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Ways to Get Quick Cash for that Special Date

April 9, 2013 By GetTheGirl

A big part of getting your dream girl is being prepared in all the ways that attract her. Most of these will involve a certain amount of money. Scenarios such as her favorite music group coming to town for a concert, a show she would like to see, or maybe even a weekend get away, could come up at the last minute not allowing enough time for budget planning. Other than having a stash of cash or a designated dating fund, you could miss a great opportunity to build the attraction.

Don’t despair, there are ways you can raise money quick.

Loans from Family and Friends

Your best shot probably will be borrowing from your family or closest friends. Apart from these friends being in a better position to understand, they also offer an immediate solution. Make one or two calls to a couple friends you trust to have the money and would be willing to lend it. It is important though for you to be creative even when you are requesting your friends to help. For instance, offer to repay the money with an interest or a certain favor. This can entice them to give you the money.

Money Lenders

There are many moneylenders who are willing to lend you the money as long as certain conditions are met. These lenders can avail the money to you as fast as you agree on terms and conditions. You can therefore approach a lender and raise money quick for the important occasion with your girl. It is important though to be careful what kind of a lender you are dealing with. Important points are few conditions, making sure you can meet the payback time frame, and avoiding “loan shark” interest.

Payday Loans

A payday loan is a short term loan that may or may not be related to your actual job or payday. A loan does typically require proof of employment. Like almost anything else nowadays, you can even get a payday loan online. Application for these loans is easy, the conditions needed are few and the time it takes before the money is released is short.

This may be the quickest and easiest of all loans for being able to do something that you can’t afford at the time. However, it is extremely important to note that these should only be used as short term solutions because the interest rates are very high.

Creative Cash

Don’t over look other options for quick cash that are highly recommended because you don’t have to pay them back. Everybody has something they don’t need and can sell for cash. Find something and sell it! Good places are: Ebay.com (short auction), Craigslist.com, to friends, or even a pawnshop. The drawback with these methods is that it can take several days and some additional effort is required.

Women like spontaneity. By taking her to that short notice special occasion, she will be happy with the spontaneity (surprise element), and enjoy the thoughtfulness of the occasion as well as the event itself. In the early stages of a relationship, this helps build a relationship and keeps it interesting.

With these ways to raise quick cash, you can move another step ahead in getting the girl by being able to go on a very impressionable and memorable date!

Avoiding the Horrors of Online Dating

March 27, 2013 By GetTheGirl

Insights into Online Dating Success

Conceptual photo of a couple sitting on laptop

Most dating sites are good at weeding out the creeps, but always move with some caution.

Online dating is no doubt the latest trend in finding someone special, but how do you really know that the person you are talking to is serious? There are people out there who use their profiles on dating sites to lie, cheat and steal. There are those who are already married and looking for a little something on the side, or those who are not who they seem to be online and those who are just losers trying to make themselves look good. There are ways to make sure that you are talking to the person you think you are talking to and not a loser or someone who has already said “I Do.”

Google Them

Google has over 50 trillion pages indexed.

Google is a wonderful tool where you can find anything just by putting a name into the search engine. When the results come up on Google, Bing or any other search engine you prefer, you will find just about anything you want to know. Through Google, you can find out financial information, employment information and even their current marital status. If you really want to dig, you can also get a hold of where they live and even what their home is worth.

Social Networks

Social networks are the latest and greatest feature in the world of online dating. Through sites like Facebook, you can locate pictures, status updates and friends of the person you are talking to. You can see if they are in a relationship, if they have children, what other people are saying about them and just about anything else you want to know. People today put just about everything on Facebook, from their personal thoughts to current photographs, giving you the upper hand in knowing what you are getting into and who you are really talking to.

Double Dates are Great

It’s nice when the girl you thought you were talking online with shows up as herself.

When the time comes to meet the person you have exchanged emails with or talked to on the phone, it is a good idea to take a friend with you. Many people adapt better in a group setting, so when the first date is a double date, it is easier to adapt, talk and just break the ice. Of course, there are other features that make this a great idea as well – like your friends being able to get a feel for who you are out with and if they are going to be the right person for you. It is also easier for an outside source to notice if something just does not add up with the person you are out with, like the tan line where their wedding ring was.

