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Winning Her Over On The First Date

February 14, 2014 By GetTheGirl

Make sure your strategy is to “win her over” and not “beating her at the game.”

First dates make or break a potential new relationship. With so much on the line, obviously most of us come into them a bit nervous. It doesn’t have to be such a stressful experience though. It is hard to talk yourself into relaxing but you will probably feel a lot more at ease if you start off with a game plan. Try to keep these three basic ideas in mind so that you can get through your first date with ease.

Remember That It Isn’t a Test

You aren’t at a job interview. This is not a test of your manners. She isn’t writing down all of your life’s accomplishments as you list them. It just a first date so try to relax. Try to just simply treat her as a friend that you are getting to know. You shouldn’t be coming on too strong in a romantic sense so it is all around better to just treat her as a person that you are trying to get to know. Be as laid back as you can be. Don’t talk about work. Don’t quiz her. Once you get comfortable, tease her (gently!) about something. Tell her that she’s flirting with you.

The most important thing is that you stop acting like you are trying to sell yourself. Keep in mind that this is also an opportunity for you to decide if you like her. It is most definitely not all about you getting her to like you. Focus more on getting to know her. If you are feeling anxious, start asking her questions and let her take over the conversation.

Don’t Check In With Her

Confidence is always critical. No matter how nervous you are, try to at least fake some degree of confidence. Never ask her how she thinks the date is going. Don’t ask her if she likes you. More importantly, never assume that she doesn’t like you and start talking yourself down to her. Be casual. It’s not very likely that you would go out with a friend and ask him if he was having a good time. You should be much better at reading people than that so just trust your instincts. If she looks miserable, try to change something. If she looks like she is having a good time, just assume that she is enjoying herself.

Pay Attention to Your Body Language

Here is an example of body language: Would you believe him if he said he wasn’t nervous or uncomfortable?

It is often said that your body language is more important than what you actually say and there is definitely some truth to it. Body language is especially important in dating because she is going to be paying close attention to you, whether it is consciously or unconsciously. Make a serious effort to maintain positive body language. Be sure that you are maintaining eye contact while you are talking to each- and don’t forget to blink! There’s a difference between coming across as attentive and just plain crazy. Pay attention to her body language as well and try to mirror her every so often so that she feels at ease. If none of this feels natural, pay attention to your body language next time that you are around friends so you can get comfortable being aware of it.

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First Date Details Most Men Forget

December 14, 2013 By GetTheGirl

Going on a first date should feel exciting, although plenty of nerves and anxiety are often present as well, especially if you genuinely think you will really like the girl you’re going out with for the evening. When you’re planning a first date, there are a few preparation details that most men forget that can help make a much better impression on your date throughout the night. Preparing ahead of time before a date will also make you feel a confidence boost while allowing you to navigate the date with ease at all times.

Getting Ready

When you’re getting ready for your date, consider the location of the date to choose proper attire and any other accessories you plan to wear. Showering, brushing your teeth, and doing your hair for your date are essential, especially if you are headed out on a blind first date. To make an even stronger impression, you might consider getting teeth whitened. Simple touches such as a perfectly white smile can go a long way toward helping you sweep your date off her feet!

Reservations

Make reservations at a new restaurant if you want to make an impression. Additionally, if you already have specific restaurant plans, be sure to call ahead of time to ensure there is enough room for you and your date to avoid a potentially embarrassing situation. Many restaurants will even allow you to make arrangements for a more secluded arrangement if you plan ahead. This will keep you out of the range of other loud conversations and distractions, allowing you and your date to have a more personal conversation.

Consider Your Date’s Personality

Before heading out with your date for the evening, consider her personality to make the most out of the night. If your date is interested in adventure and the outdoors, mix it up a bit by planning a sports or picnic-related date. If your date prefers books, quiet nights and tea, plan a romantic night-time candlelit dinner for the two of you. Your date will appreciate that you took her taste into account when making plans, and this simple step will show how thoughtful you really are – and will continue to be – right?

Ask Her Plenty of Questions

This is one of the most common dating errors. Many people spend most of a date only talking about themselves. This is often a major turn-off. A smooth way to shift the conversation to her is by asking lots of questions and following up to what she has to say. Often, you will strike up some commonalities which really help. Showing real interest in your date’s life will then also opportunities for you to relate to her, forging a more personal connection.

Be Yourself

Many times on first dates, making a good first impression is idealized over making an impression that is real. However, if you are seeking a real relationship or a potential long-term partner, it is essential to be yourself as much as possible while also being kind, generous, and attentive to your date. Don’t hide your true self in a corner solely to land another date. Make sure your date can truly understand and connect with you as you really are.

Knowing how to properly prepare for a first date will help ensure you are as confident as possible without appearing cocky or over-confident to your date. Additionally, being well-prepared for your date will make the occasion much more likely to go over smoothly, potentially leading to even more dates in the future.

