are convinced you don’t “get it”.

Just remember, it’s a balancing act, but in the end, “less is more”.

Now it’s up to you.

Take your new tactical ‘subject line’ strategy and put it into play and you will enjoy an immediate advantage.

Now.

Don’t get stuck with your mind racing full of cool new ideas. You need to put those ideas to work for you right away!

Just reading this newsletter will not somehow “magically” transform your online love life…

It’s up to you to take action.

And like any other factors in life, in the very beginning it might be a little awkward.

I know this is probably a lot to digest, but it only provides a taste of what you’ll find inside Insider Internet Dating.

My point is this:

If “picking up” women in bars and clubs is NOT your thing, if it doesn’t come natural for you…

And if what I’m saying makes sense to you… and you’d like to learn how to learn the skills to meet women online… while at the same time overcoming the obstacles that can hold guys like you and me back from the success with women we deserve… then you need to seriously consider getting the Meeting Women Online program.

If you’re as smart as a fifth grader – you can do this.  All I know is it works great for me and I think it will work for you too.

Pick Up Made Easy

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One of the (many) reasons that men often have problems approaching women revolves around the fact that they are just too damn nervous. I mean, really, what is going through your head when you are about to approach a woman?

“Does she like me?”  “Is she single?”  “Does she think I’m attractive?”

“What is she like?”  “Is she going to think I’m an ass?”

If your nervous or scared when you are approaching or meeting women, it is because of…

UNCERTAINTY.

You don’t know how the girl you want to approach is going to respond! So you are scared because you don’t know what is going to happen, you might be rejected, humiliated, turned down or whatever. Well, its time to learn a great trick to get over this.

This little trick is so simple, ANYONE can do it! And it’s a 100% fear free tactic.

Ready for it? Good, because here it comes…

***The Eye Contact Opener***

Everyone knows that eye contact is important, but something strange happens when we make eye contact with another individual. What happens? We feel obligated to give them some sort of response. Because of this, you can use eye contact as a GREAT WAY to MEET WOMEN and find out if she is attracted to you before you ever walk up to her.

So here’s what you do…

The next time you see a beautiful woman you want to approach, LOCK your eyes on her! Even if she is not looking at you, just literally stare at her eyes. When most people are out in public, they will generally look about at their surroundings to remain aware of what is going on around them. This is an instinctual thing we all do. Eventually, the woman you’re locking your eyes onto will look around to check out the area – and BOOM! When she comes to YOUR sexy mug, her eyes will automatically lock onto yours and the eye contact will be jarring.

Then, you simply SMILE at her.

If she smiles back, guess what? She’s OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER. If she doesn’t smile back, then move on to someone who is receptive.

Use this moment, if she is receptive, to greet her and move into your opening lines, and viola! REJECTION FREE APPROACHES.

This approach technique works especially well in normal situations like grocery stores, coffee shops, book stores, etc. Even though it can work just as well in bars and clubs (so long as the light is bright enough that she can actually SEE you!).

So, next time you go out, do this with every attractive woman you see. Lock your eyes onto them and see what happens. I guarantee you, you’ll be surprised by the results that a little body language can generate.