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I’ve tried every ‘pick-up line’ in the Double Your Dating ebook, and I found out something that I didn’t expect in a million years. In chapter six I’ll explain to you why most ‘pick up lines’ cause you to lose before you begin, and what to do instead.

· The simple thing you can do at the end of a conversation with a girl that leaves her eagerly waiting for more… and… gets HER to make the next call – Double Your Dating pg. 56

· How to give a woman that same feeling of “I have to have him” that she gets from a guy who is rich, famous, or good looking… without being any of those things yourself – Double Your Dating pg. 12

· The thing almost all men do to try to keep a chick interested that actually repels her twice as fast… and often drives her into the arms of another man – Double Your Dating pg. 14

· A proven exercise to develop a stone-cold, unshakable inner confidence that allows you to approach a chick in any situation without getting nervous and without fear of rejection – Double Your Dating pg. 26

· A psychological tactic “regular” guys can use to make a girl ALWAYS choose them over a guy who is better looking or makes more money – Double Your Dating pg. 15

· 7 things you can you do to dramatically improve your physical appearance OVERNIGHT (The best part is they cost very little in time or money… yet they double the chances of a girl responding positively to you) – Double Your Dating pgs. 23 & 24

· The “mixed signal” women give in the bedroom that throws off 99% of all men… leaving her unsatisfied. Here’s what to do instead. (Hint: It’s not what she says, but what she DOES that matters) – pg. 61

· How to finally rid yourself FOREVER of those negative “inner demons” that have been sabotaging your success with women your entire life – Double Your Dating pg. 28

· You know that “choked up” feeling you get in your stomach when you see a beautiful woman you want to meet? Here’s a simple exercise you can use “in the field “ to INSTANTLY eliminate all feelings of nervousness and charge yourself with confidence… right there on the spot – Double Your Dating pg. 29

· The 6 things inexperienced guys do that instantly tell a girl they are NEEDY and INSECURE… and ruins their chances with her forever (Here’s what to do instead) – pg. 33

· I read all the books, went to the seminars, and tried everything. It wasn’t until I did THIS ONE THING that it all started to happen for me. On page 29 I’ll share the single most powerful thing you can do to become more successful at attracting women, and why almost no men do it.

· How to find and meet the guys who are the true masters with women and dating and get them to share their closely guarded secrets with you – Double Your Dating pg. 30

· How to pinpoint and strengthen the parts of your personality that make a woman feel attraction for you so you make a lasting impression with every woman you meet – pg. 32

· 5 things you can do in the crucial first 10 minutes with a girl that instantly let her know you’re “in her league” (When she realizes you’re a “rare catch” she’ll do whatever she can to impress you) – Double your Dating pg. 45

· The deadly mistake too many men make when trying to sleep with a chick that all but guarantees they end up in “the friend zone” (If you only read one thing in this book, make sure it’s this) – pg. 34

· What you must do if you want to keep a woman interested in you FOREVER (This is THE KEY to having a long-term relationship with a girl… miss just this one thing and she’ll be on to the next guy before you know it) – pg. 89

· The 19 personality traits that draw a woman to a man like a magnet. Master just 3 or 4 and you’ll have an advantage over most men. Master them all and no chick will be able to say no to you. Here’s how to do it quickly and easily – Double Your Dating pgs. 37-40

· “The Flake Test” – A simple tactic to use when setting up a date that cuts the chances of a girl “standing you up” down to ZERO – pg. 83

· How and why women TEST men… plus… a fantastic way to effortlessly pass every test she throws at you… even if you have NO IDEA that you are being tested! (The best part is she’ll become MORE attracted to you each time, because you’ll be earning her respect instead of losing it) – pg. 43

· The 4 laws of “unpredictability” and “excitement” – What “bad boys” do to give a woman that addictive rush of adrenaline that keeps her coming back for more (Follow these 4 simple rules and you’ll never have to worry about her losing interest in you… or losing her to another man) – Double Your Dating pg. 43

· You can use the internet to meet women just like you’ve used the internet to find this site. In chapter seven, I’ll show you the EASY way to meet more women—right from the comfort of your home.

