I’d like to tell you a story…It’s a story that you might find strangely familiar. Don’t be alarmed. Once upon a time, there was a man who was very attracted to a particular woman. At first, she was just another attractive woman… but the more he got to know her, the more he began to feel attracted to her… and the more time he spent with her, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for her.

But there was one problem. As the guy’s emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, he also grew more and more insecure. Why? Because he couldn’t tell whether or not the girl the same way towards him.

Sometimes she would say things like “You are so important to me” and “I’m glad that you’re in my life”… but nothing ever progressed past the “friendship” stage.

There was an occasional hug, an occasional kiss on the cheek from her… and once she even held his hand for a long time while he talked about an emotional issue.

But something was wrong with the picture. She just wasn’t acting like a woman that was “falling in love”. She was acting like a friend. The insecurity that he felt became a spiral that amplified itself… and the more insecure he became, the more afraid he grew of “screwing things up” by kissing her or asking her to be his girlfriend. Plus, the more insecure he became, the less time she seemed to want to spend with him.

After spending many days and nights obsessing over this girl, the man finally arrived at the conclusion that if she only knew how HE FELT, that she would feel the same way. So he made a bold move. He TOLD HER how he felt.  (And of course, he did this without EVER Seeking any dating tips that would tell him to staple his mouth shut wit an industrial staple gun.)

He confessed that he was in love, and that he would do anything to be with her. She looked at him with compassion in her eyes and said “Thank you… I really mean that… but I don’t want to mess up our friendship… you’re too important to me…”. This only confused the man more. He didn’t know how to take it… Did it mean that she really loved him too, but that she was afraid of something?

Did it mean that she wasn’t ready for a long-term relationship? Did it mean that she didn’t love him, but that she was trying to give him a hint? Did it mean that he hadn’t tried hard enough? Did it mean that he needed to put everything on the line and REALLY let her know how he felt? He finally decided that he couldn’t go on like this anymore… he had to be with her. He had to make sure that she knew just how much he wanted to be with her… so he took a big step, bought her a symbolic gift, and wrote her a long, long letter… again confessing his feelings.

And then the unthinkable happened. She didn’t reply. He called her three times a day for almost a week before reaching her. She made an excuse about being very busy, and said “I’ll try to give you a call soon, I have to go”… and hung up…but he never got a call back. Over the following months, the man tried desperately to understand what went wrong… and what happened.

THE END

That story is basically a MYTH. And I’m not talking about FICTION here. I’m talking about a story that rings true for a great majority of men. A story that is timeless. A story that resonates at a deep level because you can IDENTIFY with it. And why does this particular story resonate for most men?

Because we’ve all been there in one way or another… at one time or another… and many of us have been there OFTEN in our lives. Another thing that gives this particular story a lot of power is the powerful negative emotions that it stirs… as a result of the powerful negative experiences that it reminds us of…

In this particular situation I think there is a solution. And it lies in understanding a secret that women know but MEN DON’T. And that secret comes down to the reality that if a woman isn’t ATTRACTED to a man, all of his attempts to confess his love, convince her to like him, and court her BACKFIRE.

It sucks. And I hope that by explaining the process of how this happens to you I’ll help you avoid this painful situation in your own future…

THE “INSTANT EWWW”

I’m always fascinated by the idea that we humans don’t always understand the message that we’re communicating to others…So often we think that because we WANT to communicate a message that others are going to NATURALLY understand what we’re trying to say. If you do something to “let a woman know how you feel”… but she isn’t ATTRACTED to you, then it’s going to backfire.

It’s going to trigger a feeling that like to call the “Instant Ewww”.

The Instant Ewww is just as powerful as the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION. Once a woman feels it, YOU’RE DONE. It’s over. It’s like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into the coffin.

So what causes the Instant Ewww?

And why would a woman feel it towards a man who was trying to be nice… a guy who was giving her a gift or telling her how he feels? Because if you think about it from HER perspective, you’ll realize that the moment you do something to “confess”, you have created a TURNING POINT in the relationship. Up until that point, you were harmless. I mean, women always know how men feel. She already knew you wanted her. She knew it from the beginning. But now that you’ve started pursuing her and talking about how you feel, you’ve created a
NEGATIVE TENSION that is VERY uncomfortable.

You’ve triggered an emotion that is repulsive to women. And it does repel them.

