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Pick Up Lines That Work

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If you want to be able to start a conversation with any woman, at any time – and never be at a loss for words – then you need to learn a few simple skills that will give you consistent results. There’s no better education on the planet in this area than David Deangelo’s Cocky Comedy program… you’ll get more dates than you’ll know what to do with… and you can begin learning about it in David DeAngelo’s eBook!

In a minute, I’m going to share with you several word-for-word pick up lines for men you can use to meet a woman anytime, anywhere.

But first, a question:

Have you ever seen a woman you wanted to meet, but you didn’t know what to say?

So you froze…

… and you missed your chance to meet her?

Every guy has been through this – myself included.

The mistake most guys make is thinking they have to make up something to say on the spot – something spontaneous.

This couldn’t be FURTHER from the truth.

If you prepare ahead of time, you will ALWAYS have something to say – and you’ll never miss another chance to meet a great girl.  Cheesy pick up lines DO work, as long as you can get her laughing and break down that wall she has that keeps so many men from success with women and dating.

In fact, a new friend of mine has taken this idea to a WHOLE NEW LEVEL.

He shared with me what he calls “Back Pocket Openers.”  These are some of the top pick up lines that work ANYWHERE.

These are easy ways to start a conversation with a woman that you can use any time, any place.

They’re casual, fun, and flirtatious.

You don’t HAVE to use them – if you want to make up something on the fly, go for it – but anytime you don’t know how to start a conversation with a cute girl, they can make ALL THE DIFFERENCE.

You’ll never again have the excuse “Well, I would have approached her, but I didn’t know what to say…”

One of the Back Pocket Openers he shared is where you use your LOCATION as a point of conversation.

Let’s say you’re at a grocery store and you see a woman you want to meet…

You say something like:

“Ok, excuse me, you’re way too cute for the grocery store… you can’t go out looking like this… it’s too distracting… it’s just wrong, I’m sorry…”

(Of course, you deliver this in the Cocky & Funny way that I talk about here in my newsletter and in my eBooks and other products.)

You can use this same opener WHEREVER you are…

“… you’re just too cute for the bookstore…”

“… you’re just too cute for this airport…”

“… you’re just too cute for the sidewalk…”

When you use this approach, you communicate that you notice her looks – but in a way that is charming, playful, and classy.

You can also tweak this approach and say something like:

“You know, I hate to be guy that hits on you at the grocery store… but, yeah… I’m that guy…”

I love it!!!

Pick up Lines are fun in all forms from Funny, Cheesy, Serious or even those dirty pick up lines.

Pick Up Lines

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Ok – DO NOT Be This Guy!!!

Pick up lines!! One of the most frequent requests I get from my readers are requests not simply for dating tips, but for pickup lines. If you ever say to a woman, “What’s a girl like you doing in a place like this?” I will personally hunt you down and smack you in the head.

There are many more ways to break the ice with a good pick up line. Some of them are totally off the wall, and these are my favorites, personally. You need to get the woman off guard, get her intrigued immediately and thinking, “Hey, THIS guy is unusual!”

So, what kind of pick up line can you use? Here are some of my favorites:

*Walk up to her and say “Pink Grasshopper”. She says, “What??” You say, “I

Just wanted to break the ice! My name is….”

*HI, will you help me find my lost puppy? I think he is somewhere in my bedroom….

*Excuse me, can I borrow your phone number? I seem to have lost mine….

*Be different from the other women, just say yes!

*Do you see my friend over there? He wants to know if you think I’m cute!

*Did you come here to meet a nice guy? Will I do?

*Do you want to dance, or should I just go screw myself?

*Do you sleep on your stomach? Can I?

*Wanna go halves on a bastard?

*My name is **** – thought you should know so you know what to scream later.

*Grab your jacket – you just scored! Let’s go!

Ok – other than the cheesy attention getters like that, there are many other ways to use a “pick up line” that is much more serious but highly effective. Consider what David Deangelo says in his Double Your Dating eBook…

“If I’m in an environment that has a lot of people, and I’m with a friend, I like to start by asking a woman for her ‘opinion’ on something. Here’s how it happens… first of all, I keep my eyes open for current affairs and interesting trivia that involves gender differences and tension. This makes for amazing conversation openers with hot, intelligent women.

