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Instant Checkmate’s 5 Signs Your Online Love Interest Is Fake

February 24, 2014 By GetTheGirl

Be aware that until any verification is done, you know nothing about the person on the other end.

Catfish—they’re real, and they suck. Recent studies have shown that nearly 1 in 10 online dating profiles are fake. People who pose as women looking for dates online have a host of bad motivations. Some are hoping to get you to cough up some money before disappearing. Others are looking for attention. Others are just weirdos. But if you fall into their web of lies, you’ll wind up wasting a lot of time — time you could have spent chatting with someone who is actually interested in you and doesn’t feel the need to make up fake profiles.

The good news is that these online phonies can be easily avoided if you know what to look for. The next time your inbox lights up with a flirty message from someone, keep an eye out for these warning signs.

1) Their Pictures Are Ripped Off

Catching them in lies is a sure sign to let them go.

Women who are serious about dating online will post several pictures of themselves: pictures at home, pictures while they’re out, pictures that show off their personality and hobbies. Fakers will post significantly fewer pictures, and sometimes only one. These images are typically ripped off of other sites. Scammers usually just swipe them from online modeling catalogs, hoping that a beautiful photograph will blind men to how obviously fake they are. If you suspect that a picture was just taken from somewhere else, run it through a reverse Google image search to find out.

2) Their Grammar Is Sub-Grade School

Does their profile read like something created in an English teacher’s nightmare? Every third word is misspelled, you see weird phrases that barely make any sense, and there’s not a single comma to help you make sense of the grammatical train wreck you see in front of you. It might be because they fell through the cracks of the educational system, but more likely they are living in a foreign country and English isn’t their first language. Dating sites occasionally have non-Americans posing as Americans in hopes of snagging American dollars. Keep your guard up if you are messaged by someone who is seriously grammatically challenged.

3) They Don’t Show Up In Public Records

If you were born, paid taxes, or even just lived in the United States, the government has a file on you. Since almost anyone with an Internet connection can access this information, you have the power to verify the story that your online lover is feeding you. Just search their first and last name in an online people search engine to see if you can uncover a birth record for them. If your online snooping doesn’t turn anything up, proceed with caution—they may be operating under a fake identity.

4) They Move Crazy Fast

If someone acts like you two are destined for each other the moment that you start texting, and emailing, put the brakes on. A fast operator doesn’t necessarily mean you are chatting with a diehard romantic, it might also mean that they are hoping to win your trust quickly—so they can take advantage of your affections.

5) They Only Want To Chat Online

Even with Skype or face-to-face communication, it still is a good idea to find out as much as you can early on.

If they want to keep communication to text and email online (no phone, no Skype, no face to face) that’s a red flag the size of a football field. If you want a relationship that involves more than text on a screen, you should simply keep looking. They’re probably hiding something, and if they’re not, they aren’t ready for a real relationship anyway.

Don’t be a dupe and fall for the over-the-top flattery of every single message you receive while dating online. By keeping your guard up, just a little bit, you can avoid the catfishers and actually enjoy your online dating experience.

Logan Strain is a writer for Instant Checkmate, an online background check service. When he’s not reading, he’s playing with his daughter.

Don’t Get Catfished Online

December 14, 2013 By GetTheGirl

In modern society we have all become very much centered around technology. This technology includes the rapid growth of the internet which has become a great method for finding that girl of your dreams. However without proper investigation, that dream princess you are pursuing on a social media site or dating website, might just be fishing for! Ah Catfished!

The act of making a false, or very exaggerated profile (ok, some slight exaggerations are socially acceptable – and probably anticipated), to “reel” people in for either personal reasons or out and out fraud, is now known as Catfishing. The “bait” people Catfish with can be with all subjects including religion, education, and even things like what entertainment they are interested in.

Why would people want to catfish someone?

Many times it is just so they can grab someone’s attention, but also many times it is what they like to call dating scams. If they have an eagerness to establish a relationship, or their grammar is rather poor, then those are good signs they are trying to catfish you. Also an important factor is if they wish to meet up with you on a different site than where you originally met them.

There are many people out there on dating websites who are trying to scam you. It is important that you know the facts and information, highlighted in the Have You Ever Been Catfished InfoGraphic from Instant Checkmate to keep from being dangled at the end of a “line”.