· The right way to respond when a woman complains about something (Handle this awkward situation wrong and you’re dust. Here’s how to calm her down and increase her attraction for you at the same time! I love this one…) – Double Your Dating pg. 44

· Why the so-called dating “experts” are dead wrong in their ridiculous theories of “rapport” – Here’s how you can create a powerful, instant connection with a girl by doing the exact opposite of what these “wannabe gurus” tell you – Double Your Dating pgs. 45 & 46

· The 9 words that make a chick feel totally comfortable coming back to your place… even if it’s the very first time you are together – pg. 87

· What to do when a chick tries to play “head games” with you that quickly makes her stop and instead focus on impressing you (One of my favorites!) – pg. 46

· My secret hand holding technique you can use to give a girl “mixed signals” that make her curious and excited about you – Double Your Dating pg. 49

· 3 ways to “tease” a woman that—when used together—build up a powerful “sexual tension” that gives her no choice but to make an aggressive sexual advance towards you – pgs. 49-51

· The 4 things you absolutely MUST do before having a woman over to your house (Most guys miss this entirely… and end up paying for it when she turns and walks out the door) – pg. 70

· A fantastic way to strike up a conversation with a chick in a bar or a nightclub that works EVERY TIME – Double Your Dating pg. 53

· The REAL reason why many women are addicted to drama (soap operas, romance novels, and of course, playing games with men) and how you can use this to make her positively addicted to YOU from the moment you meet – pg. 11

· A simple, 7-part mini course that takes you by the hand and shows you step-by-step how to develop an amazing sense of humor FAST… even if you’ve always been the last guy to get a joke – Double Your Dating pgs. 53-55

· Most men are not very good at reading female body language. In chapter four I’ll show you how to read body language that most men DON’T EVEN KNOW EXISTS.

· How to turn the tables on a girl who is playing “head games” with you and use those same games to make HER want you more! (And the best part is that women LOVE when you do this) – pg. 56

· How to get a woman incredibly turned on in the first 15 minutes she spends at your place… without ever touching her! (This will drive her THROUGH THE ROOF with anticipation… don’t be surprised if SHE makes the first move) – pgs. 87-88

· Why most guys actually shoot themselves in the foot when they compliment a woman… Here’s the crucial thing you need to do differently if you want to get results – Double Your Dating pg. 58

· How to use your body language to project unshakable confidence and MASCULINE POWER that makes you appear more desirable than any other man in the room (Your friends will never figure out why the women keep coming up to YOU instead of them) – pg. 64

· An eye contact secret of the “players” you can use to captivate a girl from across the room… even if she catches you by surprise – pg. 65

· The “big secret” no relationship book will ever tell you about chick’s body language (This will help you advance things with a woman TWICE as fast) – Double Your Dating pg. 66

· Here’s one of my favorites! – How to make a girl believe that it’s her that’s ‘picking up’ on you (I know, this one sounds pretty out there, but I do it ALL THE TIME—and women love it!) and I’ll tell you exactly how I do it on page 71.

· My special secret to turning any phone conversation with a chick into a steamy erotic encounter that makes her want to hang up the receiver… and run straight over to your house! – pg. 67

· A simple phrase you can say to a woman that makes her see you as a “psychic powerhouse” who knows every little thing about her… and more importantly… how to please her – pg. 11

· How to use chivalry to sweep a girl off her feet (This is the one secret women wish all men knew… but unfortunately it can’t be found anywhere else) – pg. 72

· My favorite “never fail” way to start a conversation with a woman that works EVEN BETTER on very attractive women (The best part is it gets HER doing the talking… while you just sit back and listen) – Double Your Dating pg. 77

· My proven 10-step formula for meeting women online that you can learn in 5 minutes and start using right away (Don’t be surprised when your friends interrogate you to find out where they are all coming from) – pg. 79

· A “why didn’t I think of that” way to easily find and meet a chick who is exactly what YOU are looking for – pg. 35

· A simple psychological secret that makes a girl TWICE as likely to give you her phone number and email address –Double Your Dating pg. 81

· What to say to a woman when she’s writing her phone number down that guarantees she gives you THE REAL DIGITS … and… a number she actually answers – pg 81

· My proven step-by-step sequence for turning a woman’s phone number into a date… exactly when to call and what to say to GUARANTEE you see her again – pgs. 82-84

· On page 21 I’ll explain how to dress and groom yourself (inexpensively) to attract the girl or women that you want – I even give you specific clothing and cologne recommendations.