My latest favorite: “Hey, let me ask you a question. My friend and I were talking about something, and I think we need a female perspective…” (This is a killer, by the way. It’s taken me a long time to figure this one out… but it kicks ass). Then I say, “I was just looking on the Internet… and did you know that the average woman in America is 5’ 4”, weighs 150 pounds, and wears a size 14?”

Little facts like that are great – it shows the woman you are intelligent and maybe even (GASP) well read! Consider other trivia like this….

· There is actually a law in Ohio that states it is illegal to have sex in any other position other than the missionary position!

· A crocodile cannot stick out its tongue! (Adding…but I have a VERY LONG tongue!)

· Rubber Bands last longer when refrigerated – but I would not recommend doing that with any other type of “rubber”!

· 30% of women over the age of 80 still have sexual intercourse either with their spouse or boyfriends.

· Wyoming’s Grand Tetons mountain range literally means “Big Tits”.

· Male bats have the highest rate of homosexuality of any mammal.

In other words, creativity is the key to a successful pickup line. Be sure to remember, though, that a pick up line is meant to break the ice with a woman or group of women, not to get the woman to fall into bed with you that minute!

Double Your Dating

Approaching Women

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If ever there were two of the greatest minds in dating together in the same room, it was the day that David Deangelo interviewed Style, or Neil Strauss – author of The Game.  Style was living life as a writer and investigative journalist for Rolling Stone, when a book editor called him with an idea for an interesting story…

She had discovered a document that was supposedly the work of a secret underground community of “pick up artists”… who met together to talk shop and trade seduction techniques. Neil Strauss was intrigued, and he started to dig… but little did he know that what he would discover would soon change his life forever…

Through his career in journalism, Style got to hang with major celebrities and rock stars, but always assumed that THEY were the ones who would get the hot women… not HIM.

These days, times are different. Here are a few of the tips and strategies my friend used to go from ZERO success with women, to a guy that some rock stars have actually asked for advice.

Prepare Before You Play

Style prepares himself for a night out on the town the same way that he prepares to do an interview for a magazine… The first thing he does is write down EVERYTHING… what he wants to talk about to the women he meets… the attitude he wants to have… and even the way he wants to kiss her when things are going well.

He’ll also throw in a few “Snapple fun facts”… or other silly conversation starters he can use when he’s at a loss for words. Things like, “Did you know that the average woman consumes 7 pounds of lipstick in her lifetime?” or “Do you think toilet paper rolls should have the paper coming down the front, or the back along the wall?”

He puts it all down on a “cheat sheet”… studies it… then tucks it away in his pocket… just in case. He usually doesn’t have to pull it out… but having it with him gives him the confidence he needs to go out and meet more women… and THAT’S what it’s all about.

Stick With The PROVEN 4-Step Structure

It’s a good idea to have some sort of game plan when you are interacting with a woman so you can keep things moving forward… and Style has an AWESOME one that I suggest you steal immediately… Here are the 4 basic steps (In a moment we’ll take a closer look at each one):

1. Open – Simply a matter of crossing the line from seeing a woman to actually talking to her .

2. Demonstrate Value – An attractive woman will meet many guys when she is out… and it’s CRUCIAL to demonstrate something that distinguishes you from rest.

3. Build An Emotional Connection – In stage 3, it’s time to go from entertaining her to really CONNECTING with her on an emotional level.

4. Physical connection – If you spend too much time connecting with her emotionally without pushing things forward physically, you will be heading straight for “The Friend

Zone.”

Now, let’s dive into these a little deeper…

Approach The Entire Group

As you know, beautiful women are rarely found alone. Here are 3 of Style’s KILLER tips for approaching groups of people:

Tip #1: Use A “Time Constraint”

When you approach a group of girls, usually at least ONE of them will immediately begin trying to figure out ways to blow you off… even if your approach is a good one!

Rather than fight an uphill battle, use what my friend calls a “Time Constraint”…

Simply say something like, “I can only stay for a minute because I’ve got to get back to my friends,” or “I’ve gotta get out of here in a second, but…”. Say this near the beginning or at the very beginning of your approach.

This puts them at ease… because they think you’ll be gone soon… and also gives you just enough time to win everyone in the group over.

Tip #2: Approach With Energy

When you approach a group of people, make sure your energy level is equal to or slightly higher than theirs. Nobody wants to talk to someone who is going to bring them

down… so don’t do it!

