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Carlos Xuma on How To Get a Girlfriend

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How to Get a Girlfriend – Seven Tips You Can Use Now by Carlos Xuma

So there I was… I was standing up there in front of a crowd of eager guys presenting a seminar on how to attract women and how to get a girlfriend, and a strange urge overtook me… I wanted to ask them a question that just didn’t seem “politically correct” to ask a bunch of aspiring “pickup artists.” I kept thinking to myself: Should I…?

And then I did.

I asked the almost unthinkable question to a group of pickup artists… I asked: “How many of you want a single, steady girlfriend? Just one. Raise your hands…” And then I held my breath as if I’d just yelled out a cuss word in church. Then – to my amazement – about 90% of the crowd raised their hands.

And they raised them EAGERLY.

Since that day – over 3 years ago – I’ve been asking guys this question in almost all my seminars, and the results are always the same. Most of the guys learning the skills of pickup are just learning them to find ONE good woman. So why do guys work to learn how to be a “pickup artist” and learn all these seduction techniques, when what they really want is just to get a girlfriend?

I believe it’s because men have a basic need, and it’s illogical, but it is hard-wired in us. It’s the need to sexually CONQUER. We want to have the thrill of the victory, overcoming the challenge, and then having our egos boosted with the validation of sexual POWER.

In many ways, there’s nothing more addictive to the male mind. This is what makes us men. And there’s also nothing wrong with it, so don’t feel guilty. I was talking to a friend of mine, Jeff, at a cocktail party the other night, and he was discussing his experience of getting good with women, having a lot of women to date, and how he wasn’t very happy “dating around.” Yes, I know, sounds crazy, but it’s true with almost every guy I meet. Once you get to where you’re no longer so obsessed with getting laid and meeting women, you start to realize that what you really want – what would REALLY satisfy you more than anything else is just to find ONE good catch. Once you’ve stopped begging, you can then start to become the chooser.

So you want to know how to get a girlfriend? Okay, here are my… Seven IMPORTANT Steps to Get a Girlfriend:

GET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 1) Do not set out to find a girlfriend! If your priority is solely to get your itch scratched (sexually speaking), you’re going to find that you’ll scare off a LOT of people. Your GOAL is not to get a girlfriend, even though you think it is. Your goal is not the END, it’s simply the NEXT STEP in the process. Your goal is to improve your social network – which is like creating a nice strong safety net. It lowers your loneliness quotient, and it increases your ability to find a good woman in the long run. A good investigator doesn’t look directly for the criminal. They look for the indicators and evidence that leads them to their most wanted.

GET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 2) Adopt the attitude of the Interviewer… QUALIFICATION, Qualification, qualification. It’s all about qualification, my friend. The only way you can maintain a strong and confident attitude out there is to be the chooser – not the chosen. Think about the difference in these two people: The Interviewer and the Interviewee. Between being the guy going in and kissing ass and selling yourself to the company to get a job, and being the guy who chooses from them. If you’ve ever done the interviewing, you know what it’s like. You feel like THE MAN with all the power. It’s kind of a rush. Well, the difference in mindset between the guy that goes out trying to get women interested in him and the guy that goes out to see if any women can impress him is like NIGHT and DAY.

GET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 3) Become a Social Strategist… Network the hell out of your life. You need to really sit down and think about who you know, and who they know. And then start getting on their social calendars, one at a time. Here’s a technique that works like a champ. (It’s something I’m going to be talking more about in my upcoming program coming in a few months.) First, just connect with everyone in your network of friends. Get together with them, have a drink or a lunch, and just reconnect. Make it a point to develop more of a rapport-connection with them, and then get them to think about you whenever they’re holding a party or going to a party. Say something like: “Hey, this has been great catching up with you, John. By the way, I’m on this kick lately of just going out and socializing, and making sure all my friends have fun. So if you have any parties or social gatherings, drop me a line if you think it would be fun.” Give him your email, give him your cell phone and give him your facebook address. Better yet, have a card made up with JUST this information on it and your first name. Ba-da-bing. You’re now in his loop of social networking. From there, you just bust it out to the next level by making friends with people at every gathering you attend.

