YouCanGetTheGirl.com

The Alpha Male And Virtue

By

Every Great Man’s Secret

Ok – you have obviously heard about being an alpha male, right?  Of course you have.  If not, no problem, a lot of guys get false information anyway.  Most guys get it all wrong, because they take the common virtues that women have, such as kindness, compassion and generosity, and think that in order to be a masculine man or an alpha male, that a man has to be the OPPOSITE of this.

Simply not true.

If you want to be a man, a real man who is a leader and a go getter, someone with confidence and appeal to women, you have to learn to master the virtues of a what a real alpha male is.  Real alpha men are not …

  • false
  • cruel
  • arrogant
  • mean spirited
  • followers
  • without thought

Real alpha men ARE, on the other hand…

  • honest
  • confident
  • caring
  • compassionate
  • altruistic
  • leaders

Men, being stereotyped as false alpha males, are often thought to be without the virtues and attributes commonly thought of as womanly or feminine.  However, virtues and characteristics of the alpha male are the characteristics and attributes that one would want to see in a good, strong, faithful leader.

For instance, an alpha male, as the leader of his “pack”, will look out for the good of his group.  If we consider the group to be his family, he is a thoughtful father who takes care of and provides for his children.  He teaches them strong and clear virtues such as truthfulness, helpfulness, honesty and caring.  He teaches them to treat people with dignity and respect, but he also teaches them to treat themselves with dignity and respect, caring for oneself by taking care of the body, mind and spirit.

Alpha males do not allow others to push them around and cheat, lie or steal.  They stand up for those who are in need, fight for virtue and honesty, defend the weak, help the poor and sick and provide for those less able and less fortunate than themselves.

Put in some terms, some folks might think to call these womanly or motherly virtues – however, they can just as easily be applied to the man who has a true and strong idea of his own characteristics.  Vices and virtues are equally applied to both sexes, and simply because women carry the stereotype for having one set of virtues does not mean that the men, the REAL men, have to be the opposite.

There is nothing manly about kicking those who are down, war, rape, pillage and thievery.  There is no honor in making fun of people, capitalizing on the downfalls and problems of others.  Alpha males do not do this – they are upright and strong, not needing to look for the misfortune of others in order to get ahead of the game.

3 Alpha Male Attitudes

By

One of the biggest secrets to success with women and dating is learning to become the alpha male (or Alpha Man, Alpha Dog or THE Alpha man, however you want to put it) – or the leader of the proverbial pack.

What is an Alpha Male? The Alpha Male is the man who is confident, cocky, sure of himself an attracting all the women. Is he the best looking guy out there? Nope – not at all. In fact, I have known some BUTT ugly guys who have been alpha males and the women cannot get enough of them. Why? It’s the ATTITUDE.

Guess what the great thing about this is? Unlike being born looking like Brad Pitt, the Alpha Male attitude is something that can be LEARNED.  It is a SYSTEM – the alpha male system. You can LEARN how to become an alpha male, what it takes to project the confidence and attractive qualities that these men possess naturally. You can learn confidence with women, how to project masculinity and how to build confidence.  You CAN become what they are. Read more to find out how…

Three Winning Alpha Male Attitudes That Impress Women

Have you ever gotten so fed up with dating women and dealing with all the crap that you just pull out of the game entirely? You get sick of being blown off all the time, and really sick of never being able to reach them in the first place.

Hey, I’ve been there.

We all reach a point of disgust and anger about all the silly social rules in the dating game and we throw in the towel.

However, this kind of reaction implies a few things. First off, that you’re needing a particular result in order to keep going. Well, that’s perfectly natural. You wouldn’t show up at your job every day if you didn’t get the expected paycheck each week, now would you?

When it comes to dating women and the whole pick-up game, you’ve got to realize that you may have to walk a while in the desert before you find the oasis you’re looking for. Hey, if that’s the worst news someone had given me a while back, I would have said, NO PROBLEM! Bring it on!