Tip #3: Keep Everyone Warm

If there is more than one person in the group, you want to make sure that everyone in the group gets attention and stays engaged… or someone WILL become your enemy. When you open a group of people, usually it is because there is one particular woman in the group that you are attracted to.

Style’s rule is NOT to hit on her until she’s attracted to you first. Start by chatting with her friends… This gives you a chance to demonstrate your personality… and to become a challenge for her by teasing her and using Cocky and Funny humor to blow her off.

This will REALLY blow her mind… as she’s accustomed to being the one out of her group that gets the attention… and here you are blowing her off. Nice.

Demonstrate Your Higher Value

The best way to demonstrate that you have higher value than other men is to simply show her a better time than she was having before you showed up… and a better time than she has had with anyone else. Or as Style puts it, “learn to be more interesting than the average person.”

To do that he has a bunch of stories and games that he calls IVDs or “Interactive Value Demonstrations” (and yes, he deserves to be made fun of for naming them so…) Most of his “IVDs” are simple interesting things that teach people things about themselves.

One he uses often is called the “Best Friend’s Test”. He’ll address both women at once, and tell them he is going to give them the “Best Friend’s Test”… He’ll then ask them something irrelevant, like “What kind of shampoo do you two use?”  Then he watches and waits… 9 times out of 10 the two women will look at each other before they answer.

Then he simply says, “Ok… the answer to the question actually doesn’t even matter. You can tell when girls are best friends because they will always look at each other before they answer a question!”  Then, of course… they both look at each other and crack up

laughing…

This is great because its fun… it makes them feel good about their friendship… and you’re not “hitting on” anyone. Another one of Style’s best routines is to teach a woman about “Eye Accessing Cues.”

There is no way I could explain this as well as he does… so make sure you listen to the CD again… and take some notes. And don’t just limit yourself to these 2 routines… anything along these lines… such as palm reading, handwriting analysis, or any interactive game that reveals something interesting to a woman about herself is a surefire way to generate ATTRACTION.

Build An Emotional Connection

Once you have demonstrated that you are a unique and interesting individual, it’s time to build an emotional connection…

One of Style’s favorite moves to start this off is something he calls the “Instant Date”… simply taking her—with or without her friends—from the place where you first met to another venue… or even just another spot inside the club. This is one of my favorite moves as well… as it has an almost magical effect. Once the two of you are in a new location, it will feel like you are now there “together”… and BAM… you’ve gone from being strangers to becoming friends.

Another technique Style uses to build an emotional connection with a woman fast is his “Eliciting Values” routine. This is a fun and easy way to find out what someone is REALLY looking for in life… and you can do it by simply asking 3 questions:

Question 1: What is the most important thing you need to have in life to make it feel worthwhile?

Question 2: If you have “X” (her answer to Question 1), what does it allow you to do?

Question 3: If you got to that point and you were able to have “Y” (the things she mentioned when she answered Question 2) how would you feel inside? What’s the emotion you feel?

This emotion is called her CORE VALUE… and it’s what she’s really after in life.

To finish up the routine, point out the fact that while she was thinking about it, there was a little pause when she was figuring out what it was… and at that moment, she was actually FEELING IT.  She’ll usually agree… and then you can say, “Cool, we just fulfilled your purpose in life in 3 minutes. You can die now.”

Nice.

This routine allows you to get on a deep level with someone very quickly, and learn a lot about them in the process. I suggest you try it out.

Get Physical

As a former tenant of “The Friend Zone”… “getting physical” was the hardest piece of the puzzle for Style to figure out.  The two scariest points of learning this stuff for most men are the initial approach and the first kiss—because those are the two places where it’s easiest to get rejected. We’ve already covered the approach, so let’s talk about the kiss…

First of all, Style recommends that you get her comfortable with more casual touching (like holding hands) before planting one on her. Otherwise it can seem very sudden… and I doubt you want to get slapped…

Here’s another rule to follow:

When you hit that point when you’re thinking—should I be kissing her now?  It usually means: YES.  Also… pay close attention to her body language and her eyes.  Is she looking at your mouth… or holding eye contact longer than usual? Or does she squeeze your hand back when you squeeze hers?

Also… of course… use the “Kiss Test” that I share with you on the first page of my site.

