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***SUCCESS STORY***

Hi Dave,

After reading your eBook, I put many of your tactics into action.  I work in a casino, so I get to meet a lot of beautiful young women.  Once I got over the initial reluctance to ask them for their email/phone number, I started getting quite a few numbers in a night.

The other night there was a woman who was so gorgeous, it hurt.  I walked over and chatted with her for a few minutes, then asked if she had email.  She said “Sure, I do!  Let me write it down for you.”  Without asking she put down her phone number as well.  The younger guys who work for me now call me a “God”.  They have no idea how I can do it.  Better looking guys are complaining that I get more phone numbers and emails in one night than they’ve got their whole lives.  One of the women was classic.

She looked like Sheryl Crow and Jennifer Aniston combined.  She complained she wasn’t winning on the machine and asked me what the secret was.  I said, “I don’t know the secret today, but if I figure it out, I’ll email it to you.  All I need now is your email address and your phone number in case email is down.”  She was taken aback, but asked for my pen and wrote it down.  Now instead of being alone on my days off, I have a lot of options which are all great ones.  Thanks for your advice and changing me out of wuss mode.

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DAVID DEANGELO’s COMMENTS:

Options are great, aren’t they?  And isn’t it amazing how a woman will give out her email and number if you just talk for a few minutes and then ask for it?  I can remember when I first started learning this stuff…  it seemed to me that no woman in her right mind would just give out her phone number to a complete stranger…

But then I discovered that no woman is actually IN her right mind!  (Or at least this is my logical deduction, because they all seem to give out their phone numbers and email addresses so readily!)  But to get back to the concept of “options”…

When you, as a guy, have options, it changes EVERYTHING.  When you have a great date that evening plus three women to email or call, things are TOTALLY DIFFERENT than when you have nothing going on.

You feel different, you talk different, and you communicate in a different way.  I believe that one of the reasons that attractive women come across so powerfully is because they KNOW that they have options.  And one of the benefits of learning how to be more successful with women and dating is that you learn to CREATE YOUR OWN OPTIONS.  When you know that you can walk out the door anytime you want and meet women, it frees up a lot of mental energy that was previously focused on other things.

Energy you can use to improve other areas of your life…

***COMMENT***

Dave my man,

I’ve been reading your advice for a while now and I have to laugh because I discovered several years ago cocky and funny really work.  I am naturally cocky and a smartass to boot, so it usually worked, but not always.  Then, my buddy told me something that drives ’em wild.  The dude is 6’3” and 300 lbs, and he always had a good looking woman on his arm.  His advice: Show a little interest, then ignore them.  Of course I over simplified it, but you know what I mean.  How many men have said that you can’t pick up women in a topless bar?  I did all the time, and rarely spent any more money than on drinks for myself.  And you can do this anywhere!  It doesn’t have to be in a bar, it can be used in the office, online dating sites, at the park, whatever!

The other guys are feeding the girls dollar bills and getting no where.  I’m just an average looking guy, but the honeys went for it like mad.  You are on the mark and anyone that has problems meeting women should heed your advice.  PS: I love the way you bust on the chicks that write to you and say how wrong you are!

D.

DAVID DEANGELO’s COMMENTS:

lol…  thanks!

Yes, women really love it when you show some interest, but then don’t hang on them.  Women, and especially attractive women, LOVE a good challenge.  It’s fun for them.  And yes, I do enjoy emails from women…  both positive and negative.  I just wish more women would write me!  (And I wish that when they did write that they’d send PICTURES!  I have gotten a few, but com’mon!)

***QUESTION***

Wasssup!!  I just have to tell ya that I think you’re a dating-guide god to all guys out there who have trouble with women, dating or relationships!  I’ve been reading your free me-mails for about two months now and I gotta tell ya, your a genius!!  I haven’t even purchased the book yet but everything you say makes perfect sense.  So I have decided to purchase Double Your Dating.  I can’t wait to see how it works out.  I have the hardest time meeting women and the bad thing about it is most girls think I’m good looking.  But they think I’m boring.

Here’s my question to you.  I’m not sure about the whole Cocky & Funny thing, how do I be cocky yet not come across as an asshole?  And I’ve really never been the funny type of guy I just don’t know how without saying or doing something that might make me look like a wussy.  Can you help a bro out PLEASE with some classic Deangelo Dating Tips?