In summary…

You can’t “make a woman like you” or “change how she feels about you” by doing nice things for her…Doing “nice” things for a woman who isn’t attracted to you HURTS you. It backfires. Worse, it creates the “Instant Ewww” feeling that makes it so she’ll NEVER like you. Men make this mistake over and over again in life because they’re doing what MAKES SENSE to them. They’re doing it because they don’t have an understanding of ATTRACTION.

I mean, If you have a friend, and you like them, and you want to make them like you more… and you do some nice thing for them, they will probably like you more.

On the other hand…

If you have a woman that you “like” in a romantic way, and she doesn’t “feel it” for you, and you do something nice for her because you want HER to like you more, it will BACKFIRE… and she will not only NOT like you more, she will most likely distance herself from you.

Guys think that they need to communicate when they like a woman… as if that’s part of the necessary process of getting a girl.

In their minds, it goes like this:

Like her>Tell her you like her>She likes you

Well remember… if you follow this pattern yourself with women who aren’t ATTRACTED to you, then it’s going to BACKFIRE.

If she’s not into you, then it goes like THIS:

She thinks of you as a friend>You tell her you like her>She gets the “Instant Ewwws” and never wants to be around you again…

THE ANSWER

There are really TWO answers to this problem.

The first answer is what to do if you’re in a situation where you like a particular girl, but you don’t know if she likes you back.

DON’T GET HEAVY WITH HER.

Don’t buy her a big gift and write a love letter… Don’t send her ten dozen roses to her work with a not that says “From your secret admirer”. Don’t call her three times a day. And DON’T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for her. If you want to know how she feels about you, KISS HER (and use “The Kiss Test” that you learned on my website and in my book). Don’t beg her with your Body Language either!

As a rule of thumb, don’t get heavier than HER. Use SIGNALS from her to find out how she feels… and if you don’t know how to read and create those signals, then LEARN.

Asking a woman if she’s interested in your in a romantic way, or if you are “her type” will actually DESTROY the chances that she’ll like you.

Really.

The SECOND answer is to not get into this particular situation in the FIRST PLACE. Avoid it entirely.

And how does one do that? One does that by creating ATTRACTION from
the beginning. One does that by understanding the dynamics of how and why women have the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered.

One does that by knowing what you’re doing FROM THE BEGINNING. And what’s the best way to learn THAT skill?

I thought you’d never ask…

The very best way to learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you is to get yourself a copy of my eBook, Double Your Dating.

I’ve spent several years now studying the ways that men who are “naturals” communicate using their words, voice tone, and body language that makes them MAGNETIC to women. And I’ll tell you… it’s not magic. You don’t have to be rich, handsome, or young. And you don’t have to be LUCKY. What you DO have to do is LEARN.

It’s a skill, and I honestly believe that ANY man can learn it if he wants. But you’re not likely to figure it out by “trial and error”. Many of the keys to making
women feel ATTRACTION aren’t “obvious” at all. In fact, many of them make no sense… and they’re the LAST thing you’d do in a particular situation if you didn’t know the SECRETS.

I’m telling you, this book will show you the way. I guarantee that this program will INSTANTLY change how you behave around women. And it will start getting you results IMMEDIATELY.

Dating Tips for Guys – Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women—And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes…

-By David DeAngelo, Author Of “Double Your Dating”

DATING TIPS – MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted “nice” guys? Of course you have. Just like me, I’m sure you’ve had attractive female friends that always seemed to date “jerks”… but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU. What’s going on here?

It’s actually very simple…Women don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Being nice doesn’t make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn’t make a woman CHOOSE you. I realize that this doesn’t make a lot of logical sense, and it’s hard to ACCEPT… but GET OVER IT. Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you’ll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

DATING TIPS -MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You”

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like… but she’s just not interested? Right! They try to “convince” the woman to feel differently. Well, I have news for you… YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! Never, ever, EVER. You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”. Think about it. If a woman doesn’t “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being “reasonable” with her?

But we all do it. When a woman just isn’t interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Bad idea. One that will never work.

DATING TIPS – MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman’s “approval” or “permission”. Another HORRIBLE idea. Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them… EVER. Don’t get me wrong here. You don’t have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. But if you think that treating a woman well means “always getting her approval and permission for things”, think again. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval. Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her…

DATING TIPS – MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn’t treat her even HALF as well as you did? If you’re like me, then you’ve had it happen a LOT. Well guess what? It’s only NATURAL when this happens…That’s right, I said NATURAL. When you do these things, you send a clear message:

“I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection”. Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That’s right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

DATING TIPS – MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they “feel” too early on. Attractive women are rare. And they get a LOT of attention from men. Most men don’t realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME. An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. That’s right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect. And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you’re just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast… and can’t control themselves. Don’t do it. Lean back. Relax.