GET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 4) Multiple Streams of Female Income This is one of the core strategies of my method, and that is that you cannot afford to rely on any ONE method of meeting women. Mostly because if you fail to get that one method to work for you the way you want it to, you’ll get blown out of the game, and you’re socially dead in the water. AND your attitude will suffer along with your success. Dating is EXACTLY like owning stocks – you never put all your eggs in ONE basket. Back when the dot-com bust happened in 2001-2002, all the people who were heavily invested in technology stocks took a serious bath. Universal rule: Diversify! Spread your risk over a few good methods and you won’t get burned. (I just watched “Wall Street” again the other day, can you tell?) Don’t go too nuts, because you won’t get good at any of them if you do too many, but just pick your top 5 – and then work them like dogs. That’s how to get a girlfriend – and FAST.

My top picks?
– Speed dating
– Online dating
– Social networking
– Parties and social events
– Daytime approach

GET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 5) Know what kind of a woman you really want. You have to know the exact qualities you’re looking for in order to choose a good woman. There are many traits you need to create a good relationship with her – especially if you want to keep her. One thing you’ll see that most pickup artists DO NOT have is the ability to keep a relationship going. They can pickup a woman in a bar, but if you ask them how to get a girlfriend – one that lasts – they’ll just tell you to go take another class. I’ve been in relationships that lasted from 30 minutes to 5 years, so I do know how to keep a good woman around. First and foremost is to know WHAT you want, and sometimes that means…

GET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 6) Date ENOUGH women to know what you really want. A lot of guys don’t date enough women to figure out the qualities that they really want. In fact, I’ve never met a guy who dated a lot of women, and then said that he still wants the same things in a woman that he wanted when he first started. After dating a bunch of women, you start to realize that many of the things you THOUGHT you wanted weren’t as important as you thought. And you discover all-new things you really do need. The big mistake most people (men and women) make is to be in a hurry to get into a relationship because they can’t stand dating. It’s so painful for these guys to be single that they fall into the first relationship that comes along. And so they never develop dating skills, they just hope to find someone good before the bad women find them first. But this is a lot like taking the first job you can get, just to get a job – even though you’re not sure you’re going to like it. Sure, you may have employment, but you’ll just be miserable if you don’t make a good choice. And eventually you’ll either be fired or quit. The same is DOUBLY true for women. Choose poorly and you’re going to be a hell of a lot more miserable IN a relationship than out of one. Remember my universal rule: You’re better off alone than with the wrong woman. A woman has only one role in my life: To make me happier than I was without her. If she isn’t doing that, she isn’t what I want in a girlfriend. And neither do you! And here’s the last rule that will guarantee you’ll get a girlfriend in no time flat – IF you just use it. If you want to know how to get a girlfriend – and how I’ve done it in my life without having to resort to mail-order brides, it’s simply this:

GET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 7) Get out there and meet as many people as you possibly can. I’ve moved around the country and I’ve started my life over again 3 times. I moved from upstate New York, to Washington, DC, to Kansas City, to San Francisco. Each time I had to make all new friends. I learned something that has made all the difference between being lonely and being socially prosperous, and that’s this:

If you meet a bunch of people… some you will never see again.
Some you will turn into acquaintances.
Some you will turn into friends.
Some you will do business with.
Some you will turn into girlfriends.

But the more people you meet, the more you get of every kind. It’s a statistical and social CERTAINTY. Just like the “Sales Funnel,” where you put a hundred people in at the top, and only a few come out the bottom as buyers, so it is in your social life. It’s the most obvious law of numbers there is, and it simply demands that you just get off your ass right now and go meet some new people.

And here’s the amazing thing – it doesn’t matter HOW you meet them! Nor does it matter WHO you meet. You can meet old women who will set you up with their daughters or even their grand-daughters. You’ll meet women who introduce you to their cool guy friends, who will then introduce you to an ex-girlfriend or a cousin or a sister’s best friends’ nanny, who could be your next girlfriend.

You simply DO NOT KNOW how you will get your next girlfriend. If you want to know my advice on how to get a girlfriend, that’s it. Pure and simple. Treat it like a life-puzzle that you have to figure out. If you can just meet a few people each week, your life will be filled with an abundance that will ASTONISH you.

It will amaze you. I guarantee it…
– Carlos Xuma

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Carlos Xuma on How To Ask A Girl For A Date

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How to Ask a Girl for a Date

It’s the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman’s approval (or rejection.)
This has to be one of the questions I hear most frequently from guys.

Why?

It’s the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman’s approval (or rejection.)

The answer to the riddle is this: STOP asking women out!