If you gently stroke the hair from the side of her face and along her neck, and she seems to be enjoying it—it’s time to make something happen.  Style has yet another killer routine for this that I’m sure is VERY effective…

He begins by telling her that she smells good and smelling her from shoulder to ear… then pulls her hair at the back of her neck and asks her if it feels good. If she says, “yes”, he gives her a gentle bite on the inside of the elbow… then a nibble on the neck… working his way up to the inevitable kiss…

Style admits that it’s more work than is probably necessary most of the time, but it’s a good idea to have something reliable to fall back on for those tough situations.

Let’s wrap this up…

It’s a fact that the guys who are the best with women are the ones that are always trying new things, working to improve. Guys who are afraid to try something new usually fail.

So get off your ass and try some of this stuff out!

Remember: Do what you’ve always done, and you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.

One of Style’s biggest epiphanies about his own challenges with women was this:

“Its not bad genes, it’s BAD HABITS.”

Change them!

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David Deangelo

How To Meet Women Online!

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David Deangelo on Meeting Women Online

So many men have the misconception that online dating services and meeting women online are only for repulsive singles that can’t get a date to save their life, or for those that are afraid of rejection. But millions of men are opting to check out the possibilities of meeting women online simply because it offers a new, easy to use forum in the comfort of your own home and is minus all the hype of bars and clubs. Besides, even singles who are flat broke can put up a free personals ad in the online dating forum!

The thing about learning how to meet women online is that you can literally create an art form out of your personal ad and draw the single women to you like bees to honey. The trick is, though, you have got to know how to craft your online profile in the right way, or you will just be one of the million other singles out there trying to attract a date and either failing or succeeding with meeting women online.

David Deangelo has literally made an entire PROGRAM out of how to meet women online. He tells you all the tips and tricks of creating a killer profile, how to email women, how to get her to look at you as an attractive alpha male rather than just another guy, how to take it from the internet to a face to face meeting in just 2 emails and SO much more.

Check it out:  Meeting Women Online

For instance, have you put much thought into the pictures you put into your profile? Well DUH!! You should. David Deangelo tells guys exactly what kinds of pictures you should have in there to instantly attract women, no matter what you look like in Meeting Women Online. There are also certain headlines you need to use in your profile to meet women online and surefire tips to writing them.

David Deangelo also tells people in his Meeting Women Online program how to act on your first date with a woman you meet at an online dating site. There is so much more to meeting women online than just sticking up a profile! What are you waiting for? Check out David Deangelo’s tips and tricks by clicking on the box below, even if you just read the page you will be so much farther ahead of the game when it comes to online interaction on dating websites than 99% of the other guys out there.

If you are looking for some help choosing the right online dating site for you, please check out our section dedicated to that:  Online Dating Sites.

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Below is just a funny article from Scot McKay telling readers about his four most memorable Online Dating Disasters:

Here are the four most memorable ones:

1) Not What The Doctor Prescribed

Very shortly after my divorce in 1992, I received a “spam” message in my inbox that I actually responded to. Believe it or not, I hadn’t even heard of online dating before. This ad claimed I could meet the woman of my dreams on their site, so I was intrigued.

The next thing you know, I had ponied up however much they charged and began looking through the pictures of women they had listed.

To be honest, this was not exactly the most well-traveled site on the ‘net. Who knew there was a Match.com out there? So inevitably, I found exactly one woman who seemed interesting to me-a brown-eyed blondie with a friendly smile.

I emailed her, probably with something lame like “You seem nice. Maybe we could get along. Would you like to talk?”. Remember, this was Day One for me in the online dating world – my first stab at meeting women online.

Call it “beginner’s luck, but she wrote back. Crazy, huh?

Well, one thing led to another, and there we were sitting across the table from one another at dinner. The fact that I shouldn’t have been paying for dinners here has long since been duly noted and is sort of beside the point, so please overlook that for now and read on.

Midway through dinner, she starts talking about her medical problems.

Never talk about your medical problems on a first date. I don’t care if you’ve known the person for ten years, let alone ten minutes.

Between bites of whatever I was eating, she was bragging about how she had chronic kidney stone issues and how tough she was for being able to pass them without even flinching nowadays.

Unfortunately, she took my casual attempt to divert the discussion as disbelief.

“You don’t believe I get kidney stones? Here…look…”

Already having started digging in her purse, she soon produced a small medicine vial.