DW-ks

 DAVID DEANGELO’S COMMENTS:

OK, here’s the basic formula for Cocky & Funny:

Take an arrogant comment, then add humor.  It’s a killer combination.  The key is that it HAS TO BE FUNNY.  It actually has to make others laugh.  You must make sure that you are Cocky enough, because if you’re only FUNNY, then you will come across as GOOFY, which isn’t what you want.

So, for instance, you might be at a bar, and you’re having a drink.  Let’s say your drink has too much alcohol in it, and you’re going to comment on it.  An arrogant comment might be:

“This bartender sucks.  There’s too much booze in my drink.”

Add a touch of humor, and it turns into:

“Whoa, this bartender either loves me or is trying to kill me.  This drink is pure alcohol.  Is there an AA meeting nearby?  Cuz I’m gonna need it when I’m done with this one.”

You feel me?  Cocky & Funny = Great Pick Up Lines and Conversation Starters.

It’s the COMBINATION that makes Cocky & Funny work like magic.  Too little or too much of either and you will come off as an idiot.  And remember, have fun.  Practice is what will help you improve.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

Man, life has changed over the last 4 months since grabbing your book and applying Cocky Comedy!  My friends are amazed at how many women I am dating and life is great!  One of the most important points I have followed from you is breaking down the whole pickup/dating/score routine and approaching each part as a skill I must learn.  Got past the email/phone number part, past the first date and first kiss part, and finally the step towards intimacy.  But alas, I’m down to the one skill that I have problems with and that I’ve never seen you really address: The graceful exit skill…

Let me explain…OK, I meet a girl, we go out, maybe we end up in each other’s arms, maybe not, but there comes a point when I just want to end it and move on to another girl.  I always get nervous with the “Well, it’s been fun, but we this isn’t going to work out so have a good life…”  Do I call and leave a voice mail?  Do I phone her?  Do I break it off face-to-face?  What’s the confident, C&F way to leave a girl and not have PLAYER stamped onto my forehead because of it?

Loving life,

S.R.

 DAVID DEANGELO’s COMMENTS:

You’re a very, very, very bad man.  In the best way possible, of course.  I think the key to dating more than one woman, or to not seeing a woman more than once or twice is to NOT ACT LIKE YOU’RE HER BOYFRIEND FROM THE BEGINNING.

Women will only resent you if you mislead them.  So don’t.  It’s not necessary.  Just have fun, be straight up, and enjoy yourself.  You don’t have to break something off if it never was “something” to begin with.  Are you with me?  The big mistake is to call twice a day, see her five times a week, act like her long lost love, and then drop her without explanation.

I think you get what I’m saying.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I have been subscribing to the newsletter for about 6 or 8 months and have purchased your Double Your Dating eBook a couple after subscribing.  Your information has been invaluable and well worth the price.  It has completely changed the way I look at women, I never pine over them anymore and wonder “what’s wrong with me”.  Now I know what was wrong with me, I was a wuss!  But that’s all changed now and have become the Jedi Master.  I’ve even come up with some Jedi Techniques of my own.

At any rate, I met this one girl at a party one night who I knew came with a few acquaintances of mine who I told about the party.  I got to talking to her and we talked for a few minutes and poured on the Cocky & Funny, but I never got her info.  I know, I know, the 3 minute technique, but I knew I could obtain it from her friends, and the way she interacted with me, I knew she wouldn’t have minded at all (Important Note: this is my success story, I wouldn’t recommend doing things like this unless you have developed the confidence that your book helps teach).  Well, I never had to even asked her friends because two days later, she ended up looking me up in the University’s online student directory and then she looked up my IM name and IMed me with a “mysterious person” message.  I immediately figured out it was her and then accused her of stalking me and told her that’s pretty illegal.  She almost thought I was mad at her!  It was great!