First of all, you’re starting a program in a woman’s head that says: “He’s romantically interested in me. That means dates, and awkward kisses, and possibly sex, and then a breakup like the last one. I better not.”

Second, by asking her out, you make a woman need to figure out if she’s attracted to you the moment you ask the question. She is presented with an opportunity which requires her to figure out her interest level in YOU.

You see, a woman doesn’t want to lead a man on, but she also rarely knows right away if there’s romantic interest. So she’ll say yes just to test you out. It’s like her first drive of a new car. She doesn’t want to be obligated to buy right off the bat. If you push her for an answer right away (which is how asking her out comes across to her) she’ll say No, even if she isn’t sure yet.

Most women are NOT attracted to you immediately unless it’s by your looks alone. If you rely on pure sex appeal to win you the one you want, you’ll be relying on “luck.” There’s a much better way.

Don’t move so fast on her. Be patient. (Oh, and another fringe benefit of not asking a woman out is that you can’t be rejected. Pretty cool, huh?)

Take a moment and think about which of these would be most interesting to a woman:

A) A meal and/or movie date that demonstrates no originality, and implies that she’ll have to be considering you romantically, and that there will be pressure for her to be “on,” and then after it’s all done, she’ll have to deal with your attempt to kiss her. Scary.

B) A chance to go out and have some fun, with no pressure.

Which one sounds better to you?

Now, if you’re still leaning towards Option A, think about which one sounds better to HER?

Does Option B sound better now? You better believe it does.

Now, it may not seem to have your interests in mind right away, but that’s not what winning a girl’s heart is about. It’s about forgetting what YOU want for long enough so that you can give her what SHE wants.

Let’s put it this way – would you invest $10,000 of your hard-earned money in a stock you’d never even heard of before? No way! You’d want to see what the company is about, check out the fundamentals. And THEN you might be willing to invest a few hundred or so.

That’s what it looks like to her – potentially BIG risk, and no guarantee of return.

There’s a saying: “You can have anything you want in this world if you just help enough other people get what they want.”

Also, Option B gives her a little MYSTERY about your intentions and your interest, and that is what a woman wants. Remember: hope + doubt = passion.

So now that you’ve figured out that you need to give her a lower investment option to start out with, how do you do it exactly?

Easy. If you’ve only just met her on the street, you should see if she’s got a minute for coffee or tea at the local coffee shop. Take the opportunity to build a little rapport and show her that you’re FUN. The rest will come later if you can demonstrate a laid-back, fun personality.

If she doesn’t have the time, you then shift into a lower gear and get her phone number and/or email address. After you put such a nice request out there for coffee and she turned you down, she’s more likely to agree to give you her contact information, and in most cases she will write it right down.

If she hesitates, which is very likely because you’re still essentially a stranger, then you need to reassure her by teasing her. That’s right, teasing her.

HER: “Sorry, I don’t give out my number.” YOU: “It’s okay, I’m only going to leave you a hundred messages on your machine. C’mon, write it down.” Make her feel a little silly that she doubts your integrity and character. Teasing makes her forget about her weird trust issues.

Hand her a pen and paper and don’t look her in the eye; just wait. The next person who speaks, loses.

Usually, she’ll write it down. You have to be willing to wait out that long, uncomfortable silence while she figures out if you’re a confident guy or a wimp. If you start talking and trying to reassure her of all the reasons she should feel okay about giving you her information, you’ve already lost.

Just act as if she could do nothing else, and she will do exactly what you want.

Once you have her contact information, you only need to get hold of her and invite her to complete the offer you originally made – tea or coffee at a certain local shop. It’s a low-investment, and it’s not too pushy or overtly “romantic” that she has to worry about where things have to go.

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Interviews With Dating Gurus

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by David DeAngelo

Many men out there are looking for dating tips from many different sources, not just David Deangelo of Double Your Dating. Well, David DeAngelo has an INCREDIBLE solution to this problem. Instead of searching the internet day in and day out for dating tips from different dating gurus, he has a one click way for you to get the information you are looking for when it comes to meeting and approaching any woman.

The Interviews With Dating Gurus series by David Deangelo is the answer to your dating dilemma. In his amazing monthly interview series, David D interviews a different dating guru each and every month, including guys (and some female gurus as well!) who are viewed by the general public as his key competitors. David Deangelo’s interviews with Dating Gurus include one on one interviews for you to listen to with people like the famed Grant Adams, David Shade, FJ Shark, Steve Piccus, Neil Strauss (Style), Joseph Matthews (Mystery), Cliff from Cliff’s List, David X, David Wygant and many, many more. In these interviews, there is no evading questions or pussyfooting around, they get into intense, in depth conversations. I have, on the left, a list of the interviews I have listened to and info from them, this list will be constantly growing so check back!