I thought to myself, “This chick has to be kidding. I believe her, already. She doesn’t have to prove her case by showing me her prescription.”

I should have been so lucky.

Pressing down and twisting the child-proof cap, the bottle opened and the contents were soon poured into her hand.

“See, look at this…it has to be at least the size of a pea, right?”

With a freshly French-manicured thumb and forefinger, she produced the largest unit from an impressive collection of similar objects she was holding.

Yes. It was the largest kidney stone she had ever passed.

This woman collected her kidney stones. And she took them with her everywhere, apparently.

I don’t remember what I said or did, really. But I do remember there was a second date, believe it or not.

2) Not A Strip Mall, Sweetie

Not long after the “kidney stone chick”, I met another woman from the same site. She was a Hispanic cutie with perfect skin and a booty that would have made Sir Mix-A-Lot slam on the brakes. She said “sweetie” a lot.

I hadn’t learned the part about not taking women to expensive dinners on first dates yet, so there were at one of the nicer sushi joints in San Antonio.

She was terrific. She was intelligent and loved to laugh. Above and beyond that, she was a great flirt. Clearly she was digging me.

We had ordered two glasses of red wine, and conversation turned to what she did for a living.

“So you said you were ‘self-employed’. What exactly do you do?”, I asked.

While she answered, I took a sip of Merlot. And it was right then that I discovered that all those slapstick “spit takes” you see on old-school comedy sketches are rooted in factual reality.

It took all I had in reserve not to spew grape juice all over everything.

“I run a chain of strip clubs, Sweetie.”, she had announced matter-of-factly.

Sitting before me was a decidedly classy woman, who I had picked up from a decent home in a nice neighborhood.

“You mean, like a strip mall…right…with the nail salons, a tanning place and a Chinese restaurant.”

“No, silly! LOL! I mean like…you know…strip clubs. The kind with girls.”

Now if you know my style at all by now, you already realize the date was as good as over.

Yet, it was like a train wreck. I couldn’t look away.

And I asked the inevitable question.

“Yes, well…my ex ran the day-to-day operations and I pretty much handled the books. But he let the ‘interview process’ go a little too far too often, and I couldn’t trust him anymore. I got the business in the divorce settlement.”

It was then, I told her the truth.

“I’ve never been to one of those places in my life, and I see no reason to start now.”

Uh oh.

I may has well have lit a roman candle. That chick practically attacked me as soon as we left the restaurant. I tried to handle things as best as I knew how at the time, but let’s just say she wasn’t a happy camper.

When I got home, she had already e-mailed me the buck-naked pics from her “Adult Friendfinder” profile (which was my first introduction to that particular reality). “This is what you missed out on. GOOD LUCK!!!” was the only line accompanying the pics.

3) June Carter Cash Or Charge

I should have known better, considering the one pic she had attached to her profile was a blurry one.

And in my heart of hearts, I really did know better. Suspecting this particular date may not go so well, I invited her to dinner (yeah, yeah…hardheaded wasn’t I?) at 5.30p.

I walked into the Chili’s or TGIFridays or whatever it was, and immediately got that nauseous feeling that every single online dater experiences at one point or another. Specifically, the one where you see someone waiting alone at a table over there who vaguely resembles the person you were expecting to meet about as much as a piece of burnt toast resembles the perfectly good slice of bread you threw in the toaster and forgot about.

My honest-to-goodness first thought was, “OMG…who replaced the woman with the nice smile in the profile with June Carter Cash!”

I was too much of a “Mr. Nice Guy” to turn tail and skip town immediately, so I gathered my intestinal fortitude and approached the table.

Conversation was stilted from the very beginning. She began to make a feeble attempt at flirting.

The woman was at least 55 years old. And not a very attractive 55-year-old at that.

She was dressed in solid black stuff with lots of stainless steel crap and fringes on it, like she was some dust-farting legend from “The Grand Ole’ Opry” or something.

The thickness of her Texas accent was eclipsed only by the thickness of her black eyeliner.

Finally, she excused herself to the ladies room, offering me a blessed reprieve from impending regurgitation.

It was then the waiter came to the table asking me if I wanted another beer. “NO!” I proclaimed, soon apologizing for the brusque tone neither he nor I had anticipated.

“OK, um…how about your mom?

“What?”