Anyways, she is a real quality girl (not to mention about a 9, not perfect, but gorgeous nonetheless) and we set something up to go play pool at a local bar where I again poured it on thick.  Now mind you, I hadn’t made any big advances or anything but as she dropped me off back home, she came in to use the bathroom.  After she came out, she wrapped her arms around me and let me have a little taste.  I said goodnight to her and that was that night.  A few nights later, I told her I was going to be cooking and that she should come over which leads me to…

***Tip 1*** One of the best techniques is to invite a girl over for dinner at your place, especially if you know how to cook.  I find that many women don’t know how to cook or only “cook” stuff like Mac and Cheese and other junk.  The best part about this is they get to see your skill, which is pretty attractive to women when you can make a good meal, and you have the most control because it is your own place.  The other part, is make sure you don’t start making dinner until she is already at your place, she’s not getting an entirely free meal!

Make her help.  If she refuses, use the Cocky  & Funny techniques and have her do something.  Put her on a task that’s not too difficult so she can’t mess it up.  For example, if you’re making lasagna, make her grate cheese or something (making her wash dishes is rather insulting unless you’re doing most of them and she wants to help, which she just might).  And when you’re all done with dinner, take it to the couch and turn on the TV or watch a movie or something.  Which brings me to…

***Tip 2***    If you’re sitting down next to a girl that you’re talking to in a private setting and you get a little of that silence, not the awkward kind, but the kind where you just kind of look at each other.  If you’re thinking to yourself “should I be kissing her?”.  The answer is a screaming “YES”.  This can be preceded by the “kiss Test” as well, but I know a lot of single guys will still have insecurities about this kind of thing.

Think about it this way.  If you don’t kiss her, then she’ll probably think you’re a wuss because you don’t have the balls to do something she probably wants you to anyways.  After talking with a number of my girl-friends, I’ve found out that if a guy tries to kiss a girl, unless there is an obvious lack of attraction, she will most likely go with the kiss.  At any rate, in this day and age, she’s not going to slap you and walk out the door.  It’s not like you grabbed her crotch or something.

***Tip 3***    MC from the Mediterranean asked a question about calling the next day.  I just wanted to point out you have already answered this question in some form and you know what to do!  You can generally sense if a girl is sensitive about something like that.  If not, send her some sort of message that next day, preferably email, but if you’re on the phone, have something you’re on the way to or busy with.  Call, say “hi” and that you had a great time, don’t ask how she’s doing or what she thinks about what or if she had a good time, but find some way to use C&F to make a light conversation that will keep her wondering and even thinking about you.  Don’t bring up the sex unless she does so in a favorable manner.

***Tip 4*** Not so much a getting single girls technique, but rather something you need to do alone.  In your spare time or even when doing mindless tasks, go over your past failed attempts when you have a clear head about them and think about what happened.

You’d be surprised at how easy it is to find the things that went wrong.  You’ll also be surprised to find out that these are probably mistakes you make all the time!  This is the best way to recognize the problem and rectify it so that its not repeated. Your techniques are nearly priceless and have stroked the confidence of guys everywhere.  I’ve even recommended it to friends that have some serious wuss problems.  I have yet to see if they’ve taken it to heart or even subscribed, but I’ll help them yet!  Things are going great with that girl and I know it wouldn’t have happened if it weren’t for your eBook.  Its now become second nature, and you get all the credit.

Thanks again Dave

Your once Jedi Apprentice, now Master, D.M.

 DAVID DEANGELO’S COMMENTS:

Great ideas…  great.

Nothing else needs to be said…

Except that you stole those ideas from me, loser.

What The Alpha Male IS and IS NOT

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Many people have a misconception about being an Alpha Male and what that means.  They seem to think is means being a jack-ass like Biff in Back to the Future.  That is not at all what being the alpha male is about.  Let me explain.

What being the “Alpha” means is simply being the dominant male (or even the female) in a group.  The Alpha Dog or Alpha Leader is the one that is most likely to get the mate – in other words, Darwin created this, not me.  (Remember, the survival of the fittest?)

Thinking about it from a Darwinian perspective – it makes SENSE to want to be the alpha male.  If you cannot create mini-me’s at some point in your life, then your genetic line goes extinct!

So, do you think you deserve to have your genetic legacy carried on into the next generation? I hope so. And more importantly, I hope you believe so as well.