· A psychological secret you can use to guarantee a chick will ALWAYS return your phone calls… and fast – Double Your Dating pg. 83

· The 9-word phrase you can say at the end of a phone conversation that sets you up as the biggest “challenge” she’s had in her entire life! (Don’t be surprised if she tries to seduce you when she sees you in person… seriously) – pg. 84

· Why women turn to certain men for dinners and dates and other men for sex (Here’s how YOU can turn the tables and always be the one who makes the choice) – pg. 82

· A strategic move that sets any date off right by putting HER in the position to try to impress YOU – Double Your Dating pg. 82

· Most guys I know don’t know how to get the confidence to meet women. In chapter two, I’ll teach you how to fix your self-image so you can have the confidence to meet women in any situation.

· What to say when a woman asks you a “loaded” question to smoothly and easily avoid it altogether – Double Your Dating pg. 62

· Everyone knows that women love men who make them laugh. Would you believe that I took the time to study comedy so I could attract women? In chapter four, I’ll tell you exactly how to become funnier— and I even give you a set of exact lines to use during conversation to make women laugh hysterically – pg. 50

· My 10-step first date “formula” that GUARANTEES a great time (Most guys mess this up and never end up seeing the girl again… Use this strategy to build her interest to the point where SHE is the one calling YOU because she can’t wait to see you again) – pgs. 85 & 86

· 10 years of studying psychology and behavior has taught me a lot about people. In chapter one, I’ll give you a specific map of the female mind and how women think, so you can know exactly what you’re dealing with.

· Would you like to know how to attract beautiful women without the benefit of looks or money? I thought so. Starting on page 29, I go into detail and explain exactly how to do it.

· 3 ways “bad boys” use the power of “mixed messages” to drive a girl wild with curiosity and excitement – Double Your Dating pg. 58

· I’ll also teach you all of the basics of how to deal with women, from the first conversation to the bedroom (This is important, as most men have at least ONE area that they’re weak in… I explain it all in the Double Your Dating ebook.)

And much, much, much more…Get it NOW!

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WHY The Dumb Jock Gets The Girl

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Here is another brief crash course on being the alpha male for you guys.  Take head, and learn the alpha male system or your success with dating and women will continue to be less than what you want it to be!

I’m on my way to the supermarket the other day listening to the radio like I always do.  I’m singing along to the lyrics of Everything You Want by vertical Horizon when suddenly I have an epiphany!  Do you know the song I’m talking about?  It goes,” he is everything you want, he is everything you need… but he means nothing to you and you don’t know why”?

This is a truly amazing song if you can stop and think about what the words are really saying.  The song is describing the lifelong plight of the “nice guy”.   It’s surprising how many nice guys have problems hooking up with women.  They can’t get a date because of the simple fact that they are TOO nice – the are not the attractive alpha male.

It’s really very clear cut when you think about it.  The nice guy doesn’t get the girl BECAUSE he is a nice guy.  Since he’s a nice guy – women do not feel attracted to him.  This is the kind of man that women are friends with — not lovers.

The simplicity of it all struck me while I was listening to Everything You Want.  These nice guys are everything that women SAY they want.  They are sweet, complementary and romantic, and they probably love their families and their mothers.  But while he is everything she says she wants – she wants nothing to do with him.

What you will see is the attractive woman going out with some no brain jock that chugs beer and reads at a first grade level and treats her like a pet.  Why does the hot chick date the dumb jock?  It’s very simple — she feels attraction for him.  Why?  Because he is an alpha male!  he knows the rules of masculinity and confidence with women!  (HINT: These can be LEARNED!)

What I am NOT saying is that you should be rude or treat women like crap.  What I do want to tell you is that in order to get a date you need to create attraction with a woman from the beginning.  You need to create that attraction and fan the flames to keep it going.

So what does a single man do to accomplish this?  There are any number of things you can do, but one of my personal favorites is using a little humor combined with roguish behavior (otherwise known as Cocky Comedy).  In other words – you need to bust her balls and keep her on her toes at all times.  She needs to NOT know what you might do next in order to keep her from being able to tell if her charms are working on you.