“Would your mom like another beer?”

Suddenly reminded that one must take oneself much less seriously in order to derive the greatest enjoyment out of life, I burst out laughing.

I was still recovering when Mrs. Cash returned to the table.

Having ordered a small garden salad (after all, who could eat?), my focus pretty much turned to saying as little as possible in hopes that she would friggin’ finish eating.

I had already called for the check and ended up excusing myself to go find the waiter and pay it, already.

Finally, leaving, I parted ways with her at the table and wished her well. There was no way I was going to risk the awkwardness of walking her to her car. My inherent sense of chivalry was in fact overwhelmed by utter disgust, without apology.

Arriving home at the advanced hour of 6:30, I was greeted once again by a “post date” e-mail. In her vitriolic message to me, Mrs. Cash had “charged” me with a series of offenses that clearly roused her deepest sense of hurt and anger. Among the more particularly hilarious ones was the pronouncement that I was “obviously gay” because I failed to see her as attractive.

Were she the last woman on earth, she may have been right about that.

Incidentally, I finally learned my lesson and quit that particular dating site…forever.

4) Cook For Your Drunk

She was a very cute kindergarten teacher of Lebanese ethnicity. She was also a total sweetheart. Realizing her pics consistently got 9.5s on HotOrNot.com, I threw the dice and let her come to my place so I could cook for her.

There were no disappointments. She was exactly my type. And she was already being touchy/feelie/smiley enough that I knew this was going to go really well.

I mixed her an “Apple-tini”.

“Oh my! This is GOOOD!” she said. Noticing her glass was empty, I refreshed it for her.

The glass was empty again the next time I looked over at her. Right then, making eye contact with her, she skipped over to me, threw her arms around my neck and started biting me with a giggle.

This chick was perhaps 110 pounds with a full tank of fuel. (in other words, she was probably 110 pounds at that moment). So I decided maybe two drinks were enough.

But nevertheless, when I wasn’t paying attention she had found some raspberry stuff in my stash and had begun mixing vodka with it.

Ten minutes later, dinner was finished…and it was spectacular, if I may say so myself.

But she was nowhere to be found.

It was then I remembered she had excused herself to the bathroom.

I went to check on her and she had vomited (thankfully with tremendously accurate aim) into the commode, and was presently passed out on the floor. Whatever.

Managing to wake her up, her groggy self agreed to let me carry her to the bedroom and let her sleep it off…which she did.

I ate dinner alone, watching SportsCenter. The Spurs had lost, no less.

She woke up 8 hours later, found me asleep on the couch, and had made me breakfast by the time I woke up. It was a great breakfast. She clearly had a sense that I was a man whom she could feel safe with. There was a second date.

Obviously, I learned some things from my early online dating misadventures. My evening with he Lebanese cutie actually happened about six months before I met Emily, so that only proves you gotta stay on your toes at all times. Actually, that one was probably less of an “online dating disaster” per se and more of an issue of guarding my liquor stash from pent-up school teachers!

How to Be a Real Man

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QUESTION:

Hi Mate…

From the Land Down-under… I think we’ll just call you “Son of Croc Dundee.”

Here’s an interesting observation, a success story and a question.

The observation.

In the late eighties/ early nineties at the height of the feminist “revolution” in Oz there was a constant refrain from women … “Where have all the men gone?” It was in the media, and women spoke about this ‘ailment’ continually. Well the short answer to this question is that they (the women) had neutered them (the men) … or rather the men had allowed themselves to be neutered.

What you’re doing here is important. Single handed you’re giving men back their self respect.

The success story.

I ran a version of that personal ad. The phone didn’t stop running hot for two weeks. If I had wings I would fly. I might do it anyway.

The question.

Looking back on my two most recent (didn’t work out) relationships that were pre “Son of Croc Dundee” I noticed a pattern. The ‘didn’t work out’ part happened when I was under some pressure and the wimpy part of me emerged.

Now… everyone has problems, and I’m usually strong enough to handle them. However, within the law of the “Son of Croc Dundee” should you never be “weak”? Hard call for a sensitive soul. What’s the balance here?

What say you Maestro?

K.

P.S. AND… to those who haven’t bought the book…Run, jump, fly, swim as fast as you can to that download page. It’ll be the best investment you’ve made since you were 13 and read that copy of Penthouse that you’d found under your Father’s bed.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know… you say that back in the late 80s and early 90s women were asking “Where have all the men gone?”… Well, I think that women are saying it more than EVER now.

