I firmly believe that some dating advice that carries the disclaimer “for entertainment purposes only” REALLY IS “for entertainment purposes only”. What’s more, some guys are perfectly okay with that. It’s enough for them.

After all, SAYING that one is acting on a desire to get better with women and going through the motions in a way that FEELS LIKE getting better with women is often A LOT safer than ACTUALLY DOING SOMETHING.

It’s potentially WAY less painful, also.

But lately it has occurred to me that there’s an EVEN MORE fascinating phenomenon out there that is potentially lulling guys into a “false sense of security” of sorts when it comes to improving our skills with women.

Here it is: I think that a shockingly high percentage of men’s dating advice is built around the premise that men and women THINK ALIKE about dating and seduction.

Moreover, we as guys tend to assume women think like WE DO rather than vice versa.

I mean, come on. It’s the easy road, after all. Understanding women is complicated if not altogether enigmatic to us.

Therefore, when someone comes along and gives us advice on how to handle women, and does so in a way that MAKES SENSE to a man, what happens?

You guessed it…we assume that if it MAKES SENSE to us, it must be accurate and effective.

There’s only one problem. Women aren’t wired the way we are after all.

Sure, our basic emotional fabric, wants and needs are more similar than we often give credit for.

But nonetheless, what drives that which is feminine is VERY different than what motivates us as masculine men.

And for better at worse, it’s the DIFFERENCES between men and women that spark attraction. Therefore, the DIFFERENCES are indeed at the heart of dating advice in general.

I’ll give you a primo example…one that could transform how you look at dating/seduction advice from this moment forward if you let it sink in.

Here goes… One of THE most repeated themes in the Seduction Community is the concept of how attractive women can select their partners at will while “rejecting” all others.

Meanwhile, so the story goes, we as guys are left to compete against the herd for the right to “mate” with a desirable female.

Elaborate comparisons are often made with what goes on elsewhere in the animal kingdom.

Bighorn sheep butting heads. Alpha wolves slaughtering the young of competing males. Big bad Black Widow spiders of the female persuasion gobbling up their puny male mates right after intercourse.

Sheesh.

Basically, the message is, “Women are the lucky ones. They can have sex whenever they want, and casually reject guys right and left until they get to the one they want.”

Us guys? We either become “more alpha”, or we die virgins or something.

Guess what? That’s how WE AS GUYS THINK, because it’s WE who are motivated by sexual conquest.

Now sure, SOME women do indeed wield tremendous sexual power. And yes, they really do “reject” countless guys who want to “mate” with them.

At least that’s how WE perceive the universe.

But here’s the thing. You should see the e-mails Emily and I get from women.

They’ve got dating challenges of their own. And they think all the GUYS are in control when it comes to dating.

Perhaps you’re thinking that we must be getting e-mails from all the less-than-attractive women out there who lack in the “sexual power” department.

Au contraire.

Sometime when you’re bored at work, hit up our Facebook group and surf through some of the hotties who have accepted Emily’s invitation and are ALL ABOUT going from “good” to “great” with guys.

Their challenges? They read like this: “I date a bunch of guys and they only want one thing…sex. When will I find a guy who will love me and want to commit to me?”

We have NEVER (as in NEVER, EVER) received a single e-mail from a woman who was concerned about “getting l***” enough.

And it’s not because every woman has ultimate “choosing” power over guys in that area.

And for the record, it’s also not because women don’t like sex.

It’s because they DON’T THINK LIKE A MAN DOES.

So the best dating advice to guys who want to get better with women is NOT to try to figure out how to get a woman to “select” you as her sex partner.

Instead, if you THINK IN TERMS OF WHAT WOMEN WANT, you’ll realize that the man who represents who a woman wants to fall in love with and commit to is the guy who will TRULY succeed.

Does all this still seem a bit cryptic to you? Looking for a clearer indication that I’m on to something here?

Look no further than the WOMEN’S dating advice market. Because they do the EXACT SAME THING…in reverse.

Women “dating gurus” tend to talk to women as if we as men think like they do.

And it SELLS LIKE HOTCAKES.

Why?

Because it makes sense to women, of course.

Women want a man to commit to them instead of “using them and leaving them”.

So what’s the best advice? Simple: follow “The Rules” designed to cajole a man into committing before you give him anything he wants.

The reality? Any self-respecting guy, such as yourself, isn’t going to fall for it.

Show me a woman who UNDERSTANDS that men want a woman who actually LIKES MEN, follows a worthy man’s lead, basks in her own femininity and heaps unsolicited approval on the deserving man in her life…and I’ll show you the woman who has guys FALLING ALL OVER THEMSELVES to put a ring on her finger.