Nice guys are the first to let women know they are attracted to them by giving them compliments, buying them drinks and generally treating her like a queen.  But what this does is it kills the attraction because it kills the game for a woman.  The dumb jock is not going to let her know how much he wants her or how attracted he is.  He is going to make her be the one to vie for his attention.  That, my friend, is what will get you the girl.  That is the first step in becoming a truly confident alpha male.

Keep these words in mind if you’re that unlucky nice guy.  Keep the lyrics in mind and remember to quit being the man she thinks she wants and start being the man you know she wants.

Deserve What You Want

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By Scot McKay

Let’s talk about someone who deserves to be covered in WAY more detail than I’ve ever shared before.

It’s clearly time to do so, because I’m getting more and more e-mails from guys who are going on dates with her–often leading to long-term relationships with her.

I’m referring, of course, to the infamous “double-standard chick”.

On the surface, she’s probably beautiful, intelligent and possibly even fun to be with.

But after only a short time of hanging out with her, you start to realize that something doesn’t feel right.

Essentially, you feel like she’s got rights and privileges that you aren’t free to reserve for yourself.

Worse, you feel as if you’d be either selfish or flat-out ridiculous were you to make an issue of it in any way.

For example, she is disappointed, hurt or even straight-up angry when you even so much as glance at another woman at the mall. Whether you actually did so or not is unimportant. She believes you did, so you’d better stop it.

Meanwhile, she has quite a number of guys in her life who are “just really, really, really good friends”. When they show up, they hug her, banter with her and behave in a manner that you are all but sure is flirting.

And sure enough, she hits them on the shoulder and giggles in return.

Sometimes, she even hangs out with them…as in on a “1-on-1 basis”. They get sushi. Study together. Get a few drinks.

And sometimes she sort of gets too tired to drive home, so she crashes at his place…on the couch, of course.

That’s all okay, though, because he’s “like a big brother” to her.

Do you say anything when this goes on?

Probably not. After all, that would make you appear insecure. You’d look like you were threatened.

And that’s not very masculine. You’ve been taught that being “needy” is a bad idea, it is NOT  a trait of the Alpha Male. So you back off.

But the fact remains that you know if you were to hang out with other women like that, she WOULDN’T put up with it.

So how does she get away with this?

Simply put, she’s got a DOUBLE-STANDARD working.

And YOU, my good man, have BOUGHT INTO it.

The programming goes something like this:

Step One: Believe all men are dogs, only want one thing, and therefore are untrustworthy.

Step Two: Believe that women, on the other hand, are the ones who are universally committed to faithful relationships and monogamy. All they want is “Mr. Right”.

Step Three: Women are givers of life and nurturers, whereas men are the ones responsible for wars and strife. So if there’s a problem, it’s the guy’s fault…

Step Four: …and WHEN there’s a problem, the guy’s response is expected to be one of aggression and oppression toward the more passive woman, who is in danger of being physically and/or emotionally abused at any given moment.

So the end result of such programming is that a woman considers herself inherently trustworthy. She knows SHE wouldn’t cheat or anything.

Meanwhile, however, since you are a guy, what are understood to be YOUR “inherent” traits must be kept under lock and key.

“But wait a second,” you ask, “all I really want is a great girlfriend. And even if I am dating more than one woman, I’m honest and respectful about it. And hey, it’s not like I’ve started any wars lately. I’ve never even been in a fistfight.”

“Besides,” you say, “every time I’ve ever seen an episode of ‘Cheaters’ there’s as many women on there running around as men.”

Indeed.

So how did this happen?

Moreover, how is it that we as guys can watch ourselves getting “owned” right before our very eyes, yet we feel much more comfortable pretending it “isn’t what it looks like” rather than standing up to the “double-standard”?

And why do we feel compelled to tell her to “have fun” with a wave and a smile when she goes out with her friends to a bar or club-looking hotter than we’ve seen her in weeks-when we’re loaded down with guilt if we go to the sports bar on a Saturday afternoon to watch the game and have a beer or two with the guys?

Here it is: You’ve ALLOWED YOURSELF to take on the archetypal guilt of every other guy before you who allegedly acted like an I/J (Idiot/Jerk).

In other words, you believe women are the “oppressed” race, and that you are part of the social group who is historically responsible for the “oppression”.

So you walk on eggshells.

After all, you most certainly want to be part of the solution rather than the problem.