I’m going to handle this in two parts. First I want to address your initial comments, then I’d like to answer your question. So first, your comments…

One of my best friends told me about a television show he saw that featured a woman who was talking about male/female relationship dynamics.

This woman was basically saying that a lot of men in this day and age were raised by single mothers, and that this has led to more and more men acting like, well, girly-men. And, of course, single women aren’t looking for wussy-girly-men… they’re looking for “real” men.

I personally find this idea very intriguing.

When I watched the movie “Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon”…, I saw something very interesting. Part of the plot revolved around a forbidden-love relationship. It’s a common “movie” theme, and it occurs in real life often as well.

Here’s a summary…

In this movie, there was a troubled teenage girl who was arranged to be married by her family. Of course, she didn’t love the guy, and wanted to be free to find a love on her own. As it turned out, she was also secretly a super-duper martial arts bad-ass.

One day, while on a trip through the desert, her entourage was attacked by a group of bandits. The leader of the criminals was a Johnny Depp looking Asian guy. He rode up, stole her fancy hair-comb, and rode off.

Being the feisty girl that she was, she jumped on a horse and rode into the desert after the bad (but cute) boy. They wound up fighting, wrestling and beating the hell out of each other.

The long and the short of it is… he abducted her, tied her up, and hid her away in a cave. And somehow, right in the middle of it all, they began MAKING OUT.

Five years ago I would have watched this whole sequence and said, “Well, it doesn’t make any sense, but it makes for a nice story…”

But now that I understand the illogical nature of attraction and sexual chemistry, I see a totally different picture. When the cute bad-boy took off, and she rode after him and started fighting with him, there were two different levels of communication happening.

On the surface, she was chasing him to get her hair comb back.

But looking at it from a different perspective, and looking at a deeper level, SHE HAD FINALLY MET A MAN WHO WAS AN INTERESTING CHALLENGE… and she responded instantly and powerfully by feeling magnetically attracted to him in a way that caused her to leave her group behind and risk her life.

And the fighting that occurred can be seen as just plain fighting… or, if you understand male-female dynamics, you can also see that on a different level they were FLIRTING. The tension that was building between them was also SEXUAL tension.

She had finally met “a real man”, and she responded powerfully to him.

Not long after they fell for each other, the bad-boy started to say some downright sensitive things (I don’t think he’s read my book). He was telling romantic stories about shooting stars, and he risked his life to be with her again… and confessed his love, etc.

This is a round-about way of addressing your comments and answering your question, but this story helps me to put my answers in perspective.

As far as being “a real man” goes, I think that it’s a good idea. Women respond powerfully to “male-ness”. If it is expressed in a powerful way, it can create an amazing attraction inside of a woman. As you’ve learned by reading my book, there are a lot of simple ways to do this.

To answer your question “Should you ever be weak?”, I say:

Most men act weak ALL THE TIME when they are in the presence of an attractive woman. This is a big problem.

If a woman sees you as a “weak man”, then trying to “be strong” will never work. You will only come across as a weak guy who’s trying to “act strong”.

On the other hand, a guy who is thought of as a “real man”… one who does not act weak during the first several interactions with a woman, can have a “weak moment” later on and actually have a woman respond in a very powerful, positive way.

In other words, if you’re perceived as a “real man”, then you can do whatever you want, and it will be perceived as part of that personality.

But if you are perceived as a “weak man”, then NOTHING you can do will trigger the strong gut- level attraction inside of a woman.

And nothing will change that picture inside of a woman’s head. Once you’re thought of as a weak, nice, ass-kissing guy, it’s like an invisible switch gets switched off inside of a woman. And it’s not coming back on anytime soon.

So, the big question is, how do you project this “real man” image? How do you be yourself while at the same time doing the things that create attraction? How do you act in an authentic way, while amplifying those parts of your personality that are most likely to trigger the attraction mechanism inside of women?

Part of the answer is to realize that just about every communication has several levels of meaning. When you tease, act cocky and funny, and bust a woman’s balls, you could viewed as being a mean jerk. Or, if you do it right you can be viewed as an interesting, sexy man.

This is a critical concept, and you need to understand it if you want to succeed with women.

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