So now, you know the basics on what an alpha male is and is not.  Here are some words to describe the alpha male:

Intelligent
Motivated
Eager
Honorable
Dominant (not cruel, but demonstrating superior social skills)
Unwavering
Healthy (fit lifestyle)
Curious
Balanced
Natural

Here are a few things an Alpha is NOT:

Mean
Angry at women
Verbally, Physically, Emotionally or any other kind of abusive
Egotistical
Rude

 There seems to be some confusion (and most of it is created by other guys hoping to cash in on your confusion) about what it means to be a POWERFUL and persuasive man in today’s society.

I’m not even going to throw you more of that evolutionary stuff because it really doesn’t matter. When you think about it, it just makes sense that we want people who appear or demonstrate more social value than us. It’s because we naturally want to latch on to their power.

Again, it all comes back to power.

So being an “Alpha” doesn’t mean you’re dragging women back to a cave by the hair. Or that you’re being an asshole or a pushy loudmouthed jerk. Or that you’re being angry and shoving people around to get your way.  Or that you’re inconsiderate of others no matter how weak or strong they are. Or that you’re acting like a rutting animal.

It means that you understand ATTRACTION – and why women are attracted to men (meaning what makes a woman FEEL attraction toward a man) and that YOU are willing to be that man. Not a wussy, pushover flop that’s afraid to let women know he wants them.

You see, there are only two motivating forces in life: Desire and Fear.

That’s it. We are motivated purely by what we feel we WANT, and what we feel we most want to avoid.  Being afraid is a stronger motivator for people because it has helped us survive potentially life-threatening situations ( think about poor Cro-Magnon man facing a saber tooth tiger.  If he was an egotistical jack-ass – he would have challenged the tiger and been lunch meat.  Then the chimps would rule earth). You’re smart to fear wild animals, or large trains heading toward you. You can’t afford the luxury of analysis in these situations. A delay could cost you your life.

On the other hand, in our modern society, there isn’t much you have to fear. People actually seem to fear too much nowadays, including simple things like approaching women and conversation.  Social anxiety rules us.

What this is – is fear of LOSS.

Everyone’s favorite short wrinkly green dude, Yoda, even said it in the latest Star Wars flick… “Fear of loss leads to the dark side.”  And so it does. It leads you down a path where you never gain because you’re too afraid of losing what you have.  Even if that is an intangible thing – like a blow to the pride if she says piss off.

An Alpha Man understands that the only way to live is to wake up each morning and understand that everything you have was just given back to you with the dawn.

So, when someone tells you that being an Alpha is bad, or it’s this and that, remember that they’re trying to color your perception. They’re trying to steer you away from a path of understanding and enlightenment.  Trust your own intelligence to figure out what an Alpha Man REALLY is.

What you may not know is that he’s already inside of you. It just takes a little work to let this instinct out so that you can become the COMPLETE you.

There are a lot of guys out there who haven’t been able to open themselves up to letting out this TRUE nature inside them. They hide it behind “Politically Correct” BS about not hurting other people’s feelings, or being sensitive, or being in touch with their feminine side…ugh.

It’s really a fear to let other people see the REAL you. The man that wants to have power. The man that wants virile women in his life. The man that wants tangible success. The man that wants power over the forces of life that seem to control him.

Forget about all this “Alpha” talk and just open your mind up to finding this part of you that isn’t held back by fear, and is ready to reach out for understanding that could – and will – change your life for the better.

So on one hand we have the lowly AFC, or non-Alpha. He’s a little insecure, possibly low self-esteem, but WANTS to grow and change.  He is probably shuffling his feet right now – or maybe, he is a little puffed up in the chest saying, “THAT is what I want to be when I grow up!”

So let that inner alpha out!

4 Dating Tips Nice Guys Need to Know

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Being a man, I am sure that you have experienced the “friend zone”.  The friend zone is that dreaded place nice guys get to with a girl when you are being just too damn nice.  Picture it:  she is beautiful, smart, funny and all the things you want in a date or a girlfriend, but she is just “not interested” in you in “that” way.  PUKE.

Ok, so have you ever noticed this?  The most attractive and interesting women seem to be attracted to men who don’t treat them very well?  And the “nicer” you are to a woman the more she often seems to just want to be “friends”?

