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Bad Dating Habits That You Need to Break

March 7, 2014 By GetTheGirl

If your past few relationships haven’t worked out, it might be time for change. We can all get into bad habits sometimes but, if you are aware of yours, they are easy to break. Take a closer look at your dating style to see if you need to make some revamps.

Are You Always Free?

It is great to go with the flow but there should be more to your life than just dating. If you are free every single night, it might send off the wrong message. Your potential date is going to think that you have no social life or that you just drop your friends whenever you get a date.

Keep yourself busy. You probably have a few interests so get out at pursue them. Go out with your friends after work. Don’t just sit home waiting for the phone to ring.

Are You Too Busy to Date?

You should have a couple of free nights per week to get out and date. If your schedule doesn’t allow for that, now isn’t the time to be dating. Everyone has an overbooked week from time to time but if you are going to start a relationship you need to make time for the other person.

If being in a relationship is important to you, you need to reprioritize your schedule. Spend a little less time at work. You need to have some downtime if you are going to lead a well-rounded life.

You Are Too Focused

Attention is great but be careful with giving too much of a good thing. Don’t message your partner all day long. Don’t stalk them online. Even if you are doing something that you think is going undetected, stop it. It isn’t good for you and it might just end up hurting your relationship.

You are Never Satisfied

There are a lot of deal breakers in dating and you should have a list of your own. If this list spans over a few pages though, you definitely have a problem. Relax your standards a bit. Don’t get rid of them altogether but keep an open mind. Focus just on finding someone who makes you happy and shares your values.

You Are Stuck in the Past

It is easy to unconsciously compare your current partner to those that you have had in the past. When you first start dating, you are going to make assessment on the person but try to keep it neutral. Look at your partner as an individual, not a replica of one of your exes.

Check In with Your Friends

If you really aren’t sure what the problem is, ask an honest friend. Everyone has a few annoying habits but do you have one that goes beyond annoying? Do you drink too much when you go out? Are you complaining all of the time without realizing it? No one needs to pick you apart but sometimes you just need an outside perspective to make you aware of something.

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Is She the One: Six Signs That You Are In Love

February 25, 2014 By GetTheGirl

Your relationship has been amazing lately. You are starting to think that there might actually be a future with this woman. You think that you might be ready to take the next step but are you in love? It is easy to confuse infatuation with love but if the feeling just isn’t fading, you might have found the woman for you.

Love and infatuation are great feelings, but the outcome is totally different.

Sign One: You Are Terrified

You are terrified that you will lose her. Maybe she will lose interest in you? Or even worse, you have a constant fear something bad might happen to her.

Love isn’t always all positive feelings. When you start to get deeper feelings for someone, you might also start to feel freaked out. If you don’t quite know how she feels about you, it is enough to make you panic.

Sign Two: You Will Do Anything

Everything that she suggests sounds amazing. She tells you that she is at the dry cleaners and you honestly wish that you were there with her. Everything

You both are likely having the same feelings, so relax with it and enjoy “new love”.

is better when she is around. It doesn’t matter what you two are planning to do, you know that you will go for it as long as it means spending more time together.

Sign Three: She Makes You Want to Be a Better Person

You have been blown away by her from the moment that you met. She is such an amazing catch that you are worried that she is not really in league. You start to worry that she is going to realize that you aren’t good enough for her. You want to get ahead in your career now. You want to start working out. You want to actual plan and get ready for the future.

Sign Four: You Care About Her Happiness

Make sure you do not smother her – pace yourself with showing your affection.

You are interested in how her day was. You go out of your way to do nice things for her. You probably always cared about her happiness but if it becoming a priority for you now, something has changed. If you find yourself spending more time thinking about what would make her happy than what would make you happy, you have definitely found someone special.

Sign Five: She Is Always On Your Mind

Everything reminds you of her now. When something big happens, you can’t wait to tell her about it. When you hear about a concert coming to town next month, you think about taking her to it. You have started to talk about things in terms of “we” rather than just “I.” Your friends and family are starting to know everything about her and definitely think of you two as a couple now.

Sign Six: No One Else Compares

You probably still notice attractive women but it just isn’t the same anymore. You have stopped looking for someone better. You can’t imagine your future with someone else. When you think about your exes, you are just grateful to be with her now and you are definitely glad that you single days are over.

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Get a Girlfriend without Making a Fool of Yourself

January 31, 2014 By GetTheGirl

Though there is a lot of dating advice on the net, it’s usually in the form of ‘pickup advice’, i.e. advice for men to pick up girls often using pick up lines. Now there is a conceptual problem with this method, namely that men are usually seeking the attention/favors (or whatever fancy word you’d like to use) of only one female! Often, this ‘pickup advice’ also ends up proving detrimental for men, since most women can see through these gimmicks very easily. So much so that even if a woman seems interested in a pickup line, men find themselves perpetually wondering ‘Did she actually buy it, or is she just playing along?’