This is what Double Your Dating has to say about the interview series…

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Now You Can Hear Guys Who Are Masters With Women And Dating Teach You Exactly How They Do It…

Dear Friend,

We’ve ALL seen it, and we’ve all been curious about it…

I know that you’ve been out at a bar, or at a bookstore, or even on the street, and watched a guy walk up to an attractive woman, start talking to her, and then walk away a few minutes later with her number (or walk away a few minutes later with HER).

In fact, you’ve probably seen this happen MANY times in your life.

And the amazing thing about seeing something like this happen is that the guys who do things like this are usually just “regular guys”. It’s obviously not their looks or money that makes it easy for them.

IT’S SOMETHING ELSE.

Wouldn’t it be great to know what these guys are DOING?

Wouldn’t it be great to be able to get inside the heads of a BUNCH of these guys, and listen to exactly what they do and how they talk to women?

Wouldn’t it be great to hear these guys describe exactly what they’re thinking, saying and doing in detail?

Learning From Other Guys Is Vitally Important

In my book “Double Your Dating” and my other advanced programs, I advise guys who want to learn how to be successful with women and dating to MEET OTHER GUYS who are already good at attracting women, and learn from them DIRECTLY.

This is how I personally learned what REALLY works with women, and I think it’s a CRITICAL part of learning how to meet women and get more dates.

Why is it so important to learn from other guys? Why can’t you just read a book and “get it”?

Well, there are a lot of reasons.

Reading a book is a LOT better than nothing at all. You can get a good understanding of principles, concepts, and even some techniques by reading a book. In fact, books are probably the best education value in the world.

But let me ask you a question:

How do you learn things FAST?

Of course…

You either watch or listen to someone else who knows how to do it, and then IMITATE what they do…OR you can surround yourself with these masters (e.g. make them your friends) and learn their secrets first hand.

In fact, in the most famous success book of all time “Think And Grow Rich”, Napoleon Hill devotes an entire chapter to a KEY principle that almost every MASSIVELY successful person uses. It’s called the “Mastermind” principle.

In short, if you surround yourself with a group of successful people, and learn from them directly, you will tend to improve and reach success far faster than if you try to do it all “on your own”.

In his best-selling audio program “The Psychology of Achievement”, Brian Tracy talks about a little-known principle in psychology and human behavior called the “Reference Group”.

In a nutshell, this principle says that you become like those people with whom you surround yourself.

If you surround yourself with negative, unsuccessful people you’ll begin thinking, talking, and even ACTING more like them WITHOUT EVEN REALIZING THAT IT’S HAPPENING.

On the other hand, if you surround yourself with POSITIVE, SUCCESSFUL people, you’ll begin to think, talk, and act more and more like them WITHOUT EVEN REALIZING THAT IT’S HAPPENING.

Other people influence us on an subconscious level, because we as humans are programmed to LEARN this way. And all the great success coaches know this.

Guys Who Are Successful With Women Aren’t Always Easy To Find

Well, as you probably know, it’s not always easy to FIND guys who are successful with women. And it’s not always easy to make friends with them once you DO find them.

They usually have better things to do… like go out with all of the beautiful women that they can meet.

I mean, if you could meet women left and right, would you be trying to find all the millions of guys out there that weren’t successful with women to teach them how to improve?

No way.

You’d be out enjoying yourself with one or more of the women that were in you life!

So how can a regular guy find and learn from these “masters”?

And what should we ask them once we do meet them?

How To Get Inside Of The Minds Of Masters—And Learn From Them Directly

What if I told you that I knew a way for you to learn from MANY different guys who were successful with women?

And what if I told you that I would be there to PERSONALLY interview them and get them to share their TOP SECRETS with us?

And what if I even told you that we could RECORD the interviews that I do with them so you could listen to and review them over and over?

Well, as it turns out, I’ve made arrangements so you can do just that.

Let me Introduce You To My Double Your Dating Monthly Interview Series

It’s taken me literally YEARS to make friends with a group of guys who are arguably the BEST in the world when it comes to women and dating.

I’ve learned so much from these guys personally, and I wanted to figure out how to bring their secrets to others… so I’ve started INTERVIEWING these guys individually, and getting them to share how they do it… in their own words.