Why is that? Simple…SHE KNOWS HOW MEN THINK, and represents what they want.

Can you make the extra effort to discover more about how women think?

If so, can you believe that it will pay off?

Can you trust that women REALLY DO follow a man’s lead, therefore when you represent what THEY want they GLADLY reciprocate by giving you what YOU want?

NOTE: Nothing you do can have as much impact on dating success as getting your “Deep Inner Game” together. By this, I mean your self-image and self-confidence.

This week I want to talk about one of my favorite topics.   I want to talk about the fact that Dating isn’t a “fair” game, and what to do about it…

First off, I want to mention that LIFE isn’t fair. In case you haven’t noticed, almost NOTHING is fair. Fairness is an idea that people have created. I think we probably created the concept to torture ourselves, in fact.

Here are a few ways that life isn’t “fair”, as the concept relates to women and dating:

1) Some men are taller, and some are shorter.  Women tend to prefer taller men. How unfair.

2) A very small portion of the women that are alive are as perfect and beautiful as the women in Playboy and other magazines, and therefore it’s impossible for every man to have a woman that is this beautiful. How unfair.

3) Many men go their entire lives without ever having sex. How unfair.

4) Some men have sex with hundreds or even thousands of women in their lives. How unfair.

5) Some men know the secrets of creating that magical emotion called ATTRACTION inside of women even though they aren’t rich, handsome, tall, etc. and wind up having their choice of beautiful young women. How unfair.

6) Some men have NO IDEA what deep inner game is (How GREAT for YOU!)

The point I’m trying to make is that LIFE ISN’T FAIR!

Dating isn’t fair, either.  Some guys take this to heart, and allow it to effect their deep inner game.

Sometimes a woman will respond positively to you, then the next day she’ll act strange. Sometimes a specific technique will work for you, and sometimes it won’t.   Sometimes you’ll feel great and confident  inside, and sometimes you won’t.

Now, most people don’t like the idea that life (and dating) aren’t fair. They get upset when things don’t go their way, place too much meaning on things that happen to them and responses they get from women, and generally act like life should be different.

Of course, this is CRAZY.

The more that I realized this fact… that life just isn’t fair… the more that I realized another PROFOUND truth:

IT’S GREAT NEWS!

If life were “fair”, then you wouldn’t be able to do anything to change your personal success. You’d get what everyone else was getting.  But, the fact is that you CAN change your personal success in any area you want (including dating). You can straighten your deep inner game out – from the inside out.

And the best part of this good news is that you can not only get better and better, but you can actually turn the tables around in YOUR FAVOR.

You can improve so much that you are actually at an ADVANTAGE when it comes to women and dating.  So, if the idea that “life isn’t fair” is such great news, then why aren’t more people thinking of it this way?

I personally think that most people aren’t WILLING to get up off of their couch, put the
remote down, and actually invest the time and effort required to become GREAT at something.

So, I’d like you to do something right now.

Take a moment, and make the decision and commitment to yourself that you’re going to TAKE ACTION in the areas of your life that you want to improve, and you’re going to do what it takes to stay on track until you get the results that you’re looking for.

Can you make that commitment to yourself?

Can you FOLLOW THROUGH on that commitment?

Can you commit to YOUR Deep Inner Game?

The most important decision I made in terms of my dating success was the fateful night that I decided that I was going to get this part of my life handled… NO MATTER WHAT.

Have YOU made this decision yet?

If not, then make it RIGHT NOW.

Bottom line:

Dating isn’t fair… and that’s great news.

When you turn the tables in your favor, you can create success that most men will only dream about. Really.

By the way…

Another problem is that a lot of people don’t know where to START. They don’t know how to get on the right track and where to learn things that actually work.

When I first decided that I had to learn how to meet and attract women for myself, I spent probably a year or two “wandering around” trying to find out what worked, trying, without knowing it, to get my deep inner game straight.

I ran in a lot of circles trying things that sounded like good ideas… but wound up being B.S. Then, once I finally figured out some of the ideas, techniques and skills it was going to take to really become great at this, it took awhile to really learn the skills and practice them to the point where I could use them and have predictable success with them.

Why am I telling you this?

Because I’d like to save you some of the time, effort, expense and hassle that I put into
figuring out all of my secrets… and I’d like to help you swing the odds in your favor when it comes to women.

David Deangelo just finished up a fascinating interview with a gentleman named David Shade, a sexual “guru” who teaches men and women how to have better sex. He has written a phenomenal eBook called Masterful Lover that is a must read for any man who is looking to give a woman the ride of her life.  In his words… his specialty is “teaching guys how to take a woman’s pleasure beyond anything she’s ever imagined possible… and open up her up to things she is too inhibited to do… but KNOWS she would LOVE to do”…

1. Be The Man She Is Looking For

David Deangelo’s friend David Shade has a tremendous amount of experience with women… and he KNOWS what they want.  He explained to me that many women are sexually frustrated… not because they don’t have a man… but because their guy just doesn’t know how to please a woman.  Deep down, a woman wants a man who has the ability to “sweep her away”.