So what is happening here?  I don’t know about you, but my Mom always told me to be NICE.  Well, I think Mom meant well, but the truth is that girls aren’t generally romantically attracted to “nice” guys.  Women are attracted to men who are funny, confident, and mysterious.  Good looks don’t hurt, but if you’re not 6’4″ tall and look like Brad Pitt, then you have to learn how to attract women with your personality.

So how do I come more successful with women and dating by NOT being a nice guy, you ask?  Well, first of all, I am not talking about going out and starting to slap the women around or yell crude things to them out the window of your car as you cruise the boulevard.  Women are attracted to men who are funny, mysterious and confident.

This is what I am talking about (you can read it in the first chapter of David Deangelo’s dating tips for guys eBook “Double Your Dating” called “Women Don’t Make Sense”).

1) Women make decisions very, very quickly about whether a man is going to be “just a friend” or if he has romantic potential, and once her decision is made, it’s probably going to stay made.

2) These decisions are made “subconsciously”, meaning that women make all of them quickly and at a “gut level”.

3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction feelings rather than “friend” feelings.

4) The way to do it is to stop acting “nice” and start acting, well…  something else…  and I don’t mean “not nice”.

So what DOES attract women?  And how do you do it exactly?

Good questions…

At the beginning, I mentioned three qualities:  Funny, Confident, and Mysterious.  Before I talk about each, I first have to remind you that WOMEN DON’T USUALLY MAKE SENSE.

Remember that.

Here’s a good metaphor: Remember when you learned to drive?  It all made sense…  turn the wheel left and go left, turn it right and go right…But do you remember when you learned to back up?  Backing up was a whole new game.  Everything that used to work now works in a different way.  At first you feel disoriented.  Turn the wheel left and go right…  and you have to learn how to maneuver with the back wheels staying straight while the front wheels turn…  all with your head turned around.

For most people, this takes some time and practice.  But once you “get it” then you can do it anytime you want.  Well, women are very similar.  At first it’s very confusing.  You have to try things that don’t seem to make sense.  But once you get the hang of it, then you see how it works and can make it work…  just like backing up a car.

As much as many women would hate to admit it, there’s something very attractive about a man who is just a little more confident than he should be.  And if you combine this with the right amount of humor (like Cocky Comedy), you have a magic combination that will charm almost any woman.

Here are a few dating tips for you so you can use this idea:

1) When you first meet a single girl, tease her about something.  It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as you do it early on.  For instance, you might say: “So what’s with the big purse?  Are you carrying a gun in there?” or maybe “Those are some pretty tall shoes, what are you like 4′ tall without them?”  If you tease a woman, it shows that you’re not intimidated by her, and that you have a fun sense of humor.  KEY: Make sure you say something FUNNY.  If you don’t know how to be funny, get a book on it.  The test: If she’s not laughing, then it wasn’t funny!

2) Look around at other things and seem kind of pre-occupied when you first start talking to her.  Make your funny remarks with a carefree, detached tone.  You want to sound like you’re talking to your best friend.  Attractive women are approached all the time.  It’s not attractive to a woman when you look like you’ve just met Madonna.  This “just a little too confident” attitude is very attractive to women…  especially when it’s combined with humor.

3) Don’t answer her questions directly.  Women love to ask questions like: “What do you do?” and “Where do you live?” and “Tell me about your family”.  Answer with funny answers, and don’t give her what she wants.  Most guys say, “Oh, I’m an engineer” or “I’m a stock broker”.  BORING, BORING.

If she asks what you do…  say, “Oh, funny you should ask.  I’m a Calvin Klein Underwear Model…  What do you do?”  (This is especially funny if it’s OBVIOUS that you are NOT a model)  Do you get it?  Keep it up and keep her laughing.  It’s important to remember that I’m not telling you to be mean, or to be a jerk to women.  I’m telling you to start being confident, funny, and mysterious.

Approaching Women and Conversation

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One of the biggest fear that men have in dating is the fear of the CONVERSATION.  Where do you go to learn how to have a conversation?  Or how to start a conversation?  What do I say to a girl when I meet her?  What do we talk about?  What happens if….gasp…there is SILENCE?  I know, I hear the horror movie music playing in the background too.