You want to correct millennia of errant behavior on the part of men everywhere-all the way from dragging women into the cave by their hair to paying them less per hour compared to men for the same type of work.

You might even subconsciously feel it’s incumbent upon you to make “restitution”, as preposterous as that sounds when printed in black and white.

And “Double-Standard Chick”? She’s more than happy to allow you to take that on.

In fact, even years into a long-term relationship when guys are getting nagged a lot, it’s often because of unresolved “double-standard” issues.

Well, either that or she’s doing all the housework.

So let’s talk some sense here for a second.

First of all, consider that there are quite a few women who are reading this newsletter. They’re definitely out there, and they read because they like hearing what I tell you guys about how to be a great man – how to be the masculine Alpha Male she is looking for.

But some have taken the bait regarding the concept I’m talking about here also. In fact, in many cases it’s hook, line and sinker.

So I’ll likely get a smattering of angry e-mails from a few of them.

They’ll write me and accuse me of being negative toward women simply because I’m attempting to debunk the “double-standard”.

The truth, however, is that I’m exhorting a more positive representation of one another by BOTH MEN AND WOMEN.

Know this, gentlemen: Not EVERY woman subscribes to the “double-standard”.

Some believe that great men of character-like you-exist. They’d rather avoid negative influences in their life, think the best of a great man who comes along, and focus on having a healthy relationship.

This means that if you are indeed that “Big Four” guy (an Alpha Male) (masculine, confident, ability to inspire safety/security, high-character) you should EXPECT that such a woman will respond positively to you.

After all, you will share mutual respect and have each other’s best interests at heart.

Sound too good to be true?

If so, your reality needs an overhaul.

When you BUY IN to the “all male behavior is bad behavior” concept, you begin very quickly to feel actual, raw SHAME over simply being male.

This is particularly messed up because WOMEN LOVE MEN.

So even as you begin to “camouflage” your masculinity out of shame for all the “bad stuff” men have done to women over the years, you become LESS ATTRACTIVE.

And “Double-Standard Chick”?

She simply becomes even more annoyed by you, leading to what? You guessed it…a greater feeling of freedom towards treating you with disrespect.

A caveat here.

“Double-Standard Chick” may indeed be quite a gifted manipulator. But then again, she may be a perfectly well-meaning woman who happens to have been subject to the SAME faulty programming as YOU.

So the ultimate irony? Even those women who are beholden to the “double-standard” aren’t always particularly thrilled about it.

If you think about it, that makes the whole thing even more messed-up than previously thought.

Whoa. So what does all this mean?

It means that you DO have the right to consider yourself a REAL MAN and not the living perpetuation of “caveman culture”.

Therefore, it ALSO means that you need not passively endure the “double standard”.

ULTIMATELY, it means that YOU must LEAD. You must be the Alpha Man and stand up, speak on behalf of mutual respect-by name-and announce that your intention is to respect women and enjoy the company of those who respect you in return.

And if that’s not part of her plan, you wish her well.

Sound almost too easy?

Perhaps.

But the key here is to remember, as I alluded to, that some women who live by the “double-standard” are actually disgusted by it nonetheless.

Seriously. You should see the e-mails from women we get who expect the worst of guys, only to get annoyed when they act “nice” thinking it’s simply an indicator of a more covert form of “bad behavior”.

Usually, the guys they write about were tiptoeing around trying not to hurt the woman’s feelings…not wanting to be the “oppressor”.

Not always, of course, but usually.

Now listen, I’m not about to make some Pollyannaish assertion that everyone on Earth is an angel.

I fully get that there are indeed bona-fide I/Js out there. And by the way, guys, they’re giving great men like you a BAD NAME.

And similarly, there are women who mean well and those who do not.

Are You Afraid of Women?

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Deep Inner Game: If you want to read the story of how a man went from not even being able to TALK to a woman he didn’t know… to the point where he can approach any woman in any situation, and get as many dates as he wants.

Learning about Deep inner Game – What prevents men from being successful with women?

Well, the list goes on and on… but one of the elements that TOPS the list when defeating Deep Inner Game is FEAR.  There are many different situations that make men feel fear, but I’d like to talk about some of the most common ones… and what to do about them.

First of all, I’d like you to be honest for a moment about this topic.  Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women and dating?  Have you ever seen a woman that you’d really like to meet, but you started to feel fear and didn’t do anything about it?  Have you ever felt your Deep Inner Game crumble before your eyes?

Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted to kiss a woman… but you felt too afraid because you didn’t want to make a mistake and screw up your chances?

Or maybe you even got a woman’s phone number, but you were too afraid to call back because you didn’t know how to start off the conversation or ask her out?

Cummon, seriously… you have just a teeny problem with your Deep Inner Game?

Have you ever been sitting there with the phone in your hand, dialing a woman’s number, but you had to hang up because you were just too nervous to even talk to her…?

Or out on a date with a woman, and you wanted to kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thought that you just decided it would be better to forget the whole idea and hope for the best…?

Me too. Many times, in fact.

By the way, it’s not exactly FUN to admit that you’re afraid of things.  I’m sure you know that most guys would rather admit in public that they were unsure about their sexual orientation than that they were afraid of women.

Of course, this unwillingness to admit that you have a problem IN THE FIRST PLACE only makes matters worse…

If you don’t admit that you have the problem, then it’s hard to get help and answers to cure your Deep Inner Game problems.

Well, the good news is that you’re not alone.

Almost every guy I’ve known (including myself) has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.

So, STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over your need to deny that you’re afraid. Just admit that you’re afraid, and come to grips with the fact that you’re human…

STEP 2 is to admit that you’d like to get this particular area of your life handled.

STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.  Like BOOST your Deep Inner Game with KNOWLEDGE and EXPERIENCE.

Once you realize that it’s not that big of a deal, then the improvement can start. On the other hand, if you just stay in denial about it, you’ll probably just look for new tricks and techniques to use on women… which, of course, won’t lead to any REAL improvement.

I personally think that one of the biggest causes of fear when it comes to situations with women is:

PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN THINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR SITUATION.

To put it in different words, most guys don’t take action because they’re afraid that they’ll screw up, or that the woman or others around will judge them.

The REAL problem though is that this whole process has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens INSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman that they’d like to meet. Before they even have a chance to think about the situation rationally, they’ve become nervous, insecure, and upset.  their insecurities in their Deep Inner Game surface.

I’m sure you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.

As humans, we have these incredible minds and bodies, but sometimes they get wired up in ways that aren’t exactly useful for the situations that we find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes our cultures, families, or peer groups teach us ways of thinking that just aren’t useful at all for what we’d like to accomplish.

Here’s something that I realized a few years ago when I was learning for myself how to be successful with women…

I thought about this idea that I was having this instant, automatic fear in different situations with women, and that what I was really thinking was “I don’t want to screw this up” and “I don’t want her to think that I’m a dork”…

And all of a sudden something dawned on me:

IT DOESN’T MATTER.

It doesn’t matter what happens, and it doesn’t matter what she thinks of me.

I realized that the fears I was experiencing were more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.

So, I started to remind myself as often as possible that the fear wasn’t happening because there was any kind of danger… and that my objective in a particular situation wasn’t to have it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.

Think about the difference between doing something because it’s important vs. doing something in order to LEARN.

So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I wanted to meet… instead of thinking, “OK, I have to say something charming and original so she’ll like me… and if I screw up I’m going to be embarrassed” – I began to think things like, “I’m going to learn how to get a woman’s phone number within a few minutes of meeting her… and part of learning this is going to be trying a lot of different things that probably aren’t going to work… but in the end, it’s all going to even out because I’m going to have the SKILL that I want.”

See the difference?

Can you imagine the difference that makes in your Deep Inner Game?

Well, let me tell you, that change in attitude made a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to do and try things that I never would have tried in the past for fear of screwing up…

All because I had the attitude of “I’m going to learn something from this and improve my skills…and it doesn’t matter what happens in THIS PARTICULAR situation”, I was able to improve very rapidly.

And the more I began to apply this idea, the more success I had in ALL areas with women… from the first meeting, to getting them to go out with me, to taking things to a physical level.

So do this:

Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation with a woman.

I don’t care if she’s attractive or not.

But instead of having the objective of getting a date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING.

In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, go spend a day starting conversations with women, but make the commitment to NOT get any phone numbers or dates all day.

In other words, no matter WHAT happens, you can’t date any of the women that you meet that day.

