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Winning Her Over On The First Date

February 14, 2014 By GetTheGirl

Make sure your strategy is to “win her over” and not “beating her at the game.”

First dates make or break a potential new relationship. With so much on the line, obviously most of us come into them a bit nervous. It doesn’t have to be such a stressful experience though. It is hard to talk yourself into relaxing but you will probably feel a lot more at ease if you start off with a game plan. Try to keep these three basic ideas in mind so that you can get through your first date with ease.

Remember That It Isn’t a Test

You aren’t at a job interview. This is not a test of your manners. She isn’t writing down all of your life’s accomplishments as you list them. It just a first date so try to relax. Try to just simply treat her as a friend that you are getting to know. You shouldn’t be coming on too strong in a romantic sense so it is all around better to just treat her as a person that you are trying to get to know. Be as laid back as you can be. Don’t talk about work. Don’t quiz her. Once you get comfortable, tease her (gently!) about something. Tell her that she’s flirting with you.

The most important thing is that you stop acting like you are trying to sell yourself. Keep in mind that this is also an opportunity for you to decide if you like her. It is most definitely not all about you getting her to like you. Focus more on getting to know her. If you are feeling anxious, start asking her questions and let her take over the conversation.

Don’t Check In With Her

Confidence is always critical. No matter how nervous you are, try to at least fake some degree of confidence. Never ask her how she thinks the date is going. Don’t ask her if she likes you. More importantly, never assume that she doesn’t like you and start talking yourself down to her. Be casual. It’s not very likely that you would go out with a friend and ask him if he was having a good time. You should be much better at reading people than that so just trust your instincts. If she looks miserable, try to change something. If she looks like she is having a good time, just assume that she is enjoying herself.

Pay Attention to Your Body Language

Here is an example of body language: Would you believe him if he said he wasn’t nervous or uncomfortable?

It is often said that your body language is more important than what you actually say and there is definitely some truth to it. Body language is especially important in dating because she is going to be paying close attention to you, whether it is consciously or unconsciously. Make a serious effort to maintain positive body language. Be sure that you are maintaining eye contact while you are talking to each- and don’t forget to blink! There’s a difference between coming across as attentive and just plain crazy. Pay attention to her body language as well and try to mirror her every so often so that she feels at ease. If none of this feels natural, pay attention to your body language next time that you are around friends so you can get comfortable being aware of it.

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Tips to End Conflict Between Couples

January 31, 2014 By GetTheGirl

Leave the gloves on, as in using padded punches and none below the belt!

Discuss your differences of opinion only when both are in a good mood. Avoid discussing the topic of conflict if even one of you is in a terrible mood. Delay discussion till you are not clouded with overwhelming emotions.

Avoid melodrama: Both of you should not make sweeping, melodramatic statements. You are not in the race for Oscar awards. Instead focus on solving the issue of disagreement.

Don’t bring up other issues: Handle one issue at a time and don’t bring up multiple issues while handling a particular one. Stick to the topic under discussion and don’t bring up past grudges.

You must not raise your voice: Getting worked up to a heated tone of voice will not help in solving the problem. Even if all is forgotten, a spouse will never forget that you talked to him or her in a loud tone that upset them.

Don’t delay due to pride: Very often, pride stops us from arriving at an amicable solution. Give up your ego and grab the opportunity for a compromise as soon as one presents itself.
Conflict can be very emotionally taxing and lead to depression.

Don’t publicize your disagreement: Do not ever discuss your disagreements with others like your parents or friends. Do not argue in public as it is damaging to your self-esteem. A couple should feel that they can safely trust to speak with each other without fear that a third-party will be involved in the intimate discussion.

Don’t sleep over your discord: Even if you reach a deadlock in your discussion, try arriving at a stale mate or a temporary respite. Don’t go to sleep with the conflict weighing on your mind. Devote the next day to consolidating the compromise reached.

Check for patterns that add to discord: There are many interaction patterns, which destroy a relationship. Check out for these and get rid of these patterns:

Patterns include starting discussions on the wrong foot, criticizing the other, making attacks on the other’s personality, feelings of mutual contempt, devaluing the other, counteracting the character of a partner, indulging in blame game etc. A contrasting pattern is stonewalling or distancing on one side and flooding or heightening criticism on the other. Another harmful interaction pattern is, doubting the motives of the partner.

Discussing the issue before trying to solve it: While trying to settle a problem, try to have a discussion such that each partner gets the opportunity to put across his or her point of view. For this, define the problem and then together examine each one’s opinion of the problem. Make sure both have been heard and understood.

