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Cocky Comedy – Approaching Women

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Here are some fabulous excerpts from David DeAngelo’s newsletters regarding his Cocky Comedy techniques and how to use them to approach women.

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WOW! Yeah, that’s the best word I can describe your techniques with. I’ve been in situations where I can’t help but smile, or even burst out laughing when I see the magic work… keeping a straight face can be hard just because I never thought it would work so well. Anyway, to the point: I’ve been using the ‘Cocky Comedy you can’t get what you want’ on this girl. Well it was working well, but one instance she was discouraged, and I wasn’t sure what to do. I felt bad, like I broke her or something… I was hoping you could help me with a funny line that would give her, or any other girl alike, a good feeling after they turn around and feel bad. I wanted to make sure and not turn into ‘PUSSYMAN’ to make her feel better. Rather, something to encourage her to pursue me, and give her the ‘it’ll be worth your while impression.’ Your advice seems to have covered everything but this, or I just missed something. Help make it clear. I appreciate the time you put into saving our lives. I think I was on the verge of wasting a lifetime before I was introduced to your work.

F. F. Toronto

>>>David DeAngelo’s response in the Double Your Dating – How To Be Successful With Women

One of the things you need to watch for when you’re learning to be cocky & funny and using Cocky Comedy is GOING TOO FAR.

I’ve seen guys get a little too cocky, while forgetting that FUNNY is a key component of the formula… and then winding up turning a woman off instead of making a woman laugh.

I’ve done it myself a few times…

Just remember, if you wind up coming across as arrogant and hurting a woman’s feelings, you need to change the frame of what’s going on.

Try saying:

“Lighten up… what, you don’t have a sense of humor?”

This tells the woman you’re talking to that it was a joke without you turning into a wussy in her eyes.

Then add more humor.

Women are very adaptable, and if you take things too far, just remember to diffuse the situation quickly and learn from it. Once she sees that you were just busting on her, she’ll most likely bounce right back.

Unfortunately, too many guys will turn into insta-wuss and start apologizing. Don’t do that!

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

You are more than just the man; you’re the man’s man. I don’t know how the hell you did it, but you’ve done what Freud couldn’t–figure out what a woman wants. Buy the BOOK!!!! There’s so much more to learn from it, including BRIDGES and SEX SECRETS. In Sex Secrets, Dave even teaches you how to transition into the position that woman hate, but men love…DOGGY-style!!!! You can’t beat this. You had better believe I’ve got a SUCCESS STORY.

My cousin (he has a long-term girlfriend) and I wanted to work on our Cocky Comedy routines, so we decided to go to Barnes and Noble…like you said normal places.

NOTE: he went to work on his Cocky Funny, but not to meet women. Anyways, I tell you what: its nerve racking as hell approaching a girl, but each time I went and talked to girl I became more and more confident. I RECOMMEND this to anyone: find a friend who has some balls and go with him…it was good having the support, and we had an awesome time. In the end, my cousin got this hot ass model chic’s e-mail, along with the usually “you’re kind of rude.” (He accused her of faking a cell-phone call …LOL) But whatever, it worked. Anyways, later we met this chic…I didn’t have anything to lose, so I went balls to the wall with the Cocky Comedy. She completely dug it, she was hinting at sex and all that.

PROBLEM: I eventually found out she was married, and like you say, there’s too many women out there to ruin relationships. The point is THAT A MARRIED WOMEN WANTED TO RISK HER MARRIAGE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO SHE FOUND ATTRACTIVE!!!!!!!!! My question is this:

We sometimes found that our jokes didn’t always catch. For example, my cousin walked into Ravegirl and accused the waitress of stealing. LOL. She didn’t quite take the joke, and she got all pissy (Don’t worry he didn’t apologize). How do you hint that what your saying is supposed to be a joke? Should you smile (I know you say to avoid this)? Also, what books other than Comedy Writing Secrets do you recommend? Also, we’re both attractive (I’m getting a 9 at HotorNot.com), thus we have to work on the FUNNY part of Cocky and Funny because chicks assume the cocky part.

PS. Don’t forget to keep us posted on the videos or audio tapes of the seminar. I couldn’t make it.

PPS. Even when we failed, we laughed our asses off. It was great. Just make sure that your partner pushes you to go by YOURSELF to talk to the chic.

–Student in NY, 21 years old

>>>David Deangelo’s Comments in the Double Your Dating Newsletter:

You have some great points here… and I think that you’re going to find your balance very soon.  A quick distinction that I’ll point out to you:

When you’re first meeting a woman, I think it’s better to just get the email/number and leave.