It is no secret that you never really know somebody who you met online. While online dating seems to be taking off, it is possible to meet some psycho who wants to lead a double life. The beauty is that this is just a fraction of those who are looking for love through the internet. Most people who are on internet dating sites are just like you; they only want to find the right person who will love them for who they are. You will find that person, but you might have to kiss a few frogs before you find them.

Kara Fielder is a working mom with two kids. She enjoys blogging regularly for a variety of websites. Click for money-saving coupons from Cheap Sally.

Love in an Algorithm: Dating Datasets

March 26, 2013 By GetTheGirl

How Dating Sites Find You a Girlfriend

Personal encounters are great ways to find a girlfriend, but if you want to increase your odds with some additional help, you might look to dating sites. Because a dating site is anonymous at gathering information (and automatic as far as your concerned), it can do it more quickly than you can. For instance, in a personal encounter it can take some time just to find out the likes and dislikes of the girl you’re talking to. You need to get the basics down before you decide if you even might like this girl. The same goes for her too!

What dating sites do is cut down much of this initial information gathering and deciphering. The information is provided by each member and the deciphering is done by what is called an algorithm. Whilst algorithm’s don’t sound like a very romantic way of finding your true love, many online dating sites use the data they collect in a mathematical way in order to find you a suitable partner.

What is an algorithm?

She will start imagining about you and her together. Put your best foot forward, but don’t present something that you can’t live up to.

It really is essentially a dressed up name for a step-by-step process that uses a series of calculations in order to solve a problem. An algorithm uses a set of ingredients in pretty much the same way that a recipe does, with the aim of using everything that you have available on the list in the right order and quantities as a way of baking that perfect cake.

When it comes to online dating, algorithm’s are used to sort out the data that has been input and using a series of complex filters and instructions, the program should provide the best match on their database with a person who is deemed to be highly compatible with you.

What you see is what you get?

Any software system is only as good as the information that it has to work with so anyone who is perhaps being economical with the truth in either their physical description or perhaps their likes and dislikes together with their chosen leisure pursuits, will be matched with someone who probably does have those genuine physical traits and interests, all of which will quickly become apparent if you both end up meeting in the flesh. To get the best out of a dating site that uses algorithm’s to create the perfect match, you just have to be honest with your answers in the first place, and then the computer can get to work using genuine data.

Why all the questions?

If you assume that hopefully everyone that signs up to a dating site is going to supply honest answers then the questions that you get asked are designed to filter out a lot of mismatches, the problem is that you generally need to ask a lot of questions in order to get a truly accurate set of results. We humans are a pretty complex species and you really do need to ask what seems like an endless stream of questions in order to get a worthwhile response.

What is the right answer to give?

Even if you are fundamentally trying to give an honest answer to any question that you are being asked by the dating site, many of us still choose to provide an aspirational answer that has a hint of honesty attached to it. It is fine to create an idealized version of ourselves but the issue is that it then tends to produce a skewed profile as a result. On a more basic level, when we set up a Facebook profile we tend to list things such as our favorite music, books we have read or films we like, all of which give an insight into the type of person that we may be in an easy to digest snapshot, whereas a dating site uses an algorithm to delve a bit deeper and try to add a bit more substance to the answers that we give them.

Do the algorithm’s work?

After getting to know each other by internet, there is nothing like meeting in person!

As a way of eliminating some obvious non-starters and getting your list of potentially suitable partners then most of the systems in use seem to have a reasonable degree of success, after you have had some initial dialogue over the internet, and reached a comfort level that you want to meet this girl – after all that’s what it is all about! – then there is there is no substitute for meeting someone face to face. Personal chemistry and good old fashioned intuition are a couple of things that the computer finds hard to get a handle on, no matter how many questions that they ask.