And let me tell you, I DIG FOR THE GOLD!

I want to know everything.

I want to know what they do, how they act, and what they say… WORD FOR WORD.

And most importantly, I want to know HOW THESE GUYS THINK.

And because I have gone from knowing literally NOTHING about how to be successful with women to being able to meet women anywhere, anytime, in any situation, I KNOW WHAT TO ASK.

And NO, I don’t ask questions like “What kind of wine should you order?” and “What is the best gift to buy a woman?”.

I ask questions like “How do you start a conversation with a woman you don’t know?” and “Tell me your secrets for taking things to a physical level with a woman”.

In short, I ask GOOD QUESTIONS. And I get AMAZING answers.

One of the most surprising things that I’ve discovered while doing these interviews is that I LEARN THINGS THAT I’VE NEVER HEARD BEFORE. And I’m often talking to guys who I’ve known for YEARS.

Every interview I do is a surprise, and I always learn something great.

Here’s How It All Works…

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Bonus #1: A Double-Length Two CD Interview With A Master Of Approaching Women And Creating Attraction

Listen as I do this “double length” interview with one of my friends who is a MASTER of approaching women in every possible situation.

This interview went so long that it takes up two full CDs. Originally this was going to be a “single” interview, but the conversation was so fantastic that I literally lost track of time. I just couldn’t bring myself to edit it down to an hour, and cut out all the great material inside.

So I decided to offer it as a free bonus for signing up for this program, and keep it “full length”. And when you hear it, you’ll be glad I did.

This program contains some of the most profound insights I’ve ever heard on approaching women, starting conversations, using body language, making women feel ATTRACTION you will ever hear in your life. He’s amazing and you’ll hear it all in this interview.

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This is yet another interview that went WAY too long… and wound up revealing some of the most interesting and unique secrets I’ve ever heard.

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Listen in as we talk about everything from how to make women find you “mysterious” to how to dress… and everything in between.

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I know that you probably want to “try before you buy”, and that only makes sense.

Here’s my offer to you:

Buy the Double Your Dating eBook for only $19.97. Let me send you the first two DOUBLE bonus interviews FREE as your bonus for subscribing to the Monthly Interview Series. Listen to both of them all the way through… and then listen to the first monthly interview that you get. Take up to 30 days to thoroughly go over the materials.

If you’re not THRILLED with the program, just ask for a refund, and you can KEEP THE BONUSES AND your first interview. That’s right, I said that if you’re not thrilled with the program you can KEEP THE TWO DOUBLE BONUS INTERVIEWS… AND get a full refund. No questions, and no hassles.

I can’t offer you something “more fair” than that.

Of course, I’m betting that you’ll want to keep your subscription active forever… and not miss a single interview. From there on out, you can cancel anytime with 30 days notice.

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David DeAngelo

Read What Others Have To Say…

(These have been edited/ names changed to initials for privacy):

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– F.S. – NH

“God bless you for your interview series. I feel as if I am approaching guru status myself these days. I’ve been averaging somewhere between four to seven dates per week. After learning what I have, it is apparent that a lot of the other dating teachers don’t seem to get it.”
– M.G. – Miami, FL

“Your dating guru’s cd’s ROCK. I love listening to them. I would like to personally thank you for making these products. You have changed my life around and how I look at myself. I know your stuff has been around for a few years, but I’m thankful for it, it has helped me get rid of my insecurities / shyness. I tried some of the things you mentioned, and BAM I’m getting women to look at me. PROPS DOG!”
– T.W.

“I have been receiving the interviews for close to a year. Last night I went out to a new local bar and it seemed like all the stuff you taught me is starting to become woo woo way (its all coming natural). I was dancing with a girl, and had no attachment to the outcome and boy was she testing me. But thanks to you, later we were doing things on the dance floor that I can’t mention in the letter. ”
– J.S. – MD