See if you can just learn how to do a few simple things like say, “Hi” to every woman that walks by… how to maintain eye contact with women until THEY look away… and how to end a conversation “too soon” so she feels a natural vacuum and tries to keep it going herself…

That’s one good idea for dealing with your fears and building your deep inner game.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

Ben

Why Dating is not Fair to Men

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NOTE: Nothing you do can have as much impact on dating success as getting your “Deep Inner Game” together. By this, I mean your self-image and self-confidence.

This week I want to talk about one of my favorite topics.   I want to talk about the fact that Dating isn’t a “fair” game, and what to do about it…

First off, I want to mention that LIFE isn’t fair. In case you haven’t noticed, almost NOTHING is fair. Fairness is an idea that people have created. I think we probably created the concept to torture ourselves, in fact.

Here are a few ways that life isn’t “fair”, as the concept relates to women and dating:

1) Some men are taller, and some are shorter.  Women tend to prefer taller men. How unfair.

2) A very small portion of the women that are alive are as perfect and beautiful as the women in Playboy and other magazines, and therefore it’s impossible for every man to have a woman that is this beautiful. How unfair.

3) Many men go their entire lives without ever having sex. How unfair.

4) Some men have sex with hundreds or even thousands of women in their lives. How unfair.

5) Some men know the secrets of creating that magical emotion called ATTRACTION inside of women even though they aren’t rich, handsome, tall, etc. and wind up having their choice of beautiful young women. How unfair.

6) Some men have NO IDEA what deep inner game is (How GREAT for YOU!)

The point I’m trying to make is that LIFE ISN’T FAIR!

Dating isn’t fair, either.  Some guys take this to heart, and allow it to effect their deep inner game.

Sometimes a woman will respond positively to you, then the next day she’ll act strange. Sometimes a specific technique will work for you, and sometimes it won’t.   Sometimes you’ll feel great and confident  inside, and sometimes you won’t.

Now, most people don’t like the idea that life (and dating) aren’t fair. They get upset when things don’t go their way, place too much meaning on things that happen to them and responses they get from women, and generally act like life should be different.

Of course, this is CRAZY.

The more that I realized this fact… that life just isn’t fair… the more that I realized another PROFOUND truth:

IT’S GREAT NEWS!

If life were “fair”, then you wouldn’t be able to do anything to change your personal success. You’d get what everyone else was getting.  But, the fact is that you CAN change your personal success in any area you want (including dating). You can straighten your deep inner game out – from the inside out.

And the best part of this good news is that you can not only get better and better, but you can actually turn the tables around in YOUR FAVOR.

You can improve so much that you are actually at an ADVANTAGE when it comes to women and dating.  So, if the idea that “life isn’t fair” is such great news, then why aren’t more people thinking of it this way?

I personally think that most people aren’t WILLING to get up off of their couch, put the
remote down, and actually invest the time and effort required to become GREAT at something.

So, I’d like you to do something right now.

Take a moment, and make the decision and commitment to yourself that you’re going to TAKE ACTION in the areas of your life that you want to improve, and you’re going to do what it takes to stay on track until you get the results that you’re looking for.

Can you make that commitment to yourself?

Can you FOLLOW THROUGH on that commitment?

Can you commit to YOUR Deep Inner Game?

The most important decision I made in terms of my dating success was the fateful night that I decided that I was going to get this part of my life handled… NO MATTER WHAT.

Have YOU made this decision yet?

If not, then make it RIGHT NOW.

Bottom line:

Dating isn’t fair… and that’s great news.

When you turn the tables in your favor, you can create success that most men will only dream about. Really.

By the way…

Another problem is that a lot of people don’t know where to START. They don’t know how to get on the right track and where to learn things that actually work.

When I first decided that I had to learn how to meet and attract women for myself, I spent probably a year or two “wandering around” trying to find out what worked, trying, without knowing it, to get my deep inner game straight.

I ran in a lot of circles trying things that sounded like good ideas… but wound up being B.S. Then, once I finally figured out some of the ideas, techniques and skills it was going to take to really become great at this, it took awhile to really learn the skills and practice them to the point where I could use them and have predictable success with them.

Why am I telling you this?

Because I’d like to save you some of the time, effort, expense and hassle that I put into
figuring out all of my secrets… and I’d like to help you swing the odds in your favor when it comes to women.