Krista Joseph is a sex therapist and avid blogger. She enjoys keeping up with the latest sex products that help couples enjoy a happy sex life. Visit Simply Pleasure for more ideas.

First Date – Communication Do’s and Don’ts

February 27, 2013 By GetTheGirl

How to Make The First Date Not Your Last

About the Author: Miranda Santiago has a degree in Psychology from Boston College and is now a freelance writer who covers dating topics, specifically Latin dating. Apart from writing, Miranda enjoys windsurfing, playing the piano and cheering on her favorite baseball teams.

In today’s age, conversation is quickly becoming a lost art. So many of the things we do have become streamlined, automated, and move so fast that it is often impossible to have more than a two minute conversation with whomever we deal with in our day to day lives.

For example, compare a phone call to texting. A phone conversation, although not face-to-face communication, is verbal, free flowing, and natural. Whereas texting is quick, sporadic, and lacking in all the dynamics of oral communication. Sure there is a place for texting – even in dating, but you can’t let it hinder your “in person” communication skills which a first date is totally dependent upon.

As such, it is no surprise to me that so many people complain of first-date-conversations that limp along like a wounded dog. Now, just because it happens doesn’t mean that it’s okay, and out of all of the women and men that I deal with on a regular basis, between one third and one half tell me that poor conversation (or awkward lack thereof) was a major contributor to the reason that they didn’t go on a second date. So how can you provide better conversation on a first date? Follow the Do’s and Don’ts.

Do Ask Open-Ended Question

One of the first rules to remember about any conversation is that open-ended questions will go ten times as far as closed questions. Essentially, this means that conversations are sparked from questions that require more than a “yes” or “no” answer. Not only will the open-ended question make conversation move much more fluidly, it will make the date seem more like an organic experience than a job interview. Think about it. How many dates have you gone on that have sounded like this:

“Do you like sushi?”

“Yes.”

“Me too.”

Insert awkward silence here while you think of the next thing to say. Keep the questions open-ended for a more enjoyable experience.

Do Respond With Detail

Communication is what first dates are all about. When you say “yes” or “no”, always say why. You can reverse this on your date by asking why when she only says, “yes” or “no”.

This is especially important if your date is not asking open-ended questions themselves. Even the smallest comment can be turned into a conversation if you provide detail in your answer, because conversations are essentially just a web of topics that are moved through fluidly. It doesn’t seem like it, but think about it:

“Do you like sushi?”

“Yes, actually I’m a huge fan of sushi. It’s so exotic, and I love exotic foods. That’s just sort of how I am, always up for trying something new…”

And the conversation flows on. A simple question about whether or not you like sushi can lead to talking about exotic food, which leads to talking about trying exotic things, which leads to talking about personal characteristics—a web of topics. Don’t be long-winded, but utilize the opportunity to drive the conversation and let your date know a little about you.

Do Listen

This is huge. You’re not asking open-ended questions just to watch your date’s mouth open and close, you’re asking them to learn about them and have a good time. I know this one sounds obvious, but I’ve dealt enough with the world of Latin dating as per my profession that I’ve seen this more than you’d think. When you don’t listen to your date while you’re on the date, they don’t feel important and will stop talking altogether—a sure sign of a failed date.

Don’t Use Cheesy Lines

Pull back on being “too cool for your own good.” This isn’t a TV pick-up show you’re in. Natural, relaxed, and “in touch communication” works best!

If there’s anything that makes a date unnatural and awkward, it’s when people force unnatural and not-cute pickup lines on their date. These are usually the types that have watched too many romantic comedies and think that they equate to real life. Don’t fall into this trap, and keep the conversation natural. Compliments can be as simple as “I really like your dress,” or “I’m having a great time”, and are much more effective this way.

Don’t Touch Taboo Topics

This one should speak for itself. Politics, religion, and ex-lovers are the three no-no’s of any first date. Maybe on a later date these topics will come up, but patience is the name of the game when it comes to dating.