“Most people write about Double Your Dating and the ebook, and talk about the newsletters… I’m here to talk about the monthly interview series. I listened to Patty, who specializes in sexy ballroom dancing, talk about improving your walk. I don’t have the greatest of walks. It’s genetic. My mom made fun of me, my dad, and my grandfather when we walked the way we did together at one such family get together. Today, I was just walking and this girl almost ran into me, and she said “I’m sorry”. I wasn’t really paying attention… and then she said “You have a cute walk…” Needless to say, using information from the ebook, and advanced series, I got her e-mail in 3 minutes… I said “I think you’ll make a nice friend, do you have e-mail?” She said yes, and I got her e-mail address, and said that this way, we could keep in touch and I can show her my other cute walks in future, I’ll walk on some fashion show catwalk and show them off… She then said “I’ll do some modeling for you… Then she finished writing her e-mail down, and I asked her “Are you single” She said “Yes, are you…” Which was surprise… But I maintained my cool by saying “We’ll have to wait and see”… It wasn’t so much the words, as it was the maintaining of my vocal tone, and my body composure. I didn’t freak out physically, I went with it. And then we went our ways. Oh yeah… Some big tall guy was with her. But it didn’t matter, he soon became the third wheel. It’s all about inner game, and if you have no inner game, no one can help you.

Of course, I didn’t do any of this overnight, so thank you Dave. Not for helping with the DYD program, but getting other views, like those from the monthly Dating Guru series.”
– G.I.

“I listen religiously to the monthly interview series. I can hardly wait from month to month for a new one to come out. I am HOOKED. My life has changed fundamentally. You have opened a whole new world for me. Meeting women for me now is like child’s play. ”
– A.J.

“Yo, Dave
Just got the monthly interview series. 2 words for you: HOLY CRAP! the interview with the chick was AMAZING! I wish I had that interview years ago. The insights that she shared were *SO* powerful, I have pages of notes from them. I wished you could have had ANOTHER 2 more cds with her. This has to be one of the best products out there of its kind. A lot of the questions I had on various topics were discussed and I heard the answers from a WOMAN! You can’t get any better than that. Genius work.”
– D. – Miami

Double Your Dating

Dating Tips Q&A: How To Act When A Woman Likes You

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-By David DeAngelo, Author Of “Double Your Dating”

***QUESTION FROM A READER***

Dave,

I’ve become a very generous guy lately.  To all my male friends, I’m giving them the gift of your newsletter.  To all my females, I’m giving the gift of missing me.

I’m a recovering wuss.  I took a few months off of women and worked on my inner game, with great results.  I’ve started talking to new women again, along with old girlfriends.  I find that when the c/f (Cocky & Funny) starts rolling, or even just my newfound confidence, I often get a lot of compliments.  What’s the best way to deal with a girl coming out and saying “oh, you’re so cute/funny/etc…”? Should I ignore it and keep the c/f going?  Should I address it in a cocky way?  I’m assuming that graciously accepting the compliment is never the right answer…

What would you say to a girl who compliments you directly? (other than “Do you do third input?”)  What would your tone/body language/eye contact be like?

-J.M.
>From new hampshire, where men are men, women are few, and sheep are nervous.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, this really is a great question.

One of the most important things to understand as a man is what to do when things are WORKING… so you don’t SCREW IT UP!

If you use the materials that you’re learning from me, you will start to have a magical thing happen more and more often… women will start to do and say things that clearly indicate that they LIKE you.

Sometimes it will be a touch, sometimes a compliment, and sometimes a smile. But these things WILL happen more and more as you get better and better.

I always laugh to myself when I bust a woman’s chops really hard, and she laughs and says “You’re so funny!” or “You really are good!” etc.

I still shake my head and wonder why the hell it took me so long to figure this stuff out.

But I digress… you know, while I’m digressing, what’s with you ending your email with:

“>From new hampshire, where men are men, women are few, and sheep are nervous.”

…?!

This is probably the third or fourth time that I’ve seen this at the end of an email.

Tell me the truth… do chicks dig this?

You’re making me nervous, man. Keep the sheep talk on the DL, OK?

Uncool.

Now, when a woman does something that signals “I like you”, it is VITALLY important that you:

1) Know how to recognize it

2) DON’T do what MOST guys do

3) DO the right thing, and AMPLIFY it

So how can you tell if a woman is doing something that says “I like you”?

Well, it’s VERY important to remember that women are far more “subtle” than men (most of the time, that is).

If a man is interested in a woman, you can see it all over his face. It’s usually very obvious.

But women are different.

Women do SMALL things.

A little touch. A sly smile. Sometimes a comment like “You’re so cute” (as in your example above).

But then IT’S GONE.

Women always seem to act like they’re not quite sure.

They don’t send consistent signals that most men can “read”.

And when they DO send signals that are easy to see, most guys respond in a way that makes those signals stop…which makes things even MORE confusing.