Here are some great dating and conversation tips to remember when having that ever awkward “first conversation” with a girl you are attracted to from none other than Alpha Man Carlos Xuma

First of all, relax.  Think of conversation as building rapport with a woman, getting to connect with her on a level deeper than simple physical awareness.  Easier said than done, I know, but the fact is that if you are uncomfortable or uptight, you are not going to be able to be involved in a naturally evolving conversation.  Keep in mind that the girl you are approaching is going to be nervous too, especially if she is attracted to you as well.  So get comfortable, and create an out for yourself if you need to (remember this, that is a great piece of dating advice called the time constraint).  Tell her you only have a few minutes and set a timer on your phone.  If the conversation is as dead as your great grandmother’s tulips, then you have a great excuse to jet in about 5 minutes.  If the conversation is great, then you can tell the girl that your timer can wait.

Next – Carlos Xuma tells us to make a list of things to chat about beforehand!  Before you venture out to a bar or club, sit down for a few minutes and put together a list of “conversation starter” material.  What keeps conversations going?  Not questions like “What do you do for a living”.  YAWN!!!  Try open ended questions  and conversation topics that she is not going to hear every day.  This will do several things – it will spark her attraction and interest in you, and like an 18 letter word in a scrabble game, open the conversation up to many possibilities the further you go.  Here are some examples:

· Do you think men or women lie more?

· If you were stranded on a deserted island and could have one of the following, what would you have?  A pen and paper, a radio or a monkey?  Why?

· What animal would you be if you could be an animal?

· Who is a person you admire and why?

· Who is someone you despise and why?

The conversation, though, is basically the clothing for the real animal beneath – attraction.  The conversation has got to be interesting to both parties.  Keep her on her toes, bust her balls and use Cocky Comedy with her.  Maintain eye contact with your date or potential date, use casual and light touches on her arm or hand to keep building the attraction as the night goes on.

Later!

Carlos Xuma

Dating Tips on HOW TO TRIGGER Sexual Tension!

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Here is a great question that most men do NOT know the answer to.  Do you?

The question: “What is SEXUAL TENSION?”

To most men, the words “Sexual Tension” are something they have…heard of.  They just don’t make sense.  In other words, some guys think that the words Sexual Tension mean “negative anxiety about sex” or something equally unhelpful.

But, if you go ask a bunch of WOMEN what the phrase mean, you’ll get a MUCH different answer.  Women know what Sexual Tension is.  To a woman, Sexual Tension is the feeling that she gets during those times when she is interacting with a man that she feels ATTRACTION for… but she doesn’t know exactly what’s going to happen.  It anticipation and desire all rolled into one.

Maybe she doesn’t know if he’s into her, but the interaction is so good that something MUST be happening…Maybe he’s making her laugh a little bit “too much”, and she cannot control her feelings towards him…Or maybe it’s obvious that he’s attracted, but he’s so in control of himself and the situation that he’s not letting on and she’s on the edge of her seat waiting to know what’s going to happen.

These are all possible examples of Sexual Tension.  With that, let me see if I can take you behind the scenes and give you a different perspective with a few dating tips mixed in there.

Men and women have different ideas when it comes to ATTRACTION.  Men have their “attraction mechanisms” which are “triggered” by much different things than women.  For women, things usually begin with a small spark.  Sustained and “meaningful” eye contact, a Cocky Comedy jibe, a teasing remark.

It can really be anything.  The point is that SOMETHING SPARKS the ATTRACTION.  Then it flourishes.  It doesn’t have to take a lot of time, but it does usually require time.  It might take an hour, or it might take a couple dates… but if a guy does all the right things he can fan one these little sparks of attraction into a powerful flame for a woman… that is too much for her to resist.

Ok, so on to Sexual Tension…

What you need to realize is that if you can do this, women will LOVE you for it.  (Hint hint:  that was a DATING TIP!)

Women, and especially ATTRACTIVE women who are hit on all the time by loser guys, don’t enjoy dating guys who are boring, humdrum, and LOSERS.  They love guys who are erratic, mysterious, and stimulating.  They love guys who keep them guessing what’s going to happen next.  And they love guys who can keep the TENSION BUILDING, and NOT LET UP.

Dating Tip 1) TEASE her.