Don’t Complain

This is one of those things that too many people do. Sure, you may have had a bad day, but the person that you just met sitting across from you doesn’t need to hear you complain about it for an hour. Even if they seem comfortable with it, you may still be shooting yourself in the foot, as the negative atmosphere that you create can affect your date in subliminal ways.

A first date is like a “first impression.” You only have one chance, so use these tips to help make your first date – not your last! More Dating Tips

Giving Women Intense Sexual Pleasure

February 20, 2013 By GetTheGirl

David Shade

David Deangelo just finished up a fascinating interview with a gentleman named David Shade, a sexual “guru” who teaches men and women how to have better sex. He has written a phenomenal eBook called Masterful Lover that is a must read for any man who is looking to give a woman the ride of her life. In his words… his specialty is “teaching guys how to take a woman’s pleasure beyond anything she’s ever imagined possible… and open up her up to things she is too inhibited to do… but KNOWS she would LOVE to do”…

1. Be The Man She Is Looking For

David Deangelo’s friend David Shade has a tremendous amount of experience with women… and he KNOWS what they want. He explained to me that many women are sexually frustrated… not because they don’t have a man… but because their guy just doesn’t know how to please a woman. Deep down, a woman wants a man who has the ability to “sweep her away”.

David Shade tells David DeAngelo that she wants to surrender to a man who is PASSIONATE and knows what he’s doing… so she can explore her sexuality in new and exciting ways that she would be too timid to explore otherwise. If you can become the type of guy who has real a passion for pleasing women, and you learn how to please them in ways that other guys don’t, a woman will stay with you forever… because she knows unusual it is to find a guy like this.

2. Be Passionate, Not Obsessive

There’s a big difference, David Shade says, between being passionate and obsessive, and luckily for you most guys have no idea what that is… If you look at a woman and think, “I must have sex with her” you are actually GIVING UP YOUR POWER before you even meet!

This “adolescent” attitude actually scares women away… and I recommend you make a conscious effort to avoid it. David Shade recommends a far different—and far more effective—approach. When you see an attractive woman you’d like to meet, instead of thinking about what she can do for you, start thinking about the fact that you know how to make her feel incredibly good… and how CRAZY she would be to pass up this opportunity.

David Shade tells David DeAngelo that you must KNOW that YOU can give her more pleasure that any other man can… and probably more than she could even handle. When you believe that YOU have the power, you can help a woman explore her own sexuality in ways she didn’t even know existed.

Women will instantly pick up on this powerful attitude, and it will come across in everything you do.

3. Know What She Wants

David Shade shared some fantastic information on the 4 things a woman needs to feel in a relationship in order to be satisfied.

1. She needs to feel appreciated for the unique individual she is… and that her man supports her in all she does

2. She needs to feel a deep, emotional, intimate connection

3. She needs to feel like a sexy, beautiful, feminine woman

4. She needs hot, passionate sex… which includes being seduced, teased and satisfied over and over again… and exploring new roles and fantasies.

Give her these four things and she’ll be yours for as long as you like.

4. Be Supportive Without Being Needy

It’s ok to let a woman know how much you appreciate her, so long as you don’t come from a position of NEEDINESS. Needy guys (David Deangelo calls them Wussies) pour it on too thick. They put women on pedestals. And, as you know… nothing drives a woman away faster. A woman wants to be with a man who is strong, has his own life, and doesn’t NEED her.

If you come from a position of STRENGTH, compliments and appreciation will light up a woman’s life… because you will be giving them in a way that makes her feel MORE attracted to you. So remember… she wants to be APPRECIATED… but not NEEDED.

5. Get Her Aroused Over The Phone

Listen up – David Shade shared an amazing strategy he uses to drive women wild OVER THE PHONE. Here’s how he does it:

1. He gets into a deep conversation about relationships and emotions, which gets a woman in a highly emotional state

2. He then asks her about what she wants to feel in a relationship… which gets her even more involved

3. He then talks about being alone… he asks he if she feels alone and explains to her how he feels the same way

4. He then asks her to think about how it would feel to be the OPPOSITE of alone… and tells her how he wishes he was holding her close right then and there

5. He then describes in intimate detail exactly what he would do if they were together…

And the rest is history. The best thing about getting a woman turned on over the phone is that it gets her to imagine the two of you being intimate before it actually happens…

This paves the way for the REAL intimacy later on, according to David Shade. When she sees you in person afterwards, there’s only ONE thing she’ll be able to think about… don’t be surprised if she wants to skip the “date” part of your date and head straight to the bedroom. I’m serious here… this will be the case more often than not.