Now the good news is that you can shorten the path to your oasis by being smart about how you get women interested in you. So, in keeping with this, I’m going to tell you about three Alpha Male attitudes that draw women to men.

As you read these, I want you to try something for me. No matter how ‘obvious’ what I might say seems, I want you to re-think your beliefs about them, and see if you are still, perhaps, working under the opposite belief in some way.

If that sounds confusing, just wait and we’ll go into it in more detail.

Let’s start with things that women find alluring. These are my top Three Alpha Male Attitudes that will improve you 100+% in the eyes of the women you approach and date if you’ll work on them.

In fact, if you really get what I’m about to tell you, you’re going to have a problem finding time for all the women that will want to get with you.

I’m not hyping it up here, either, dude. I’m serious. With my Alpha hobbies, helping you guys, and the women in my life, I’m starting to forget to pay bills and keep enough water in my dog’s bowl. BAD Carlos, I know.
So here are the Three Success Attitudes:

Alpha Male Attitude #1 – Guys who like themselves

Yes, even though we’re men, we still have PLENTY of things to like about ourselves. Contrary to the popular media that demonizes us, guys are pretty cool. Having a pecker rocks!

I mean, let’s start with the obvious things about guys that are cool: We invented beer and stock car racing. What more do we have to do, after all? Yeah, I’m sure we invented the remote control, and probably the electric guitar, while we’re at it.

We’re GUYS. We make cool stuff.

But that’s not all. You see, women really pick up on guys who LIKE being guys.

And not just guys who like their gender. Women really like guys who like THEMSELVES. It comes across in the way we treat ourselves and the way we treat others. If you like yourself, you probably aren’t a dick.

It’s an easy deduction, because the ironic thing about confidence and self-esteem is that the men you THINK might have it (i.e., Jerks) actually DON’T have it at all. They’re making up for being horribly insecure dweebs. Ya dig?

So the more you communicate a self-liking, the more you’re going to cultivate a more interesting and vibrant personality. And that “vibrant” turns into a “vibe” that you’ll get with a woman when she picks up on it.

Just don’t self-like yourself TOO much there, spanky. Keep the hand lotion out of sight.

Alpha Male Attitude #2 – Guys who are fun to be around.

And when I say fun, man, I mean FUN.

Not that you have to juggle and tell great jokes, but you should definitely have a little personality to show that gets people interested.

The easiest way to cultivate this trait is to open yourself up to being more PLAYFUL.

Being playful means having a slightly childish part of you that you can bring out on occasion to have a little fun with women. Tease them a little. Poke them in the ribs. Tell her she’s got cooties.

Another great way to be fun is to go PLACES that are fun. I like meeting women in interesting spots of San Francisco so we can be interactive. There’s a great place here called the Exploratorium where you get to interact with hundreds of experiments and scientific demonstrations – from magnetism to music to glow-in-the-dark bacteria. It’s a hoot. And there’s a LOT of possibility for physical interaction between you and HER there, too.

Make a list of all the cool places you can go with her. She’ll associate the feelings she experiences WITH YOU. Remember that.

Alpha Male Attitude #3 – Guys who are confident and go after what they want.

This is the one that a lot of guys have a tough time with.

“What is ‘confident’?” they ask.

Confidence is simply your willingness to be who you are with no regrets, guilt, or anxiety. You don’t care what other people think. You’re validated from within.

Are You AFRAID Of Women? How to Increase Your Masculinity

By

This is a guest excerpt from David DeAngelo of Double Your Dating.

What prevents men from being successful with women? Well, the list goes on and on… but one of the elements that TOPS the list is FEAR. FEAR is also known – to women – as a lack of masculinity.

There are many different situations that make men feel fear, but I’d like to talk about some of the most common ones… and what to do about them.

First of all, I’d like you to be honest for a moment about this topic.

Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women and dating?

Have you ever seen a woman that you’d really like to meet, but you started to feel fear and didn’t do anything about it?

Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted to kiss a woman… but you felt too afraid because you didn’t want to make a mistake and screw up your chances?