There’s a much better way…

DATING TIPS – MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction. But does the same apply for women? Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks. Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men… and they’re attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman. But it’s not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY guy can learn how…

DATING TIPS – MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they’ve even gotten started… because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money… or guys who are a certain height… or guys who are a certain age. And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. But MOST women are far more interested in a man’s personality than his wallet or his looks. There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet…And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys. YOU DO NOT have to “settle” for a woman just because you aren’t rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

DATING TIPS – MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it’s a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women. Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants. Another bad idea…Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over… Women aren’t attracted to Wussies!

DATING TIPS –  MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation

Now I’m going to blow your mind…A woman ALWAYS knows what you’re thinking. Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That’s ten TIMES. I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you’re out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it. And if you don’t know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won’t help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating…Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical… everything. If you don’t know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up… and LOSE EVERYTHING. And you KNOW it. It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman… from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

DATING TIPS – MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all. This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want. I know, guys don’t like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don’t like to ask for help. Hey, I’ve been there myself. Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women…About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn’t know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to. It frustrated the hell out of me.

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn’t get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night… right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating, and share my findings with others. Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out. I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I’ve dated models, I’ve dated actresses, and I’ve dated nice, normal, regular girls as well. It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling… like I don’t know how to meet women… and I might wind up alone because there is some secret to it all. I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women. I’ve written a book on the topic of dating tips for guys, and I’ve done seminars on both coasts of the United States… and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world.

I Now Have A FREE, Three-Times-A-Week Email Newsletter…

…But the REALLY GREAT news is that I now publish a free email newsletter three times a week that teaches any guy how to increase his success with women DRAMATICALLY and gives you great dating tips. And I’d like to invite you to sign up. It’s free, there’s no obligation, I’ll never share your email address with anyone, and you can easily remove yourself anytime with no hassles (and no, I’ll never pull any of these tricks where I send you a bunch of unwanted junk email when you try to remove yourself).

Of course, it even get’s better than that…In addition to my free email newsletter, I also have a killer downloadable eBook that you can download right now and be reading in literally MINUTES from right now. It’s JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of dating tips for guys and specific strategies for overcoming fear, attraction tips, approaching women, getting phone numbers and email address from women quickly, great inexpensive or even free date ideas, and how to take things to a “physical” level smoothly and easily.

Oh, And One More Thing…

In this day and age of “instant gratification”, I realize that this might just sound like another late-night info-mercial promising to make you rich by next week. Well, that’s not the case. I’ve spent a lot of time, effort, and energy writing this eBook. I wanted to design and create a program that ANY guy could easily understand and start using IMMEDIATELY to meet and date more women… without having to lie, do dishonest things, or be “manipulative”.

I now believe that ANY man can be more successful with women and dating, and I get emails every day with success stories from guys who are using this program to meet and date wonderful women. I know, I know… an ebook that can teach a regular guy how to be more successful in the dating world? No way.

Well believe me, this program will DRAMATICALLY increase your success with women… I absolutely guarantee it 100%.

How to Get Women Attracted to You Without Using Looks

Here are some fabulous dating tips for guys out there – straight from the interview between David Deangelo and Joseph Matthews. David D – as you well know, is the great guru mastermind behind Double Your Dating.  These interviews he does are amazing – because what he does is interviews the men that most people would see as his competition!  This one is with Joseph Matthews, author of the Art of Approaching.  This is one of the best pieces of dating advice I have heard lately, and just had to pass it on to you all.

Now we all know that the mechanisms of attraction work differently for men than for women. Men, the pigs that we are, are visual creatures, and attraction for us starts with what we see. Women, on the other hand, are entirely different when it comes to attraction. Women may be attracted to a man at first by looks, but many times, attraction starts in a woman for reasons totally unknown to her and NOT because of a man’s looks. Good news for most of us when it comes to dating, huh?

Alright, so I’ll quit blabbering and move on to the advice:

Dating tips for guys: Get over your looks. There is SO much more to dating and approaching women than looks, so ditch the hang up. You can attract a totally hot woman without looking like Orlando Bloom. He thing about our physical appearance is that every person, every man, is his own worst critic. You have all sorts of hang ups about your appearance, like you think your nose is too big or your ears stick out. Chances are no one has ever had that same thought about you. In the world of dating, attraction mechanisms can overcome even the homeliest man’s appearance. So have faith, and read on.