Niche Dating Sites

October 2, 2013 By GetTheGirl

THERE ARE 90 MILLION SINGLES IN AMERICA. OVER 40 MILLION OF THEM HAVE TRIED ONLINE DATING and more continue trying it as an acceptable way to form a relationship. The wide spread use of the internet and technological advancements have contributed changing Internet dating, which got its start in 1995 with Match.com. Today, online dating sites are becoming more in tune with specific needs by bringing together people who share “like” interests. Referred to as niche dating sites, currently there are over 2,000 such sites offering nearly any interest. Here are some of the most popular sites that should help you find a more suited relationship.

Focusing On Your Requirements

These new sites do not spend time on useless information transfer. Focus is on the what critical commonalities that will help you to find your soul mate, exactly how you have desired. Through these websites, you can pin point your search query to hobby based, location based, sports orientation based, official standard based or even based on ethnic groups. Therefore, it is apparent that these sites are offering you far better chance of obtaining information about available individuals from your desired specification circle. For example- if you are a fan of swimming technique or if you are passionate about mountain biking, then it would be better for you to go out with individuals with matching interests. It will improve your relationship and help you to initiate a mature conversation with your date. That is exactly what these new sites offer. This is the apparent reason of success of these new websites.

Research Superiority

Another feature of niche dating sites is offering research superiority. Nobody would want to fill up an extended form with information just to find his or her favorite person online. It is tiring and bit monotonous. As we are living in the Internet age, we expect information to be fast and at our finger tips. This is exactly what niche dating sites do. These web platforms are designed in such a manner that you can enter your search query and relevant information comes up instantly. It is hard for people from small demographic groups to find someone with matching preferences. They generally have to go through hundreds of candidates and profiles to find someone they want. However, with niche dating platforms, search criteria have gained pinpoint accuracy. click to enlarge =>

Why Niche Dating Sites Are Better Than Board Search Dating Platforms?

With increasing demand for specific interests and preferences, are becoming a populare alternative over the broad based platforms. When a client obtains membership in a broad dating site, they are presented with numerous selection options. Cross-referencing each option is a difficult process and a time-consuming job for any individual. However, niche sites narrow down the specification eliminating useless information.

In fact, today the overwelming majority of the over 1500+ dating sites are niche dating sites. You can find a site that will cater to just about any interest, fetish, religion, trait, or hobby. From bookworm to beauty queen and from stache lovers to sea captains it is highly likely you will find a dating site that geared to just about anything that trips your trigger.

The infographic gives you some stats and information on the niche dating world. Use this as a quick guide to get started in the niche dating world and for even a bigger resource check out our dating website database with over 500 dating websites listed and growing. You can find it here at The Online Dating Database.

NICHE DATING SITES INFOGRAPHIC

Maintaining the Romance in a Long-Distance Relationship

July 25, 2013 By GetTheGirl

If you haven’t met her face to face yet, there will be a moment when you both know its time! And it very likely will be spontaneous.

Like lots of guys nowadays, I met a girl online. Emails turned into phone calls which resulted in sparks. The only problem was she lived in New Orleans and I was 500 miles away in Gainesville, Florida. Phone calls sustained us for a few weeks, but soon I knew I had to see her in person, so one night I asked, “how about if I come see you tomorrow?” Moments later, the flight was booked.

After our first weekend together, we both knew there was potential for a genuine, loving relationship. On the plane ride home, the question gnawed at me, “how could we continue exploring and nurturing this relationship while hundreds of miles apart?” This would be a first for me – and her – and I knew it would require a little more effort than dating someone down the street.

So, I used the following means to keep things going while we were hundreds of miles apart.

Flowers are Essential

It’s cliché for a reason. Most women I’ve met enjoy receiving flowers, especially at work. A dozen red roses are nice, but she’ll be more impressed if you subtly find out her favorite flower and send a bouquet unexpectedly. If you have a hard time working the question into casual conversation, ask one of her friends. A woman should also feel free to send flowers to her man. While few guys will outwardly admit it, it’s flattering to receive flowers, regardless of gender.