Then, when you email, talk on the phone, and meet up later start being more cocky and funny…

This will probably help you out A LOT.

As for married women… I don’t recommend going there.

A final note: If you’re a pretty good looking guy, you might turn down the cocky, and turn up the funny.

Women perceive good looking guys who act cocky as MAJOR PLAYERS, and too much cocky too soon can backfire on you. Learn the art of the “sly smile”… squint a bit and smile just barely. This says “I just teased you but you didn’t get it…”

It’s great…

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Using Humor To Attract Women

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While there is no “magic bullet” out there that will turn you from dud to stud with women overnight, if there is something that comes close, it would have to be the skill of COCKY COMEDY.

It’s no coincidence that almost every guy who is a “natural” at meeting women is a MASTER of Cocky Comedy (whether he knows it by name, calls it Cocky Funny, Humor or whatever).

There’s just something magical about communicating in this way… it says all of the right things about you… and lets a woman know INSTANTLY that you are funny, confident… and a “catch”.

The best part?

It’s the one skill that any guy can start using IMMEDIATELY to increase his success with women…even if he’s never been great with women in the past… and… even if he isn’t all that great at Cocky Comedy itself.

Huh?

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Let me explain…

On the previous page, I gave you quite a few examples of what is in David DeAngelo’s Cocky Comedy program. But what you didn’t experience (and won’t unless you do buy the program) is the huge boost in confidence that KNOWING how to interact with women will give you.

The point is, what’s in it for me, right?  Seriously.  I get that.  And what you will get is HUGE – its the ability to meet and talk to women, anywhere, anytime, with confidence and without fear of rejection.  That is what you are here looking for, correct?  And how much is that worth to you?  I bet quite a bit, if you are anything like me.  And I didn’t want to be a pick-up artist.  All I wanted was to be able to meet enough women to meet THE ONE woman that I was looking for.

Here is a little more about what you are going to learn in t he program…

-The big mistake guys make when using Cocky Comedy that forces them to FAIL no matter how good the “line” they say is (If you’ve tried out Cocky Comedy but have had less than stellar results, I can practically GUARANTEE that you are making this deadly mistake)

-How to “ease into” Cocky and Funny – Use this simple fix if you are experiencing the problem of coming off as too much of a “jerk” to women

-How you MUST use Cocky Comedy DIFFERENTLY when dealing with different types of women (From the girl next door to the girl that can’t walk out of her door without getting swarmed by men… my friend explains it ALL…)

-An AWESOME line to use on a waitress that will spark a fun, flirty conversation with even the most stand-offish of women (This one is so good you’ll use it every time you are in a restaurant. Hint: It works especially well with those HOT bartenders that get hit on all the time)

-A great Cocky & Funny line to use at an “awkward” point in a conversation to get things back on track that will make any woman laugh

-A way to strike up a conversation with a woman who is in line that works every time (You’re going to want to hit the mall immediately after you hear this one)

-ANOTHER great way to make fun of a woman’s clothing (Even funnier than the one I shared with you earlier!)

-A hilarious way to tease her about her MUSIC

-How to use Cocky Comedy to meet tons of women ONLINE (how to “break through” to the women who are getting hundreds of emails a day and stand out as the ONLY one she wants to talk to.

How To Use Humor To Meet Women!

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So many men are looking for an “Instant Fix” when it comes to beefing up their pick-up game. One of the easiest techniques of David DeAngelo’s entire repertoire of dating tips to master is the Cocky Comedy (or as some people call it Cocky and Funny) routine.  If you don’t have ANY of David’s programs, you at least need to try Cocky Comedy.  It is a staple of the successful dating life that YOU want to have.

The thing about Cocky Comedy is that it can be used by any man, anywhere, and its much more than a “routine” to make a woman laugh. Cocky Comedy is all about presenting an image of an alpha male, the image of a cool, relaxed man-in-charge. The entire premise is to CREATE ATTRACTION.

One of the great things about Cocky Comedy is that you can start using it by simply learning a few proven “lines” then getting out there and trying them out. It’s a great way to practice and the best part is that you will see INSTANT RESULTS.

So what ARE just a few of these “Magic Pick Up Lines”? Well, here are just a couple…

· If my friend is hanging out with a woman and she asks him if something she is wearing looks bad… or if she asks him: “Do I look fat in these pants?” he’ll reply, “Only if you have sight…”

· She tells you to have a good day – tell her “Don’t tell me what to do! I don’t even know you and you’re already ordering me around!”