So how do you impress a girl and make her fall for you?

Point one: you don’t try to ‘impress’ a girl. Power is largely a male preoccupation and women seldom ever subscribe or succumb to it. Though woman fall for all kind of guys – funny guys, intense guys, strong guys, short guys, tall guys; they do not fall for a guy because he impresses them. What you need to do is be yourself and let her know the kind of person you are; for this, you’ll need confidence.

Women like men who behave like themselves, and especially like those who are proud to be themselves. This is exactly the reason why sugar daddy – sugar babe relations are so much in vogue today; God knows that older guys seldom, if at all, have something more impressive to flaunt than their younger counterparts, but what they do have is an ample amount of confidence obtained through many years of grind. No surprises then that women tend to get into these relationships even though they risk losing out on the physical front. Oh, and a little bit of advice, the thing we term ‘charm’ is nothing other than the manifestation of self-confidence.

Self-confidence is just one part of getting the girl you always wanted, though it is a rather large part. Apart from confidence, you will have to make her take notice of you. This brings us to perhaps the biggest step a man has to take – the first move. If you’ve never spoken to her, gird your loins and go up to her, “Hey, I’m Jack, I thought it’d be nice to know each other,” is a great start. On the other hand, if you and the girl speak on a day-to-day basis, maybe you could suggest something like, “Would you like a drink after work perhaps?” However, be prepared for an answer in the negative; it’s not for no reason that they say that the first step is the hardest step.

The proposal

Once you’ve used your charm over her and made the first move, things should come to a stage where you will either want to take the next step and make her your girlfriend, or you’ll realize that the both of you just aren’t compatible with one another. If the latter happens to be true in your case, you just shrug your shoulders and move on (‘plenty of fish in the sea’ remember?), like you’d have done if the first meeting didn’t work out too well.

However, if you intend on making her your girlfriend, you’ll need to ‘ask her out’. You don’t need to fall on one knee, etc.; the romantic poets were dealing with an entirely different species of women when they wrote all those masterpieces; your 21^st century woman is different. She likes an honest guy who can live up to the promises he makes. Don’t promise her anything you can’t fulfill later; keep it simple, honest and realistic and she’ll understand you. If you go over the top, she’ll just let you fly by. Truth and simplicity are languages of the heart, and that is exactly what she wants you to offer.

Top 6 Blind Date Fears

January 23, 2014 By GetTheGirl

If you can help it, don’t pull a “no-show”. It would be much better to end the date early.

Dating can be uneasy at the best of times, but blind dates can be particularly uncomfortable for us guys. Effectively, by arranging a blind date, you are agreeing to meet up and spend time with a woman you’ve never seen before and this brings with it a host of emotions, from fear and dread to excitement and happiness. Here are some of the most common fears faced by guys who are planning or going on blind dates:

1. Should I actually go?

Most men have experienced the ‘should I, shouldn’t I’ dilemma just before an early date of any kind and this can happen even if you know somebody, you like them and you’ve had a good time on previous dates. However, the impact of it being a “blind date” adds that element of the unknown. Reality begins to set in when you’re getting ready or you’re on your way to the date causing nerves and an increase in adrenalin. If you concentrate on it too much, turning around and running for the hills may seem like the easy way out. But hey, it’s one night that could out to be very worthwhile. Don’t plan anything longterm in your head right now – other than longterm being the end of the night. If you’re nervous, try to stay calm and rationalise the situation; if you don’t like the person, you don’t have to stay for long and you never have to see them again.

2. What shall I wear?

This is an age-old dilemma, which confronts most guys when they are going on a date with somebody they’ve never met before or they don’t know well. You want to look good, but you don’t want to look like you’ve made too much effort or go over the top. Try to ensure that you are comfortable and that you feel confident; if you’re not sure if something is a bit tight and you keep pulling at it before you even get out of the house, this is probably not the best choice, as you will only feel more self-conscious when you are on your date. Try to dress for the location and the situation; if you’re going to the cinema, for example, you don’t need to be really dressy.

3. How should I greet my date?

This is a quandary that faces many people in day-to-day situations, as well as on dates; should you kiss, kiss twice, air kiss, hug, shake hands or just politely say hi? It’s difficult to know how to react to people you’ve never met before, but often a polite kiss on the cheek is the best option, as a handshake is rather formal and business-like and a hug may be a little awkward at the first meeting.

4. What should we talk about?

A glass of wine helps you both relax a little and can help with the conversation.