Or maybe you even got a woman’s phone number, but you were too afraid to call back because you didn’t know how to start off the conversation or ask her out?

Cummon, seriously…

Have you ever been sitting there with the phone in your hand, dialing a woman’s number, but you had to hang up because you were just too nervous to even talk to her…?

Or out on a date with a woman, and you wanted to kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thought that you just decided it would be better to forget the whole idea and hope for the best…?

Me too. Many times, in fact. By the way, it’s not exactly FUN to admit that you’re afraid of things. I’m sure you know that most guys would rather admit in public that they were unsure about their sexual orientation than that they were afraid of women.

Of course, this unwillingness to admit that you have a problem IN THE FIRST PLACE only makes matters worse…and it is certainly notmasculine or mature. If you don’t admit that you have the problem, then it’s hard to get help and answers to it.

Well, the good news is that you’re not alone. Almost every guy I’ve known (including myself) has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.

So, STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over your need to deny that you’re afraid. Just admit that you’re afraid, and come to grips with the fact that you’re human…

STEP 2 is to admit that you’d like to get this particular area of your life handled.

STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

Once you realize that it’s not that big of a deal, then the improvement can start. On the other hand, if you just stay in denial about it, you’ll probably just look for new tricks and techniques to use on women… which, of course, won’t lead to any REAL improvement.

By the way, if you’ve got more than the “average” amount of fear around meeting women, you might want to take a minute and look at THIS (David Deangelo’s Double Your Dating Program) before you read on.

I personally think that one of the biggest causes of fear when it comes to situations with women is:

PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN THINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR SITUATION.

To put it in different words, most guys don’t take action because they’re afraid that they’ll screw up, or that the woman or others around will judge them.

The REAL problem though is that this whole process has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens INSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman that they’d like to meet. Before they even have a chance to think about the situation rationally, they’ve become nervous, insecure, and upset.

I’m sure you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.

As humans, we have these incredible minds and bodies, but sometimes they get wired up in ways that aren’t exactly useful for the situations that we find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes our cultures, families, or peer groups teach us ways of thinking that just aren’t useful at all for what we’d like to accomplish.  Its like the Alpha Males get neutered before they are even born.

Here’s something that I realized a few years ago when I was learning for myself how to be successful with women…

I thought about this idea that I was having this instant, automatic fear in different situations with women, and that what I was really thinking was “I don’t want to screw this up” and “I don’t want her to think that I’m a dork”…

And all of a sudden something dawned on me:

IT DOESN’T MATTER.

It doesn’t matter what happens, and it doesn’t matter what she thinks of me.

I realized that the fears I was experiencing were more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.

So, I started to remind myself as often as possible that the fear wasn’t happening because there was any kind of danger… and that my objective in a particular situation wasn’t to have it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.

Think about the difference between doing something because it’s important vs. doing something in order to LEARN. So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I wanted to meet… instead of thinking, “OK, I have to say something charming and original so she’ll like me… and if I screw up I’m going to be embarrassed” – I began to think things like, “I’m going to learn how to get a woman’s phone number within a few minutes of meeting her… and part of learning this is going to be trying a lot of different things that probably aren’t going to work… but in the end, it’s all going to even out because I’m going to have the SKILL that I want.”

See the difference?

Well, let me tell you, that change in attitude made a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to do and try things that I never would have tried in the past for fear of screwing up…

All because I had the attitude of “I’m going to learn something from this and improve my skills… and it doesn’t matter what happens in THIS PARTICULAR situation”, I was able to improve very rapidly.

And the more I began to apply this idea, the more success I had in ALL areas with women… from the first meeting, to getting them to go out with me, to taking things to a physical level.

So do this:

Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation with a woman.

I don’t care if she’s attractive or not.

But instead of having the objective of getting a date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING.

In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, go spend a day starting conversations with women, but make the commitment to NOT get any phone numbers or dates all day.

In other words, no matter WHAT happens, you can’t date any of the women that you meet that day.