· You see a girl coming through the bar that you want to talk to – step out right in front of her to block her from where she is going. When she looks at you like, “Hello??” say to her, “Were you trying to get through here?” She’ll be like, “Well, ya!” and say, “Oh, well, no. You can’t”.

· She tells you she likes you. Say, “I like me too!”

· I’m new in town, could I have directions to your house?

· What’s a slutty girl like you doing in a classy place like this – OOPS!!!

Here is an entire list of what else you will learn with the Cocky Comedy program:

· How to blend Cocky Comedy with your natural personality in a way that will allow you to feel comfortable while getting amazing responses from women

· How to use Cocky Comedy in your phone conversations with women to smoothly and easily set up dates

· A Cocky & Funny answering machine message that practically forces a woman drop whatever she’s doing and call you back the MINUTE she hears it

· A hilarious way to break the ice with a hot woman who’s behind the cash register at a store using witty humor at its finest

· 3 playful Cocky & Funny moves you can use to spice up any date and make it the best time she’s ever had with a man without using stupid jokes

· A technique to use AFTER you make eye contact with a woman that “breaks the ice” and gets HER to approach YOU… even if she’s across the room!

· A funny “trick” you can play on a “snooty” woman that will instantly get her laughing and in a great mood

· What to say to a woman when she’s in your bedroom if you want to guarantee that she’ll COME BACK AGAIN (this one is great because it’s DAMN funny, too)

· A smooth and easy way to meet a woman on an elevator (or in any confined space where you don’t have much time)

· A secret weapon used by guys who are “naturals with women” you can learn in literally 5 minutes that gives you an instant advantage with REALLY ATTRACTIVE women… the kind that most guys would consider “out of their league”

· A simple exercise you can use to get your “inner game” match to your new skills in a way that makes your Cocky Comedy flow naturally

· A fantastic way to make every waitress in a restaurant love you… even if the one you like isn’t serving you!

· Great comebacks to use when a woman busts on you or rejects you that will immediately put the power in your hands

· The 10 “Laws Of Cocky Comedy” – The master’s step-by-step plan that will cut YEARS off of your development and have you naturally using Cocky Comedy comfortably in less than 3 days

· How to use HUMOR to make any woman think you are a “sex god”… even if you have little or no sexual experience (and it won’t come off in an “offensive” way)

· A funny way to meet a woman in a restaurant that’s guaranteed to make an impression… and get her attention focused on YOU

· An amazing, FUN (and much cheaper) alternative to a “date” that women love

Carlos Xuma On Personality

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Personality and the Biggest Male Mistake with Women

This is one of the questions I get on the alpha male system all the time.  How can you have the right attitude, the right personality, to reflect your alpha male stature and get the women?  In other words, how do you begin becoming an alpha male?

Well, have you ever met someone that you felt was just really boring? Bland? Dull? It’s interesting, because it’s rarely about what a person HAS that adds up to their being boring; it’s what they’re MISSING. Personality…

Have you ever met someone that you felt was just really boring? Bland? Dull?
It’s interesting, because it’s rarely about what a person HAS that adds up to their being boring; it’s what they’re MISSING. A person lacks personality because they are like a song without any hook or catchy riff.

Man – they are elevator music!!!!

You gotta have personality if you’re going to get a woman interested in you.

A woman has to feel that static crackle around you, that you’re not like the rest of the chumps with “LOOKING FOR SEX” tattooed on their foreheads.  You have to have the confidence and charisma to show your alpha male personality.

She wants to see some spark, some glimmer of magical presence that you carry.

A woman walks through life fairly bored with her relationship possibilities. I have a theory that most men don’t really challenge them at all. For you to make an impression, you just have to offer her something she doesn’t usually get from the salad bar.

Can you excite her? Can you demonstrate that you are a confident man with qualities that separates him from that pack of wild hyenas?

To snap her out of her stupor, what would you be willing to do? What if I told you that you don’t have to do much to wake her up? You don’t have to juggle, or dance, or perform acrobatics.

You’ve just got to stand out from the rest of the guys out there. You’ve got to be willing to display some PERSONALITY.

What makes up the traits of an alpha man personality?