Dating tips for guys: Cash in on your strengths. Another mistake guys make is focusing too much energy on improving their weaknesses… instead of capitalizing on their strengths. Not too sure what I mean? Well, outside the dating tip world, one great example is Tiger Woods. Tiger’s long game is amazing, but he has trouble in the sand traps. So what does he do? Instead of wasting time trying to get better in the sand traps, he does everything he can to keep improving his long game and AVOID the sand traps altogether. Get it? In other words, don’t use your weakness as a dating disaster excuse. Instead, use it to identify your STRENGTHS and center your dating game around those, avoiding your weaknesses like the dating plague.

Dating tips for guys: Master your inner game. Inner game is not about meeting or approaching women, actually, it is about BEING the kind of man that women are naturally attracted to in the first place. Men who are actually successful with women and dating have learned how to take control of this portion of their life, hone their attraction skills and land more dates than any other guy they know. All because they have taken control of their inner game. They key to a tight inner game is the elimination of your own insecurities. Understand that you do not need others to validate you, in the dating, sex, attraction or any other arena of your life. You are your own validation, your own ruler and your own boss. Once you truly understand that, you will start attracting the women, because what women really want is an alpha male.

Dating Tips for guys: Silence your “Inner Critic”. This goes hand in hand with getting your inner game together. If you want to be successful with women and dating, if you do not want to remain single and perusing the personals all your life, then you have got to shut this jackass up. What does he say? Things like, “Oh, she will never go for me” “She thinks I am a loser” “She is too hot for me” and all those other negative, attraction busting thoughts. The truth about women and dating? You fail BECAUSE of thoughts like these, not because the thoughts are actually true. If a woman looks at you and sees that you are nervous about approaching her – immediately she knows that SHE is higher status than you – and any hope for scoring with her goes right down that singles-bar toilet. Project and THINK what you want her to see and she will see it.

Dating tips for guys: Get Her Talking – And Interested In YOU. Ok – approaching women is like the number one thing on the minds of all single guys, right? So – the trick is to be different than the masses. How do you accomplish this? By making your approach seem not like an approach at all. Most single men will approach a woman and say something totally stupid, like, “Hey baby – what’s your sign?” (Ok, if you ever hear this line being said in seriousness, you have my permission to walk up, punch him in the mouth and look at the girl and tell her you just did mankind a huge favor). Anyway – the key is to make your approach unlike Dufus Man’s. Instead, approach a woman, and ask her opinion on something to get her talking.

This is what’s become known as the “Opinion Opener”, which is simply walking up to a woman and asking her opinion on something. Try this: “Hey, I don’t mean to bother you, but I need a female opinion on this. Who do you think lies more, men or women?” The great thing about this is it doesn’t “feel” like a pick-up line to a woman. You’re just asking for her opinion. As a bonus, most women love to share their opinions, so you will also be making her feel good, which is great news for YOU. And whatever you do – DO NOT give her compliment.

Dating advice for guys: Gauge Her Interest BEFORE You Approach! DUH, right? Not really. Here is a GREAT little trick you can use to gauge a woman’s interest and decide whether or not she is worth approaching. It is called the “Eye Contact Test”. It’s based on the idea that a lot of human communication happens not through words, but through body language, or specifically, EYE CONTACT. This is so simple is stupid. Make eye contact with a woman… and hold it… and simply smile. If she smiles back, guess what? She’s communicating that she’s open to talking to you. It’s that simple. According to Joseph Matthews and David Deangelo of Double Your Dating, when a woman smiles at you BEFORE you start talking to her, it’s really hard for her to react negatively to you when you come over to talk.

Dating tips for guys – like you.  That is what this site is ALL about.  In this section of my website, you will find a plethora of killer articles on dating tips for guys, general dating advice, attraction advice, keys to approaching women, pick up lines  and a whole lot more.  If you are unsure where to start in researching all these articles, I recommend starting with 6 Dating Tips.  From there, each article leads into itself, and you will be good to go.

 Now go – get a cup of coffee, a soda or a comfortable chair and start reading all the dating advice you can handle.  Don’t forget, while there are all kinds of dating tips wrapped up in each of these pages that DO relate to approaching women, pick up lines and attraction, there are also SPECIFIC sections of my website designed around those topics individually.  So if you need help in those areas, back up a page (or start below) and select one of those specific areas and learn what YOU need to learn to start getting the dates with beautiful girls today!

Dating Tips For Men:
How To Act When A Woman Likes You

-By David DeAngelo, Author Of “Double Your Dating”

***Request for Dating Tips***

Dave,

I’ve become a very generous guy lately. To all my male friends, I’m giving them the gift of your newsletter. To all my females, I’m giving the gift of missing me.