See if you can just learn how to do a few simple things like say, “Hi” to every woman that walks by… how to maintain eye contact with women until THEY look away… and how to end a conversation “too soon” so she feels a natural vacuum and tries to keep it going herself…

That’s one good idea for dealing with your fears.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.
————————————————–
Copyright 2008 David DeAngelo Marketing Inc. David DeAngelo and Double Your Dating are trademarks.

A Woman’s Perspective On David DeAngelo

By

Dating Advice for Men from an Attractive Woman’s Perspective – Does David DeAngelo have it right?

David DeAngelo of Double Your Dating may be many things – some say he is pompous and condescending to women, some say he is nothing better than a pick up artist.  But one thing I know, from an attractive woman’s perspective, is some of the things he tells his male readers is SPOT ON RIGHT.

As women, we may not appreciate the way he tells men how to pick us up and get our phone number within a few minutes, and even how to use a set of rules in order to elevate attraction.  BUT – the bottom line is, it works.  And let me tell you why.

First of all, David DeAngelo of Double Your Dating tells his male readers that attraction is not a choice – and he tells them how to make themselves more attractive to women.  As a woman, you know what?  I appreciate this!  I WANT men to learn how to be more attractive to me, how to treat me so that they don’t look like a wussy little girl and how to treat me so that I am actually interested in them.  Cocky Comedy, I have heard many women say, is just a big game to men.  But I, personally, like it.  I like a man to be witty, playful and come at me with a little bit of fun and a good and interesting conversation.  I don’t mind if a guy comes up to me and pokes a little fun at my shoes or purse to get conversation going – I am much more likely to respond to a man that can make me laugh than one who comes up to me and tells me how breathtakingly gorgeous I am and turns to a rug under my feet.  No thanks.

David DeAngelo is trying to show men how to act like men in order to get a girl.  I have encountered countless men in my life who I thought, from looking at them, might be a great, fun guy.  And then I start talking to them and all they do is fall over themselves trying to impress me and ingratiate themselves to me, and to me, that is totally UN-manly behavior.  Men are suppose to be strong, not lap-dogs.  Men are supposed to be the alpha, not yipping at my heels to get me to notice them.  I DON’T LIKE THAT.

So guys – if you are reading this – keep it up.  David DeAngelo of Double Your Dating IS telling you what works.  Be strong, witty and be the alpha.  David D does NOT encourage you to use women as sex toys or to be cruel with your cocky comedy – but he does encourage you to use your wit and intelligence to engage in fun conversation and to amp up the attraction.  Go for it!  As a woman, I appreciate this, and I think it is always fun and engaging to meet a guy who knows how to use cocky Comedy and how to encourage attraction from the get-go.  Don’t buy me a drink.  Engage my mind and get to the root of attraction.  The drink buying and the flowers of course, can come later in the relationship – but in the beginning, if you want my attention, don’t beg me for it.

All the Best,

Sarah Michaels

**Sarah is a well known women’s dating advice expert and an occasional guest writer for You Can Get The Girl**

10 Tips On How To Meet Women Online

By

Here are 10 essential and quick tips that will help YOU meet women online. Go for it!

Meeting Women Online TIP #1: Mention Something About Her Profile

Make sure you address a thing or 2 about her profile in your initial email.  Women will know when you’re mass mailing out these emails UNLESS you customize each one to them.  It should only take a few more minutes per email so its not that big of a deal but it WILL increase your results vs. not adding anything in.

Meeting Women Online TIP #2:  Add A Call To Action

What do you want the woman to do as a result of reading that email?  Well, I know you want her to respond, so tell her that. Let her know that if she’s interested you’d like to hear back from her. You can say something like:

If you find (this email/my profile) interesting, I’d like to hear back from you.

Or something similar.

The point is, you need to lead the woman and tell her what you’d like her to do as a result of reading the email.