Unexpected Gifts are the Best Kind

Flowers are lovely, but sometimes you need to mix things up. Find an original gift to send her way. It doesn’t have to be expensive, just thoughtful. The more personal, the better. One of the first gifts I sent my wife was a teddy bear gift basket. The teddy bear still sits on her dresser to this day. She sent me a 12-pack of a New Orleans beer that she introduced me to on one of my first visit. (Of course, the beer had a much shorter shelf life than the teddy bear.) It’s all about little demonstrations showing you care.

Talk Daily

Long distance relationships are becoming more common, and can be very worthwhile if you take the right steps in nurturing it.

This one is critical. Pick up the phone and talk to one another every evening. Some conversations may last two hours, others just five minutes. It’s not about the length of the call, it’s about caring enough to make the call an integral part of your daily life. Couples need that regular, ongoing connection and email doesn’t cut it. And remember, no matter how bad your day was, try to go into the call with a positive attitude. After all, talking to the person you love should be exciting, the best part of your day.

Make the Trip – Whatever it Takes

While living in different states, she and I made a point to see each other in person at least once a month. One month I would fly to New Orleans, the next she would fly to Gainesville. Yes, it got expensive and we both burned through a lot of vacation time, but there’s no substitute for sharing the same physical space. If finances preclude you from flying, get in the car. If it’s too far to drive for a weekend visit, meet halfway and enjoy a mini-vacation.

Communicate About Where Things are Going

Communication is always the key to a great relationship, but it’s especially important when you live far apart. Make sure you’re in sync about where you hope the relationship will lead. If one of you is just having a good time while the other envisions walking down the aisle, it’s especially painful. Don’t assume you’re on the same page, talk about it. Once you decide it’s time to make the commitment, don’t hesitate. To steal a line from When Harry Met Sally, “when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”

Well, it must have worked because five years later, we’re still together, married three years and going strong. I certainly don’t know everything about love, but by using the techniques above, I proved how to “get the girl!”

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About the Author

Damion Wasylow is a freelance writer who met his wife online in 2008. They live in Gainesville, Florida and plan to add to their family in the near future. In his free time, Damion enjoys traveling, reading and watching sports on TV.

You’ve Got Mail: Four Tips For Meeting a Special Someone Online

April 24, 2013 By GetTheGirl

The Internet May Be Your Best Way to Start A New Relationship

Each day more couples are finding each other on line.

The internet has completely revolutionized the way we communicate with friends, family and yes, even potential lovers. Many couples who first met on the internet claim that it was the best and only way they could imagine to have met their life partner. Communication online, when done with the proper foresight and expectation, can be a very rewarding experience and the perfect way to meet that special someone.

It is, however, different from face-to-face conversation and in order to really get what you want out of your online experiences, you need to do it armed with knowledge and preparedness.

Determine What You’re Looking For Before You Begin

It is important to decide what you are looking for when it comes to meeting that someone special. Are you looking for something casual, semi-serious, or long-term? This is vital to finding the right person and helping you figure out how to start a pleasant dialogue with them.

Your Special so Be Picky

She should be attractive to you both physically and personally, but remember that personality lasts the longest…

If you are looking for the love of your life, you do not want just anyone. Be picky, don’t try to fall for the first person you meet or be disappointed after just a few internet encounters. Especially, don’t let good looks and superficial traits suck you in, or for that matter, turn you off either. Look toward common interests and values which are incredibly important to long-term relationship success.

Don’t Rush

Love doesn’t happen overnight, even if infatuation can. We have the ability to quickly share a large amount of information about ourselves with others online than we do in person in many ways. We can quickly get to know someone through long hours of intimate discussion. These feelings are wonderful, but should be tempered to an extent, if you want to spend your life with that person. Take your time.

Be Prepared to Take It to the Outside World

Your relationship will not always be online. At some point, if you really want to make a go of it, you will have to meet each other face to face in the outside world. This is why honesty and meeting each other within a reasonable amount of time after getting to know each other is vital. People often make the mistake of meeting too early or waiting too long. Getting to know each other online enough to be comfortable, then making the relationship personal, is an excellent strategy for forming a relationship.

With the right expectations and proper planning, finding that special someone online is most definitely possible and can be a highly rewarding experience.

The first and most important step though is having a means for online communication and then including these four tips into your plan which will get you well on the way to a successful online dating experience.