I’m a recovering wuss. I took a few months off of women and worked on my inner game, with great results. I’ve started talking to new women again, along with old girlfriends. I find that when the c/f (Cocky & Funny) starts rolling, or even just my newfound confidence, I often get a lot of compliments. What’s the best way to deal with a girl coming out and saying “oh, you’re so cute/funny/etc…”? Should I ignore it and keep the c/f going? Should I address it in a cocky way? I’m assuming that graciously accepting the compliment is never the right answer…

What would you say to a girl who compliments you directly? (other than “Do you do third input?”) What would your tone/body language/eye contact be like?

-J.M.
>From new Hampshire, where men are men, women are few, and sheep are nervous.

>>>David Deangelo’s Dating Tips for Men:

You know, this really is a great question.

One of the most important things to understand as a man is what to do when things are WORKING… so you don’t SCREW IT UP!

If you use the materials that you’re learning from me, or even dating tips from other guys, you will start to have a magical thing happen more and more often… women will start to do and say things that clearly indicate that they LIKE you.

Sometimes it will be a touch, sometimes a compliment, and sometimes a smile. But these things WILL happen more and more as you get better and better.

I always laugh to myself when I bust a woman’s chops really hard, and she laughs and says “You’re so funny!” or “You really are good!” etc.

I still shake my head and wonder why the hell it took me so long to figure this stuff out.

But I digress… you know, while I’m digressing, what’s with you ending your email with:

“>From new hampshire, where men are men, women are few, and sheep are nervous.”

…?!

This is probably the third or fourth time that I’ve seen this at the end of an email.

Tell me the truth… do chicks dig this?

You’re making me nervous, man. Keep the sheep talk on the DL, OK?

Uncool.

Now, when a woman does something that signals “I like you”, it is VITALLY important that you:

1) Know how to recognize it

2) DON’T do what MOST guys do

3) DO the right thing, and AMPLIFY it

So how can you tell if a woman is doing something that says “I like you”?

Well, it’s VERY important to remember that women are far more “subtle” than men (most of the time, that is).

If a man is interested in a woman, you can see it all over his face. It’s usually very obvious.

But women are different.

Women do SMALL things.

A little touch. A sly smile. Sometimes a comment like “You’re so cute” (as in your example above).

But then IT’S GONE.

Women always seem to act like they’re not quite sure.

They don’t send consistent signals that most men can “read”.

And when they DO send signals that are easy to see, most guys respond in a way that makes those signals stop…which makes things even MORE confusing.

Again, women aren’t as CONSISTENT as men.

A woman can seem like she’s interested one minute, then stand-offish the next.

So dating tips rule #1 is:

JUST BECAUSE SHE’S DOING SOMETHING THAT SAYS “I LIKE YOU”, DON’T THINK THAT IT MEANS “I LIKE YOU NO MATTER WHAT”.

Much better to interpret subtle “I like you” cues as “I like you for a second, but if you start acting like a Wuss Bag or Dumb Ass, it will all be over in an instant”.

Unfortunately for most guys, they take “I like you” signals to mean “You’ve won my approval, now you can do whatever you want”.

And what do they do? Of course…

They turn into dorks, say or do a few stupid things, and destroy it all.

Oh, how many times I’ve watched guys (myself included) screw up perfectly good situations because they just didn’t get this concept.

Let me give you an example.

Let’s say that you’re out with a woman, and you’ve been teasing her, and she smiles and says “I like you”.

A typical “male” response is for a guy to think to himself “OK, I’m in… she digs me” and to get that rush in the head and chest.

Next thing you know, he’s acting different.

He’s talking about different things.

He’s giving compliments.

He’s being “nicer”.

And what’s the woman thinking while this is all going on? Of course… she’s thinking “Uh oh, his cool, calm, interesting personality was just a cover for the secret inner-Wuss that was hiding out, waiting for a little bit of approval from me… AHHHHHH!”

Women KNOW that they’re in control of the situation. Or at least MOST of the time they are… and they THINK that they are even during the times when they’re not.

They’re constantly using different kinds of communication to test and “feel out” the situation.

Remember, MOST of the time when you’re saying something that you think is nice, charming, and original, it’s something that a woman has heard about 47 times that week from other guys.

Us guys act VERY predictably most of the time.

And women know how to tell if you’re just another loser who’s pretending to be cool… who will turn into an average Wuss at the first sign of attraction from a cute woman.