Again, women aren’t as CONSISTENT as men.

A woman can seem like she’s interested one minute, then stand-offish the next.

So rule #1 is:

JUST BECAUSE SHE’S DOING SOMETHING THAT SAYS “I LIKE YOU”, DON’T THINK THAT IT MEANS “I LIKE YOU NO MATTER WHAT”.

Much better to interpret subtle “I like you” cues as “I like you for a second, but if you start acting like a Wuss Bag or Dumb Ass, it will all be over in an instant”.

Unfortunately for most guys, they take “I like you” signals to mean “You’ve won my approval, now you can do whatever you want”.

And what do they do? Of course…

They turn into dorks, say or do a few stupid things, and destroy it all.

Oh, how many times I’ve watched guys (myself included) screw up perfectly good situations because they just didn’t get this concept.

Let me give you an example.

Let’s say that you’re out with a woman, and you’ve been teasing her, and she smiles and says “I like you”.

A typical “male” response is for a guy to think to himself “OK, I’m in… she digs me” and to get that rush in the head and chest.

Next thing you know, he’s acting different.

He’s talking about different things.

He’s giving compliments.

He’s being “nicer”.

And what’s the woman thinking while this is all going on? Of course… she’s thinking “Uh oh, his cool, calm, interesting personality was just a cover for the secret inner-Wuss that was hiding out, waiting for a little bit of approval from me… AHHHHHH!”

Women KNOW that they’re in control of the situation. Or at least MOST of the time they are… and they THINK that they are even during the times when they’re not.

They’re constantly using different kinds of communication to test and “feel out” the situation.

Remember, MOST of the time when you’re saying something that you think is nice, charming, and original, it’s something that a woman has heard about 47 times that week from other guys.

Us guys act VERY predictably most of the time.

And women know how to tell if you’re just another loser who’s pretending to be cool… who will turn into an average Wuss at the first sign of attraction from a cute woman.

Think about what I just said.

This is hard for a lot of guys to swallow… but it’s the reality of the situation.

There’s something that women call “Sexual Tension”. It’s also known as “Chemistry” or “Attraction” as well. But only WOMEN know it this way.

When you tease a woman, make her laugh, play hard to get with her, act unpredictably, etc. in the right way, you will create this tension. This is what usually leads to a woman saying something like “You’re cute” or “I like you”.

It’s the TENSION that makes her FEEL it and SAY it.

THE TENSION!

In these very special moments, you need to turn the tension UP. Dial it up. AMPLIFY it.

Don’t diffuse it all by saying “You’re cute yourself” or “I like you, too”. Or by smiling like a jackass wussy dork who has just seen his first rainbow.

This kind of thing RELEASES the tension, and it usually takes that wonderful electric attraction feeling that the woman is feeling and INSTANTLY kills it.

Does this make logical sense?

Hell no.

But it’s what happens.

OK, so let’s talk about the RIGHT way to handle this type of situation.

Remember when I said that it’s the TENSION that makes a woman feel the feelings and make the comments?

And that you need to AMPLIFY it when you’re getting a positive response?

Nice.

Once upon a time, there was a scene in a movie that illustrated this concept PERFECTLY.

In fact, it might be the all-time greatest example of this principle that has ever been recorded on film.

Remember the end of “The Empire Strikes Back” when they were about to put Han Solo into the deep freeze?

Remember when Leia said “I love you”…?

Remember what Han said?

Right, he said… “I know”.

Perfect.

All of the sexual tension that built up in Star Wars and Empire culminated in Leia confessing her love.

And Han says “I know”.

Awesome!

Imagine being Leia. What could be going through her mind at this point?

An answer like this isn’t easy to understand. It has all kinds of implications.

It’s confusing.

It says “I know you love me, because it’s been obvious for a long time…”. But it doesn’t let HER know how he feels exactly. It requires consideration. It dials up the tension. It’s amazing.

By the way, I read that when they were filming that scene Han was supposed to answer “I love you too”, but the director didn’t like it. They tried all kinds of things, and in the end Harrison Ford made up that line on the spot in one of the takes… and they kept it. Nice.

By the way, one of the BIG reasons why the newer movies in the Star Wars series suck is because there is no character like Han… think about it. It’s all boring, predictable stuff. There’s no sexy, arrogant, funny, wildcard personality messing things up.

