One crucial dating tip – and quite possibly the best piece of dating advice that I have ever gotten is knowing the difference between guys who “GET IT” and guys who don’t. The guys who get it, and really get it, are the ones walking out of the bars and clubs every night with a hot chick, and the guys who don’t….don’t.
So what is this golden nugget of a dating tip? Some men feel like they need to make a woman feel good right off the bat and say something “sweet” – like a compliment about her eyes, her hair, her tight her body is, or whatever. What do the guys who GET IT know that the “complimenters” do not? That this KILLS ATTRACTION. Dead! Now!
Why? Because – and this is great dating advice, so listen up – this is the same damn thing she has just heard from the preceding 10 losers who approached her – and were shot down like a 747 over Bagdad. Even if you are sincere – don’t do it!
OK – best case scenario – you tell this girl how she is the hottest babe in here and you just HAD to come talk to her – that you are in love with her ass or whatever it is you are going to say. She says thank you. Now you are dismissed to wallow in the dregs with the rest of her admirers. You have not created attraction for her, you have not intrigued her, you have just lumped yourself in with everyone else. Way to go!
So what is the dating advice? Every single guy looking to pick up women and create attraction needs to X the word “compliment” from his vocabulary, at least on the first approach. The guys who are successful at approaching women are the guys who say something unique… something challenging… something that creates an EMOTIONAL RESPONSE. And whether that response is positive or negative, it spices it up… and THAT is what fuels the conversation past the awkward first 10 seconds.
Experiment with pushing the envelope and saying something super-edgy… something that immediately gets a charge out of her… that she has NEVER heard before…even if that something gets her goat or makes her take a swing at you – its better than “You have the nicest ass I have ever seen!”
So on your initial approach to a woman, go up to her and ask her opinion on something – hell, ask her if she has any great dating tips for men! Engage her, bust her balls (using David Deangelo’s Cocky Comedy), slip in and slip out in a minute or two telling her you have got to run to keep her defenses down and her attraction up – and don’t ever – ever give a woman a compliment if you are trying to pick her up.