Solving the issue: An issue discussed is half the problem solved. You can adopt the following steps: First set the agenda or identify the problem. Next brainstorm, even putting down ideas on paper. Converse the pros and cons of an achievable solution. Choose a strategy which you both are fine with. Agree to carry out the solution and fix a time to follow-up on the decision

Conflict means disagreeing, not getting physical. If there is any chance of physical confrontation it is time to walk away immediately and talk it out over the phone until emotions settle.

BONUS TIP: Once you have made up or resolved the conflict, set some boundaries up so that it will not escalate to such a degree of threatening the relationship. Depending on the conflict issue, these could be anything that signals one or both of you are heading down a wrong path. An example might be that you do not like her boss calling her after hours for non-business related issues. A “border” crossing would be her answering his after hours call – after you both agreed that it was inappropriate.

Top 6 Blind Date Fears

January 23, 2014 By GetTheGirl

If you can help it, don’t pull a “no-show”. It would be much better to end the date early.

Dating can be uneasy at the best of times, but blind dates can be particularly uncomfortable for us guys. Effectively, by arranging a blind date, you are agreeing to meet up and spend time with a woman you’ve never seen before and this brings with it a host of emotions, from fear and dread to excitement and happiness. Here are some of the most common fears faced by guys who are planning or going on blind dates:

1. Should I actually go?

Most men have experienced the ‘should I, shouldn’t I’ dilemma just before an early date of any kind and this can happen even if you know somebody, you like them and you’ve had a good time on previous dates. However, the impact of it being a “blind date” adds that element of the unknown. Reality begins to set in when you’re getting ready or you’re on your way to the date causing nerves and an increase in adrenalin. If you concentrate on it too much, turning around and running for the hills may seem like the easy way out. But hey, it’s one night that could out to be very worthwhile. Don’t plan anything longterm in your head right now – other than longterm being the end of the night. If you’re nervous, try to stay calm and rationalise the situation; if you don’t like the person, you don’t have to stay for long and you never have to see them again.

2. What shall I wear?

This is an age-old dilemma, which confronts most guys when they are going on a date with somebody they’ve never met before or they don’t know well. You want to look good, but you don’t want to look like you’ve made too much effort or go over the top. Try to ensure that you are comfortable and that you feel confident; if you’re not sure if something is a bit tight and you keep pulling at it before you even get out of the house, this is probably not the best choice, as you will only feel more self-conscious when you are on your date. Try to dress for the location and the situation; if you’re going to the cinema, for example, you don’t need to be really dressy.

3. How should I greet my date?

This is a quandary that faces many people in day-to-day situations, as well as on dates; should you kiss, kiss twice, air kiss, hug, shake hands or just politely say hi? It’s difficult to know how to react to people you’ve never met before, but often a polite kiss on the cheek is the best option, as a handshake is rather formal and business-like and a hug may be a little awkward at the first meeting.

4. What should we talk about?

A glass of wine helps you both relax a little and can help with the conversation.

To some men, conversation comes very easily, but if you struggle sometimes or you find that it takes you a while to feel confident enough to chat properly with a girl, then it’ a good idea to have some talking points at the ready. Ask your date about their work, their family and their interests and try to find some common ground; if you establish things you have in common, this should help conversation to flow more easily.

5. What should I do if there are awkward silences?

Silence can be very awkward when you first meet somebody, so try to stay relaxed, have some questions ready and choose a date, which provides talking points for your first meeting; going for dinner can be quite difficult with somebody you’ve never met, so why not consider something a bit less formal, like a trip to the zoo, go karting, a picnic in the park or a boat trip, or consider having another couple join you at the beginning of the date. Perhaps you were introduced by them.

6. What if I don’t find the girl attractive?

The emphasis is on looks with a blind date, as you have nothing else to judge your date on; however, just because you don’t find somebody attractive initially, doesn’t mean that you won’t grow to find them more attractive thru the night, as you uncover other aspects of them, such as their interests, their values and their character and personality. Never be put off somebody because they aren’t ‘your type’; you really don’t know that yet and the fact that you are dating means that things haven’t gone right in the past, so perhaps what you think is your type, actually isn’t the best match for you.

Once the blinders come off, you two might really hit it off!

If all goes well in the end and the two of you hit it off, it’s always important to remember to practice safe sex and use the right protection.

Love SMS – Text Appeal for Valentine’s Day

January 16, 2014 By GetTheGirl

For a long time, Valentine’s Day has marked a two-way exchange of love notes in the form of Valentines. However, time has changed and so has the mode of expressing love on this day. The era of romantic greeting cards and love letters is dwindling, being replaced by electronic media, especially easy to use love SMS. If you don’t know yet, an SMS is a short message service normally done through your cell phone. It’s a new way of expressing love. Read on and know how to make your Valentine’s Day rock.