Listen to this section of the interview a few times until you have it down… then give it a shot next time you are talking with a woman who is receptive towards you. Take it slow and easy… and you just might be surprised at how well it works.

6. Try New Ways Of Giving Her Pleasure

David Shade says women love VARIETY in the bedroom. And one of the biggest complaints women have about men is that they do the “same old” every time. Most men have a sexual “routine” they are used to. They are comfortable using a certain set of moves and steps because it’s the same thing they have always done and it seems to work for them.

If you’re REALLY looking to please a woman over and over again, the “same old routine” has got to go. Repeating the same moves in the same order night after night might work fine for YOU, but remember… women are “wired” differently… and they need different kinds of experiences to continue to be turned on and excited.

Fortunately for us women prefer to have these different kinds of experiences with THE SAME GUY… but if you don’t give them to her, she very well may look elsewhere. On the other hand, if you do keep things exciting in the bedroom by mixing it up so she never knows what to expect, chances are she’ll NEVER leave… because you’ll be EXACTLY what she’s looking for.

So be sure to ALWAYS be unpredictable in the bedroom. Don’t be afraid to experiment and try out new things. I’m sure you can think of a few…

7. Learn Some New Moves

An easy way to give a woman the sexual variety she wants is to learn some great techniques… especially some that she has never seen before. In our interview David Shade shared some VERY interesting physical techniques he uses to drive a woman wild, and I highly recommend you try them out.

Make sure you listen to the later part of our interview a few times, and take some notes. There’s some great stuff in there that isn’t published anywhere else. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t get your hands on other material that out there and study it for all it’s worth. Walk into any bookstore and you’ll find a TON of great books on how to please women… many with their own unique spin. The small time investment you make will have HUGE rewards… of the best kind! Fortunately for us, not many men take the time to actually do this… so those who DO have a massive advantage.

Women love it when you pull a new trick out… and when you have an ARSENAL of moves at your disposal… that you can pull out night after night to give her a brand new exciting experience.

8. Guide Her Through The Experience

Women want a leader INSIDE of the bedroom just as much as they want one outside of the bedroom. Simply put: If you’re letting her do all of the work—or even a quarter of it—you’re doing something wrong. As a man, you need to take charge when you’re between the sheets.

Don’t be afraid to put her into different positions, stand her up to kiss her then lay her back down, or start and stop the action (remember… 2 steps forward, 1 step back!). David Shade made the important point that you also need to guide her through the experience with your VOICE.

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Accfording to David Shade, men must remember… women like to be stimulated differently than us men… and when you talk to her in a soothing and sexual way it increases her pleasure more than you could ever imagine. Here are a few great examples David Shade shared that you can start using right away:

• Encourage Her To RELAX – Telling a woman to relax and feel totally comfortable while you are giving her pleasure will cause her to enjoy her experience with you a whole lot more. This tells her that you are in control and you care about her needs… and lets her know that she can just kick back and enjoy the ride.

• Talk About What She’s Feeling – Say things like, “That feels good, doesn’t it?”, and “I know you like that right there” to bring the experience alive in her mind and add the powerful element of verbal stimulation to your physical actions. David Shade stresses that this is a HUGE turn on to women.

• Encourage Her Orgasms – When you feel she’s close to having an orgasm, encourage her along. This will often be the thing that puts her over the edge.

David Shade was something else, wasn’t he?

There’s no denying he knows his stuff. He’s spent a long time figuring all of these things out… and if you take his techniques and run with them you’ll be LIGHT YEARS ahead of any man your woman has ever experienced before… or will again.

Your Friend,

David D.