If you want to INSTANTLY change the way a hot, nose-in-the-air woman is behaving, TEASE HER about something.  Now, of course, not all beautiful women are stuck up.  I know.  But, teasing works PARTICULARLY well when a woman IS stuck up… lol.  Maybe it’s her huge purse.  Or her stiletto heels.  Or the way she swings her ass when she walks.  Whatever.  Just tease her.

Say, “Hey, what’s with the diaper bag?  You’re not one of those women with a Chihuahua named “Fluffy” in there, along with $20 a pop doggy treats for when she’s in the mood to be pampered, are you?”  It doesn’t matter.  Just say something to tease her.  And by the way – dork – do it with a straight face!

Dating Tip 2) EYE CONTACT

When a man and a woman make eye contact for the FIRST TIME, did you know it’s USUALLY the man who looks away first?  Men are WUSSIES when it comes to doing things that say “I’m a strong, confident person”.  Looking away when you make eye contact with a woman is one of those things.  BIG TIME.  Instead, HOLD her gaze until SHE looks away – without squirming – it will send a strong signal.

Dating Tip 3) ROLE PLAY

Often an opportunity will come up when you’re meeting a woman where you’ll want to instantly shift into a “roll play”.  Maybe she mentions that she’s getting a new job.  Tell her that you sure hope it pays well, because she’s going to have to support both of you…And then tell her that you hope she has enough energy to cook at night after work, because you need a woman who can bring home the bacon, AND fry it up without burning it…

Then after that – tell her that something she just said screwed it all up for you, and that you’re probably going to wind up divorcing her a week after you get married… and taking half of HER money.  Roll playing is fun, and if it’s done right it can REALLY spark this tension that we’re talking about.  The point is that you have to SPARK it.

YOU must lead the way, and YOU must do something to create that little moment where things transition into “we’re playing like adults”.  Women feel this, and respond to it INSTANTLY.

Now, on to how to turn UP the TENSION.

Once you’ve sparked this tension and engaged her into an interesting banter, it’s time to DIAL UP THE TENSION.  That’s right, I said, CREATE MORE TENSION.

Let’s say that you were telling her that she has to make all the money and support you, and she answered with, “Well, I can support you, but you’re going to have to do all the laundry, dishes, and take care of the kids”.

Most guys would be thinking to themselves “Cool, she’s having fun with me, I’ll say something to make her like me now”.  So they’d say, “OK, I can do that” or something equally stupid.

This is the place to TURN IT UP.  Say, “No way.  I’m the man here.  I get to lie around on the couch all day watching TV and then when you finally get home from work, I get to take a break and go out with the guys”.  Reversing gender stereotypes like this, and teasing is all kinds of fun.

At this point the woman might open her mouth with the “Oh no you didn’t just say that” look.  Of course, you should look back at her, raise your eyebrows, and slowly nod your head, as if to imply “Oh yes, you’re going to support me”.

This is just one example.

Here are a few more, just so you really “get” what it is that I’m saying.

1) DON’T take advantage of something.

Let’s say that the woman you’re flirting with is wearing a sexy getup.  She gets up and walks across the room.  Don’t fall for it – she KNOWS that you’re going to be watching her.  BUT YOU DON’T.  When she turns around to come back, you’re looking down at your socks, and commenting about what great taste you have.

THIS IS SUBTLE, BUT POWERFUL.

Not taking advantage of a look, a touch, a kiss, etc. when it’s available DIALS UP the Sexual Tension.

2) Push her away.

Let’s say that you have your first kiss.  PUSH HER AWAY gently just before the kiss “should” be finished.  Shake your head.  Say, “you’re trouble”.

TENSION BUILDS.

3) End interactions first.  If you’re talking to her on the phone, and you’re both enjoying the conversation, say, “OK, I’ve got things to do.  See ya.”  And HANG UP!

This is POWERFUL.

Not only are you ending a great conversation when it was on an UP note, but you’re also not trying to get anything from her.  Most guys cling and stay on the phone forever, then ask for a date or if they can call later.

DON’T DO IT.

Just get off the phone.  If it’s the end of the date, leave just a little bit too soon.  The point is to create TENSION in the moment.

Being aware of what creates sexual tension is a great way to take the date you are on and MAKE IT go your way.  It puts you – the ALPHA MAN – in charge of her, and SHE WILL LOVE IT.