First note that there are many types of SMS but not all of them are romantic. With Valentine’s Day approaching, you may want to consider planning a Love SMS that will make the heart of your loved one beat faster.

But Why an SMS for Valentine’s Day

The beauty of a Valentine’s Day SMS is that it hides and covers us from having to face a person, and yet, tell them how we feel about them. In fact, it is possible to buy an SMS or search for one online that says exactly how you feel about a person. It’s even whole lot easier than picking out a Hallmark greeting card. So, if you are the shy type or the one who freaks out at the sight of the girl or man of your dreams, you will definitely find love SMS hardy, easy and smart to use.

What’s more, you get to send your Valentine love SMS instantaneously and your lover receives it within just a matter of seconds-no inconvenience at all. You can send a love SMS while in a meeting, while eating, while working, on the plane, on the bus and virtually from anywhere in the world. All you need is a phone and good network reception and you will be good to go.

Another area where Valentines love SMS comes in handy is to those individuals who are in distance relationship. You no longer have to feel the gap and distance between your lover and your heart. All you need is to get online and find your lover a cute love message. And when I say “online”, I mean just get to Google, and enter the term love SMS in the search box. Then just like always, press enter and you will be good to go: Flip through the search result page and you will surely get what you are looking for.

In addition, Amazon has a lot of resources about valentine love message. Just go to the site and read online consumer reviews on the various resources and buy the best.

You will get a lot of lovely SMS and even if you are dating someone from another country, you will still get great love SMS that will make your lover feel special and cared for. If you still can’t find what you want, you can always call a friend and ask for recommendations. These will normally be people who have used love SMS in the past and as such, they will be able to point you to some sources that add a lot of value to your love life.

So, now you know how to get the ball rolling your way this Valentine, it all about great convenience, low-cost and staying close to your soul mate with cute love SMS. However, stay safe. Don’t text while driving; you may cause accidents, hurt yourself and other people on the road and your lover may just be among them.

Text Messaging Women

January 9, 2014 By

A few weeks back, I was ‘pregaming’ with my buddies before going out to a local bar. And like guys do, we get to talking about our favorite subject- WOMEN.

Each of us mentioned the different girls we’re dating and I felt a childish need to top them (Hey, I’m only human), So I pulled out my cell phone and showed a few semi-nude/nude pics I received from this one girl through text messaging (For the sake of privacy, we’ll call her ‘Dana’). And of course, my friends wanted to know MORE about Dana.

What really shocked them was when I told my friends that I never met OR had a phone conversation with this girl. In fact, the ONLY contact I had with her was ONE MySpace message and a DOZEN text messages.

Naturally my friends wondered how I could get a girl to send dirty pictures of herself when she NEVER met me! What’s even better is I met up with Dana about a week after this conversation. I didn’t really plan out an activity. In fact, I happened to be in the area with my buddy John and was actually pretty drunk, BUT I knew she lived nearby so I sent her a quick text message and asked if she wanted to join us. Even though I was RETARDEDLY drunk, and had ZERO game, it took ONLY about an hour of IN-PERSON conversation to get her into bed!

Let me say that again…I had SEX with Dana after ONLY 1 hour of conversation. I’m not telling this because I want to brag. In fact, I work REALLY hard to NOT discuss my personal life with people, but I think there’s a REALLY important lesson to be learned here…

TEXT MESSAGING should be a MAJOR tool to use when you’re meeting women. Unless you’ve lived in a cave for the last couple of years, you’re probably familiar with text messages. These are the short, “email like” messages you can send to people through your cell phone. They’re widely used because they’re INCREDIBLY useful for when you just want to ask a quick question or send a brief message. What’s interesting is women LOVE text messaging!

If you’ve watch women, you’ll notice how much many text messages they send. In fact, I think this form of technology is rapidly replacing phone conversations. So when you text message a girl the RIGHT way, you can quickly build enough attraction that you won’t have to do much IN-PERSON game when you see her next.

BUT there’s one major problem here…Most of the guys I know totally SCREW-UP their text messages. They text the way we men typically have conversations. When talking to one another, we like to think logically and make plans. This means are texts are usually straight to the point.

Women on the other hand, view text messaging as a way to get to know one another. They use it to describe their problems and stay in touch with people in their lives.

It’s important to remember this rule when texting!

The way I use text messaging is to build SEXUAL TENSION. Before EACH text I send, I think carefully about how this message will ADVANCE the interaction I’m having with a particular girl.

Whether I’m teasing her, sending “comfort” messages or making plans, my texts are SPECIFICALLY designed to create a STRONG emotion in the girl who is receiving them!

And from the above example, you can see that there is a TON of power behind sending a well-written text message.