First Date: Five Things You Need To Do

September 18, 2013 By GetTheGirl

Make Her First Impression of You A Lasting Impression

A first date is usually the most daunting and intimidating part of the dating process. If you dress the wrong way, or are not adequately groomed, it could potentially set your date off on the wrong foot before you even say a word. Here are five things you need to do to make a great impression on your first date.

1) Dress for comfort and style

Dress in what makes you comfortable, but do not be over-revealing or over the top. If you usually dress in baggy, revealing clothing, it may be best to put on more conservative attire for the first date. If you are an eccentric dresser, it may be best to tone it down a little bit at first. Put on something that makes you feel good, cool, and confident yet still reveals some aspect of your personality.

2) Don’t be too formal, but don’t be overly casual

If you dress too much for the occasion, your date will obviously notice. If the date is at a more formal restaurant, obviously take note and wear something a tad more dressy. If it is at a casual sporting event, however, it is best to dress down a bit. Perhaps wear one of your cool, casual and pretty damn amazing blazers. No matter how you dress, your date will be able to tell if you have a nice body.

3) Bring accessories and wear shoes that compliment your outfit

An otherwise nice outfit can be ruined by the wrong pair of shoes. Remember to think of every detail. Also make sure your shoes are polished and clean. A date-ready outfit starts with making everything come together.

4) Stay away from your cell phone

Cell phones are ruinous to intimate one-on-one conversations. In the middle of your date, do not whip out your cell phone to respond to a text or check your mail inbox. Your date may see it as rude and would likely be correct in that assumption.

5) Listen and respond thoughtfully

Be honest, listen, and be careful not to dominate the conversation. Do not be completely self-absorbed, but do not be so quiet as to make your date feel awkward or think that you are not having a good time. Additionally, being honest in what you say will help you in the long-term. You do not want to have a relationship with someone that is based on lies as it is not sustainable forever.

Bonus Tip:

6) Relax and be yourself!

Five Things You Need to Do Before the First Date

July 21, 2013 By GetTheGirl

You will feel less nervous and a lot more confident when you are well prepared for that first date.

First dates are extremely important as they are the moment when you get to provide your date with a first, and often long lasting impression. So naturally you are going to be feeling a little nervous and scared about this situation, and will want to do everything that you can to make it go as well as possible.

A good confidence booster is knowing that she already said yes!

You will most likely find yourself asking the question “What do I need to do before my first date”? If you are, then there is no need to look any further as here are 5 things you need to do before a first date. Tick all of these things off and you can be pretty certain that your first date will turn out extremely well.

Research for Things to Talk About
Doing a bit of research for a first date may seem a little extreme and too much like a chore, but it is something that everyone going on a first date should do. In the days leading up to the first date, you should spend a little time researching current events and interesting topics. This will allow you to bring them up during the first date in order to make some great conversation. A good way to start is by reading newspapers and browsing websites such as Reddit and Mashable, as they always have funny, interesting, and unique things on that would be great to use for a first date.

Get to know her better, even before your first date by doing a little research on her.

Try And Find Out A Little Bit About Her
As well as researching for things to talk about on your first date, it is vital that you find out a little bit about your date. This doesn’t mean hiring a private investigator to carry out a covert operation on her, but just finding out a few things about her. You can either do this by having a quick look at her social media profiles e.g. Facebook, Twitter, Google+ and Linkedin, or by subtly inquiring via text message. Whichever way you choose, just make sure to find out some of the things she likes such as what she enjoys doing, her favorite music genre, what she studies or her job or profession. Depending on how much information you find out, be careful not to reveal it to her too quickly. You don’t want her to feel like you were spying on her because she might feel very uncomfortable you knowing too much so soon. However, you can use some of this knowledge about her as topic starters. For example, if there is a hobby or interest that you both share, you can start talking about how much you like this hobby and/or something pertaining to your common interests. She will certainly get involved in the conversation and begin to feel a common bond with you.

Don’t forget to check for nose, ear, and stray eyebrow hairs.

Groom Yourself
For a first date you always need to be well groomed. This means getting your haircut and having a shave. It is highly suggested that you don’t pick this moment for a new hairstyle and instead stick to the style that you usually have.

On the day of your date, it is vital that you have the closest shave you can. Whisker burns hurt! Having a wet shave and using a high quality shaving brush will allow you to achieve this. Make sure to take your time ensuring that you don’t miss any spots or nick yourself!

Pick Out Some Good Clothes to Wear
It’s a great idea to decide upon the clothes you are going to wear well before the date. This means picking clothes that are going to impress your date, and that are going to be appropriate for the occasion. It wouldn’t make sense to get suited and booted if you’re only meeting for a coffee. Also on a final note, make sure the clothes you are going to wear are freshly cleaned and ironed to perfection.