Like I pointed out after I saw “Attack Of The Clones”, Anakin had to kill an ENTIRE VILLAGE of Sand People just to convince Princess A. that he wasn’t a complete and total Wuss. Would have been so much easier and more entertaining if he would have just had a PERSONALITY.

Whatever.

Now where was I…?

Oh, yea… amplifying the sexual tension…

If you’re out with a woman, and you tease her because she’s wearing four inch heels by saying “What’s the deal, are you four feet tall without those one?”, and she opens her mouth with the classic “Oh no you didn’t” look (smiling of course, with that surprised smile)… and you dial it up to the next level with “Oh, I’m sorry…Four foot three?”… and she hits you on the arm…

…and then she stops, puts her hand on your arm, and says “You know, you’re funny”…

…what do you do?

YOU SAY “YEA, I KNOW” – in a serious tone.

Or “Don’t try to use compliments to make me like you. It won’t work. Go buy me a drink or something… I prefer gifts and money.”

Or look down at her hand on your arm, lean back slightly, turn your head, and put your eyebrows together as if to say “Just WHAT do you think you’re doing touching me?!”.

TURN IT UP, my friend!

You TURN UP the tension.

AMPLIFY it.

Keep it going.

If you keep amplifying the tension and attraction at each of these wonderful moments, good things will happen.

Good stuff.

OK, I have a question.

Want more killer ideas like this one?

What if I told you that there was a place you could go and download an eBook that contained literally DOZENS and DOZENS of great ideas like this one?

Well, there is. Of course, it’s my eBook “Double Your Dating”. Inside, you’ll learn about all of my personal favorite techniques for dealing with all kinds of situations with women.

This might sound a little strange, but I actually read my own book to brush up on concepts, and remind myself of how to handle different situations. It took me a few years to learn, test, refine, and organize all of the awesome techniques that are included, and you’ll understand why I speak so highly of it when you go and get a copy.

It’s here… you can download it and be reading it in a few minutes. And while your at it, be sure to sign up for my free newsletter for more great tips:

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Double Your DatingYou don’t need David DeAngelo of Double Your Dating to tell you that dating can be expensive, especially around the holidays.  If you are going to bars or clubs to meet women, you can spend a TON of money – on drinks, cover charges, food, clothes and more.  That can really add up in a night, let alone several nights a month!  Well, the good news is, you can really save a chunk of change if you change your tactics a little bit – and instead of trying to meet women in bars, try meeting them online.  Keep in mind, too, that the holidays are a great time to meet women – despite what you may think about the holidays being busy.  In fact, no one wants to be alone for Christmas and New Year’s eve, so, get out there and get yourself a date!

Online dating is a great way to meet women during the holidays for a few reasons.  First of all, its less expensive, and secondly, depending on where you live, you don’t have to worry about the weather being a factor.

If you go to an online dating site, even one of the higher priced ones, they may run you $25 a month if you pay month by month, or less if you pay for more months at a time.   So that’s $25 a month and lots more chances with women than $100 a weekend for clubs – and maybe you get a number maybe you don’t.

And there are certainly things you can do to make your chances in online dating a lot better than your chances at a bar or club.  Here are a few things you can do to get your online dating profile noticed, and your emails responded to by women….

First – always place a great profile picture.  Have a picture of your face, in an engaging pose like smiling or laughing, women love this.  Do not put a picture of you in your deer hunting gear with a rifle in your hand, or a picture of your abs to impress the ladies.  Make sure it is clear and a quality picture.   Always smile – women will respond much better to a smiling photo that your Marine thousand yard stare.

Use an engaging headline.  This is one of the things that David DeAngelo teaches in Meeting Women Online.  Read through the headlines in the dating site you select – don’t put something cheesy like “Prince Charming Looking for His Princess”.  Write something challenging like “Catch Me If You Can!” or Freakishly Intelligent Genius Looking For Wit and Personality” – make your headline something that women have to QUALIFY for, because this will up your value in their eyes.

Next, when you are replying to a woman’s profile, don’t just wink, actually email her.  When you email her, be unique and challenge her, don’t just tell her how pretty you think she is and how you liked her profile.  Pick on her a little bit – engage her.  You can email her and saying something about her profile picture, tell her “Hey, I saw your profile picture and you are cute, but what is with your dog?  It looks like you gave it a crack pipe for a treat!”  Razz her, make her laugh, and challenge her to banter with you and engage in a conversation with her.  That will also make you much more memorable to her, especially if she is a hottie.

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