To some men, conversation comes very easily, but if you struggle sometimes or you find that it takes you a while to feel confident enough to chat properly with a girl, then it’ a good idea to have some talking points at the ready. Ask your date about their work, their family and their interests and try to find some common ground; if you establish things you have in common, this should help conversation to flow more easily.

5. What should I do if there are awkward silences?

Silence can be very awkward when you first meet somebody, so try to stay relaxed, have some questions ready and choose a date, which provides talking points for your first meeting; going for dinner can be quite difficult with somebody you’ve never met, so why not consider something a bit less formal, like a trip to the zoo, go karting, a picnic in the park or a boat trip, or consider having another couple join you at the beginning of the date. Perhaps you were introduced by them.

6. What if I don’t find the girl attractive?

The emphasis is on looks with a blind date, as you have nothing else to judge your date on; however, just because you don’t find somebody attractive initially, doesn’t mean that you won’t grow to find them more attractive thru the night, as you uncover other aspects of them, such as their interests, their values and their character and personality. Never be put off somebody because they aren’t ‘your type’; you really don’t know that yet and the fact that you are dating means that things haven’t gone right in the past, so perhaps what you think is your type, actually isn’t the best match for you.

Once the blinders come off, you two might really hit it off!

If all goes well in the end and the two of you hit it off, it’s always important to remember to practice safe sex and use the right protection.

5 Key Steps to Meeting Women

January 20, 2014 By GetTheGirl

Have fun meeting new women and don’t take it too seriously…yet!

What guy doesn’t want to meet more women? Or find that special one. In general, most women feel the same way and would like to know more guys. It’s a part of human nature to want to meet new people and expand our network of friends and those we hope to make more than friends. But being humans, we have managed to turn this natural tendency into an insurmountable obstacle fraught with fear and anguish. But really, it doesn’t have to be that difficult or intimidating. Following are five ways to help you meet more women.

Don’t Be Afraid of Failure

Everybody fails. The problem is that the older we get the more adverse we are to it. As an example, look at how often babies fail in their efforts to learn to walk. But because they attach no importance to failure, they keep trying and eventually succeed.

Focus on your home runs and even your “walks” (you’re not out and you got to first base).

Need an adult sized example? Look no further than some of the greatest sports figures in history. Most home run kings were also strike out kings as well. Michael Jordan missed far more last second shots at the hoop than he hit, but who remembers the failures? What set them apart? They refused to quit in spite of missing the mark. Instead, these guys took failure in stride and refused to let it affect their winning attitude. They kept trying.

This is the same attitude you should have when it comes to meeting women. Like baseball, you’ll win some, lose some, and have a few rained out. Take it all in stride. There will be women that won’t be interested in you. Fret about it for a bit if you must, but don’t let it define who you are.

Instead of focusing on being turned down by a woman, consider what you could have done better. Learn from your mistakes and avoid them with your next interaction. Before you realize it you’ll be hitting that game winning shot at the buzzer.

Develop your Conversation Skills

Learn to listen. Women want to be valued. A sure way to make her feel special and score points at the same time is to listen to her. To prove you’ve been paying attention, start off your next sentence with a quick summary of her main point, such as “What you’re saying is…”

Also learn to give genuine complements. Every woman has something special about them that deserves attention. As you’re walking down the street or watching TV, for every woman you see, think of a compliment you could give them. The more you practice this strategy the better and more natural it will become. In no time you will even surprise yourself at how easy the complements roll off your tongue.

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Besides not meeting any women, you’ll get a stiff neck…

If you have never gone up to a stranger and said hello, make that a goal. If you have a hard time meeting women it is because you never try to meet women. Take your interaction with the opposite sex to the next level. If you are comfortable with giving a woman a friendly greeting, then force yourself to give her a compliment as well. Or when making eye contact with a woman, let your gaze linger for an extra split second.

Look Out for Your Looks

Your looks play a big part in your overall confidence. If you are going out in public where you may have the opportunity to interact with women, take stock of your appearance. Before you even utter a word to a woman, she is sizing you up by the other signals your body is sending, including your dress and grooming.

Before running out to the store or on an errand, change that shirt you’ve been wearing all weekend. Take a few minutes to clean up. If you are already hesitant about approaching a woman, you certainly won’t if you know you look like you’ve just been rescued off a deserted island.

Get Involved

Be the BEAR!

Go to where the women are. Take a lesson from a bear. When a bear is hungry, he goes to where the food is, whether it’s a stream full of fish or just eating berries. He doesn’t wait around and hope his quarry comes to him. He seeks it out. So the lesson? Be the bear. Get involved in activities and go to places where you are surrounded by women.

Brett Collins fancies himself an amateur psychologist when it comes to how men interact with women. On those rare moments when his two young daughters allow him some free time, he spends it writing on behalf of Hair Physicians.