Think about what I just said.

This is hard for a lot of guys to swallow… but it’s the reality of the situation.

There’s something that women call “Sexual Tension”. It’s also known as “Chemistry” or “Attraction” as well. But only WOMEN know it this way.

When you tease a woman, make her laugh, play hard to get with her, act unpredictably, etc. in the right way, you will create this tension. This is what usually leads to a woman saying something like “You’re cute” or “I like you”.

It’s the TENSION that makes her FEEL it and SAY it.

THE TENSION!

In these very special moments, you need to turn the tension UP. Dial it up. AMPLIFY it.

Don’t diffuse it all by saying “You’re cute yourself” or “I like you, too”. Or by smiling like a jackass wussy dork who has just seen his first rainbow.

This kind of thing RELEASES the tension, and it usually takes that wonderful electric attraction feeling that the woman is feeling and INSTANTLY kills it.

Does this make logical sense?

Hell no.

But it’s what happens.

OK, so let’s talk about the RIGHT way to handle this type of situation.

Remember when I said that it’s the TENSION that makes a woman feel the feelings and make the comments?

And that you need to AMPLIFY it when you’re getting a positive response?

Nice.

Once upon a time, there was a scene in a movie that illustrated this concept PERFECTLY.

In fact, it might be the all-time greatest example of this principle that has ever been recorded on film.

Remember the end of “The Empire Strikes Back” when they were about to put Han Solo into the deep freeze?

Remember when Leia said “I love you”…?

Remember what Han said?

Right, he said… “I know”.

Perfect.

All of the sexual tension that built up in Star Wars and Empire culminated in Leia confessing her love.

And Han says “I know”.

Awesome!

Imagine being Leia. What could be going through her mind at this point?

An answer like this isn’t easy to understand. It has all kinds of implications.

It’s confusing.

It says “I know you love me, because it’s been obvious for a long time…”. But it doesn’t let HER know how he feels exactly. It requires consideration. It dials up the tension. It’s amazing.

By the way, I read that when they were filming that scene Han was supposed to answer “I love you too”, but the director didn’t like it. They tried all kinds of things, and in the end Harrison Ford made up that line on the spot in one of the takes… and they kept it. Nice.

By the way, one of the BIG reasons why the newer movies in the Star Wars series suck is because there is no character like Han… think about it. It’s all boring, predictable stuff. There’s no sexy, arrogant, funny, wildcard personality messing things up.

Like I pointed out after I saw “Attack Of The Clones”, Anakin had to kill an ENTIRE VILLAGE of Sand People just to convince Princess A. that he wasn’t a complete and total Wuss. Would have been so much easier and more entertaining if he would have just had a PERSONALITY.

Whatever.

Now where was I…?

Oh, yea… amplifying the sexual tension…

If you’re out with a woman, and you tease her because she’s wearing four inch heels by saying “What’s the deal, are you four feet tall without those one?”, and she opens her mouth with the classic “Oh no you didn’t” look (smiling of course, with that surprised smile)… and you dial it up to the next level with “Oh, I’m sorry…Four foot three?”… and she hits you on the arm…

…and then she stops, puts her hand on your arm, and says “You know, you’re funny”…

…what do you do?

YOU SAY “YEA, I KNOW” – in a serious tone.

Or “Don’t try to use compliments to make me like you. It won’t work. Go buy me a drink or something… I prefer gifts and money.”

Or look down at her hand on your arm, lean back slightly, turn your head, and put your eyebrows together as if to say “Just WHAT do you think you’re doing touching me?!”.

TURN IT UP, my friend!

You TURN UP the tension.

AMPLIFY it.

Keep it going.

If you keep amplifying the tension and attraction at each of these wonderful moments, good things will happen.

Good stuff.

OK, I have a question.

Want more killer ideas like this one?

What if I told you that there was a place you could go and download an eBook that contained literally DOZENS and DOZENS of great ideas like this one?

Well, there is. Of course, it’s my eBook “Double Your Dating”. Inside, you’ll learn about all of my personal favorite techniques for dealing with all kinds of situations with women.

This might sound a little strange, but I actually read my own book to brush up on concepts, and remind myself of how to handle different situations. It took me a few years to learn, test, refine, and organize all of the awesome techniques that are included, and you’ll understand why I speak so highly of it when you go and get a copy.

____________________________________________________

David DeAngelo is the author of “Double Your Dating – What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women”, and has taught thousands of men how to be more successful with women and dating with many articles on dating tips for men.
_________________________________________________________________