  • Mystery – The self-control to keep certain secrets and avoid telling her everything about you.
  • Humor – Make her laugh
  • Confidence – The willingness to be independent and not needy of a woman
  • Originality – Thinking different than the crowd
  • Excitement and Positivity – The great attitude and energy of a person with a purpose
  • Hobbies and interests – OTHER than women. This is what it means to “get a life.”
  • Conversational Ability – The ability to communicate with women on a level they can understand and get excited about

There are other, subtler traits that could be talked about in boring detail, but these are the important aspects of projecting a winning personality to women.

If I were to boil it down to just two of these, I’d say humor and conversational ability are the foundation, and the others just serve as polish to make you gleam in her eyes.

If you can make her laugh – a real laugh that says she finds you witty and amusing, without putting yourself down – you will get her to open the door of opportunity for you.

If you can talk to her about that and everything else in between, without making her feel like you’re trying to get her into bed, that you appreciate her as unique and special, you’ll get to step inside that door of opportunity.

PERSONALITY SABOTAGE

Would you like to know what you’re doing that sabotages this along the way?

There’s one thing you do that undermines all this effort to get her attracted with your witty conversation, and you have to get rid of it to succeed long term.

The single behavior that shoots down more potential relationships and is completely under your control is ….Are you ready for this?

The single behavior that shoots down more potential relationships and is completely under your control is ….I’m not sure I should tell you this, but you need to know. It’s important …

The single behavior that shoots down more potential relationships and is completely under your control is ….
COMING ON TO A WOMAN TOO STRONG.

Now the funny part about me telling you that is that you can hear me tell you this, and you’ll even nod your head and say, “Yeah, dude, I know…”  (OR you are thinking, “Aren’t ALpha MALES SUPPOSED to come on strong??”

BUT YOU WON’T STOP DOING IT!

Why?

Why can’t you stop yourself?

I got in a discussion with a female friend of mine the other day. She came in and told me that she was going to Boston and hoped things would go well on this business trip. She said she thought there was an 85% chance that she wouldn’t get all stressed out. I asked her, “Well, what accounts for that other 15%?” She said, “Oh, that’s stuff I can’t control.“

I waited for a beat, then I said, “How you feel and react is 100% under your control. It’s whether you CHOOSE to or not. How you react is ALWAYS under your power. No one else makes you do anything.“

She wanted to argue with me over whether her reaction was 100% under her “responsibility” rather than control, but I refused to back down. She was just trying to find a reason to excuse herself for not doing things she knew she needed to do. Responsibility is not the same as actually understanding that you are not under some other mystical power or influence. YOU are the one who does everything. By choice.

We could go into a whole circular debate over the nature of free will here, but I won’t. You need to take both responsibility AND control of your actions. When you fail to do what you know you must do, there’s a REASON. And until you find out what that REASON is, you’ll probably never change your behavior.

So back to my original point – why do men come on strong to women? (Since this is the one part of your personality that will sabotage all your work unless you can control it.)

It’s because we’re in a hurry. We lack the self-discipline to slow it down.

Men want quick affection, sex, and security with a woman. And then we want the space and relaxed distance.

Women want space and relaxed distance. THEN they want affection, sex, and a build-up of trust and security.

Do you see how this ruins your work?

If you come on too strong, she backs off. If you come on slow and easy (which also demonstrates confidence and self-control) she’ll go along with you.  The alpha male is always in control.  He is never deperate.

Can you see what you’re doing wrong and correct it, without having someone tell you to your face what you may be doing to put them off?

Can you let go of what other people think of you and act based on your internal compass instead of their judgments?

And then can you exercise the self control you need to in order to stop coming on too strong to her? She won’t date you or sleep with you just because you push her hard enough. She’ll do it because her attraction mechanism inside her is turned on by your personality, and then feeling that she has the space to reach forward and act on her desires with you. She cannot do this if you’re all over her like white on rice.

Learn the reasons why you can’t stop yourself from doing what you know you should do. Learn what these mechanisms are inside you that keep you from doing the things you know you must, and then change them.

Carlos Xuma On Masculinity And The Alpha Man

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Do Chicks = Trouble?

You may or may not recognize that as the title of one of Motley Crue’s latest songs.  This is a GREAT lyrical example of the way that men have no idea what an alpha male is or how to be confident around women.

(I’m a relic of the heavy metal days when bands were rowdy and trashed hotel rooms, so I had to grab their album…)

Well, I was listening to the lyrics to this song, and I thought that this is the perception that some guys have of women when they don’t know how to handle her natural feminine force.

Oh, yeah. Just like Darth and Obi Wan, women have a very powerful ‘force’ all of their own.

It’s their FEMININITY.

You know it.

You’ve felt it when they walk by you in those short-short jean shorts and that thin little T-shirt that says: “Girls Rule” on it.