Sleep
You have researched some topics to talk about, you’ve found out what you can about your date, groomed yourself superbly and have picked out some suitable clothes—the last thing that you need to do before the first date is sleep. As hard as it may be, try not to worry and think over things too much. You should feel very relaxed knowing that you have adequately prepared for your date. So get some sleep because it is very important that you are not yawning and appearing uninterested in her during the date.

Author Bio
This is a guest post written by Kate Simmons, a creative freelance writer who enjoys sharing her tips and advice on various blogs.

First Date – Communication Do’s and Don’ts

February 27, 2013 By GetTheGirl

How to Make The First Date Not Your Last

About the Author: Miranda Santiago has a degree in Psychology from Boston College and is now a freelance writer who covers dating topics, specifically Latin dating. Apart from writing, Miranda enjoys windsurfing, playing the piano and cheering on her favorite baseball teams.

In today’s age, conversation is quickly becoming a lost art. So many of the things we do have become streamlined, automated, and move so fast that it is often impossible to have more than a two minute conversation with whomever we deal with in our day to day lives.

For example, compare a phone call to texting. A phone conversation, although not face-to-face communication, is verbal, free flowing, and natural. Whereas texting is quick, sporadic, and lacking in all the dynamics of oral communication. Sure there is a place for texting – even in dating, but you can’t let it hinder your “in person” communication skills which a first date is totally dependent upon.

As such, it is no surprise to me that so many people complain of first-date-conversations that limp along like a wounded dog. Now, just because it happens doesn’t mean that it’s okay, and out of all of the women and men that I deal with on a regular basis, between one third and one half tell me that poor conversation (or awkward lack thereof) was a major contributor to the reason that they didn’t go on a second date. So how can you provide better conversation on a first date? Follow the Do’s and Don’ts.

Do Ask Open-Ended Question

One of the first rules to remember about any conversation is that open-ended questions will go ten times as far as closed questions. Essentially, this means that conversations are sparked from questions that require more than a “yes” or “no” answer. Not only will the open-ended question make conversation move much more fluidly, it will make the date seem more like an organic experience than a job interview. Think about it. How many dates have you gone on that have sounded like this:

“Do you like sushi?”

“Yes.”

“Me too.”

Insert awkward silence here while you think of the next thing to say. Keep the questions open-ended for a more enjoyable experience.

Do Respond With Detail

Communication is what first dates are all about. When you say “yes” or “no”, always say why. You can reverse this on your date by asking why when she only says, “yes” or “no”.

This is especially important if your date is not asking open-ended questions themselves. Even the smallest comment can be turned into a conversation if you provide detail in your answer, because conversations are essentially just a web of topics that are moved through fluidly. It doesn’t seem like it, but think about it:

“Do you like sushi?”

“Yes, actually I’m a huge fan of sushi. It’s so exotic, and I love exotic foods. That’s just sort of how I am, always up for trying something new…”

And the conversation flows on. A simple question about whether or not you like sushi can lead to talking about exotic food, which leads to talking about trying exotic things, which leads to talking about personal characteristics—a web of topics. Don’t be long-winded, but utilize the opportunity to drive the conversation and let your date know a little about you.

Do Listen

This is huge. You’re not asking open-ended questions just to watch your date’s mouth open and close, you’re asking them to learn about them and have a good time. I know this one sounds obvious, but I’ve dealt enough with the world of Latin dating as per my profession that I’ve seen this more than you’d think. When you don’t listen to your date while you’re on the date, they don’t feel important and will stop talking altogether—a sure sign of a failed date.

Don’t Use Cheesy Lines

Pull back on being “too cool for your own good.” This isn’t a TV pick-up show you’re in. Natural, relaxed, and “in touch communication” works best!

If there’s anything that makes a date unnatural and awkward, it’s when people force unnatural and not-cute pickup lines on their date. These are usually the types that have watched too many romantic comedies and think that they equate to real life. Don’t fall into this trap, and keep the conversation natural. Compliments can be as simple as “I really like your dress,” or “I’m having a great time”, and are much more effective this way.

Don’t Touch Taboo Topics

This one should speak for itself. Politics, religion, and ex-lovers are the three no-no’s of any first date. Maybe on a later date these topics will come up, but patience is the name of the game when it comes to dating.

Don’t Complain

This is one of those things that too many people do. Sure, you may have had a bad day, but the person that you just met sitting across from you doesn’t need to hear you complain about it for an hour. Even if they seem comfortable with it, you may still be shooting yourself in the foot, as the negative atmosphere that you create can affect your date in subliminal ways.

A first date is like a “first impression.” You only have one chance, so use these tips to help make your first date – not your last! More Dating Tips