Meeting Women Online TIP #3: Spell Check

Make sure you have no spelling errors when you’re sending out these emails. There’s nothing worse than a woman reading your email and saying to herself, ‘Wow, this guy can’t spell.’ It totally gives off the wrong impression and puts you behind the 8 ball from the get-go. It takes 30 seconds to run a spell check in your word processing program (15 minutes if you use Microsoft WORD. LOL)

Meeting Women Online TIP #4: Ask A Female Friend

Once you’ve gone through and reworked your profile, go ahead and ask a female friend of yours to have a quick look at it and give you her opinion on it.  If you’ve got an odd sense of humour, it might come off as you being VERY weird and might scare off some women, so DON’T try too hard. Remember the goal of the profile is to let women know you’re a cool, confident, classy, charismatic guy.

Think of your profile as a brochure. Its a point of reference for women to go back to.

Meeting Women Online TIP #5: Show And Tell

What I mean by this is that if you say that you’re athletic, then give an example of what types of sports/activities you enjoy. If you say that you like movies, which ones? State it, then back it up with something a bit more detailed.

Meeting Women Online TIP #6: Your Photos

Rule number 1 with photos is to NEVER EVER have a photo with no shirt on. Its very tacky and women typically will laugh at it regardless of how great your 6 pack abs are. I always recommend using the photos to show off your lifestyle… Give women a glimpse of what you’re like, what type of life you lead. Have a photo in a suit. Its classy and women always love a man in a suit and tie. If you’re balding, that’s o.k. don’t wear a hat in every picture because women will think that’s being deceitful. They want to see what’s up before they meet you. Listen whatever issue you have about your looks/body make it her problem not yours. You’re a great guy and you need to project that to each and every woman that you come in contact with.

Meeting Women Online TIP #7: No Winks

Never send a wink. it shows that you’ve got no confidence and are waiting for the woman to make the first move. Remember that women love confident men and by sending a wink, she knows right away that you lack confidence. It’s o.k. if she sends you a wink but sending her a wink isn’t going to work well for you.

Meeting Women Online TIP #8: Get Her Number Already!

There’s absolutely no reason to wait 3+ emails to ask her for her number. If you’re a reader of this newsletter, you know that I preach getting her number the SECOND time you email her. It shows that you’re busy, you don’t have time for these ‘online relationships’ and you have a life. The longer you wait to ask her for her number, the lower her interest becomes.

Strike while the interest is high.

Meeting Women Online TIP #9: Make Her Laugh

When you finally do get her on the phone, make sure you make her feel comfortable. Remember that’s she’s probably a bit nervous talking to some random guy that she met on the internet. Women have this fear of meeting some whacko, so make sure you ease her fears. Once you’ve done that, your next goal should be to make her laugh… A lot.

Talk about funny things, maybe experiences that you’ve had while doing this. If you haven’t been out with anyone yet, then talk about some funny emails you may have gotten. Its a great way to break the ice.

Meeting Women Online TIP # 10: Have A Plan

Like in any sport, you need a plan for each step of the way. Dating is usually a ‘taboo’ topic for most guys to talk about with their buddies. We don’t want to feel like we’re losers or dorks and we usually feel like less of a man if we ask for help. Trust me, I’ve been there. Listen, Is there anything wrong with a guy that wants a plan? Because maybe because he’s nervous, or unsure about what to do in certain situations. Is there really anything wrong with that?

Is there anything wrong with a guy wanting to make sure that everything goes well, that he doesn’t have to stress out about what to do each step of the way? Or so that he doesn’t blow a TON of cash each time he meets a woman? Is that so wrong?

We get one chance to make this work with women, ONE chance. We blow it and we can kiss that woman goodbye forever, so why not give yourself every opportunity to make it work?

I think that’s smart. If you’re reading this and saying to yourself ‘I really need to improve what I’m doing’ because you’re NOT getting the results you want with meeting women online then I couldn’t agree with you more. Getting success with this part of your life doesn’t just ‘Happen’. Sure you might have some good experiences here and there because you were either speaking to the right girl at the right time or got a girl that was more needy than you were…

But consistent success with meeting women online is the result of knowing EXACTLY what to do each step of the way and then being able to do it. Its about learning the exact SEQUENCE.