Just a moment of shared eye contact and you feel your solar plexus tighten up like a drum…

Yowza…

Hit me with some more of THAT….!

Just sitting here and thinking about that kind of feeling makes me smile, because it’s something I’ve experience a thousand times, and I know YOU have, too.

It’s the best kind of feeling, but unfortunately, it does nothing for our confidence and ability to manage the women in our life.

Let’s be clear here…

The only chicks that = trouble are the ones that you LET run wild in the playground of your life.  They are the ones that YOU lose your alpha male powers to because you WUSS OUT.

I’ll admit that back when I didn’t have a lot of ability to handle the crazy crap that girls sometimes throw at you, I had a lot of troubles. But I found out later that these same women could be as tame as kittens when they were around men who knew their MASCULINE power.

Oh, yeah. Just like Darth and Obi Wan, men have a more powerful force all of our own.

It’s our MASCULINITY.  Its our ALPHA MALE right.

For some people, that word has managed to sound almost negative lately. Don’t be fooled.

Being a man has never been more important.

So back to that song…

Do chicks really = trouble?

Only if you cannot be the leader – the Alpha Man – who knows how to manage her energy with your own energy.

You ever been out at a bar and a group of women are together, and one of them hears a song the DJ puts on, and she screams: “Ohmigod! Ohmigod! I sooooo requested this! Come on, we have to go dance!”

And she promptly yanks your girl away from right in front of you to go up on the dance floor…

Some guys call this “cockblocking,” but it’s really just girls being girls.

And it’s annoying as hell when it happens, isn’t it? You feel abandoned. Like the rug was just pulled out from under you.

You know what I do when this happens to me?

I just invite myself out with them on the dance floor, making sure to keep my target in my sights, while still getting all funky and dancing with the whole group.

AND I make sure that I’m having more fun than anybody in that group in the process.

You see, most guys either go out on the dance floor against their will, or they just follow-along to avoid being abandoned.

Or, they simply don’t do ANYTHING. They wait around until the group gets tired and comes back with their new drinks…

…and 3 new guys they met while bumping and grinding on the dance floor.

Ah yes. Crazy times.

You see, in a bar or club, or just on the street corner, the person who has the strongest reality will be the leader of the situation. The person that’s most convinced of their own value will rule.

That better be YOU, or the woman will simply never get very attracted to you.

Think back to the guys you see leaving bars with chicks on their arm…

Yup. They’re the guys that are most in control of the situation, leading the women, and having MORE fun than most of the people they’re with.

But if your headspace is filled with more concerns and worries than it is with fun, chances are you won’t do too well. You’ll give off the vibe of the “needy” guy, and women can pick up on this.

And that’s why I’m here to tell you – once again – that chicks do NOT equal trouble if you’re the one in control of the situation – if you are the alpha male.

Not being a dick and controlling things, but just knowing that no matter what happens, you’re the guy with the plan and the path to fun.

The chorus in that Motley Crue song goes: “They’ll kick you when you’re down in the ditch…”

Which is completely untrue.

IF you’re a guy who can sniff out the drunk, obnoxious girls.

And keep your ass out of the ditch!

But let me put something to you…

Wouldn’t it make sense to go find the QUALITY women that are out there?

These are the classy gals that are all over the place, but they don’t really go to the bars or clubs.

  • She might be reading a magazine in the local bookstore…
  • She might be in front of you in the line at Starbucks…
  • She might be on her cell phone on a street corner…
  • She might be in the produce section of your grocery store…
  • She could be anywhere in the other 96% of your life that you don’t spend in bars.

And every time you see her, you just wished you knew what to say to her to start a conversation with her…

Well now you can find out.

All you have to do is learn how to use your “Day Game.”

This skill is called “Day Game,” because you don’t have to do be in a bar or club at night to do it.

What it’s really about is approaching women ANYTIME and ANYPLACE you want to meet women.

I believe this is the strongest strategy for meeting women because it doesn’t depend on special rules to get you into a conversation with a woman.

And you see women all day long – everywhere you go…

Imagine if you could just walk up and meet any attractive woman you see, and never have that feeling of tension and anxiety in your gut…

No more “Approach Anxiety…”

What would that do for your confidence?

How many more dates would you have?

What would that do for your love life?

All I can tell you is that when guys see these skills put to use, they are envious of the guys that have them.

THAT is what living the Alpha Lifestyle is about. Creating the kind of life that other men would envy – and that other women want to be a part of.