David Shade tells David DeAngelo that she wants to surrender to a man who is PASSIONATE and knows what he’s doing… so she can explore her sexuality in new and exciting ways that she would be too timid to explore otherwise.  If you can become the type of guy who has real a passion for pleasing women, and you learn how to please them in ways that other guys don’t, a woman will stay with you forever… because she knows unusual it is to find a guy like this.

2. Be Passionate, Not Obsessive

There’s a big difference, David Shade says, between being passionate and obsessive, and luckily for you most guys have no idea what that is… If you look at a woman and think, “I must have sex with her” you are actually GIVING UP YOUR POWER before you even meet!

This “adolescent” attitude actually scares women away… and I recommend you make a conscious effort to avoid it.  David Shade recommends a far different—and far more effective—approach. When you see an attractive woman you’d like to meet, instead of thinking about what she can do for you, start thinking about the fact that you know how to make her feel incredibly good… and how CRAZY she would be to pass up this opportunity.

David Shade tells David DeAngelo that you must KNOW that YOU can give her more pleasure that any other man can… and probably more than she could even handle.  When you believe that YOU have the power, you can help a woman explore her own sexuality in ways she didn’t even know existed.

Women will instantly pick up on this powerful attitude, and it will come across in everything you do.

3. Know What She Wants

David Shade shared some fantastic information on the 4 things a woman needs to feel in a relationship in order to be satisfied.

1. She needs to feel appreciated for the unique individual she is… and that her man supports her in all she does

2. She needs to feel a deep, emotional, intimate connection

3. She needs to feel like a sexy, beautiful, feminine woman

4. She needs hot, passionate sex… which includes being seduced, teased and satisfied over and over again… and exploring new roles and fantasies.

Give her these four things and she’ll be yours for as long as you like.

4. Be Supportive Without Being Needy

It’s ok to let a woman know how much you appreciate her, so long as you don’t come from a position of NEEDINESS.  Needy guys (David Deangelo calls them Wussies) pour it on too thick.  They put women on pedestals.  And, as you know… nothing drives a woman away faster.  A woman wants to be with a man who is strong, has his own life, and doesn’t NEED her.

If you come from a position of STRENGTH, compliments and appreciation will light up a woman’s life… because you will be giving them in a way that makes her feel MORE attracted to you.  So remember… she wants to be APPRECIATED… but not NEEDED.

5. Get Her Aroused Over The Phone

Listen up – David Shade shared an amazing strategy he uses to drive women wild OVER THE PHONE. Here’s how he does it:

1. He gets into a deep conversation about relationships and emotions, which gets a woman in a highly emotional state

2. He then asks her about what she wants to feel in a relationship… which gets her even more involved

3. He then talks about being alone… he asks he if she feels alone and explains to her how he feels the same way

4. He then asks her to think about how it would feel to be the OPPOSITE of alone… and tells her how he wishes he was holding her close right then and there

5. He then describes in intimate detail exactly what he would do if they were together…

And the rest is history.  The best thing about getting a woman turned on over the phone is that it gets her to imagine the two of you being intimate before it actually happens…

This paves the way for the REAL intimacy later on, according to David Shade.  When she sees you in person afterwards, there’s only ONE thing she’ll be able to think about… don’t be surprised if she wants to skip the “date” part of your date and head straight to the bedroom. I’m serious here… this will be the case more often than not.

Listen to this section of the interview a few times until you have it down… then give it a shot next time you are talking with a woman who is receptive towards you.  Take it slow and easy… and you just might be surprised at how well it works.

6. Try New Ways Of Giving Her Pleasure

David Shade says women love VARIETY in the bedroom.  And one of the biggest complaints women have about men is that they do the “same old” every time.  Most men have a sexual “routine” they are used to. They are comfortable using a certain set of moves and steps because it’s the same thing they have always done and it seems to work for them.

If you’re REALLY looking to please a woman over and over again, the “same old routine” has got to go.  Repeating the same moves in the same order night after night might work fine for YOU, but remember… women are “wired” differently… and they need different kinds of experiences to continue to be turned on and excited.

Fortunately for us women prefer to have these different kinds of experiences with THE SAME GUY… but if you don’t give them to her, she very well may look elsewhere.  On the other hand, if you do keep things exciting in the bedroom by mixing it up so she never knows what to expect, chances are she’ll NEVER leave… because you’ll be EXACTLY what she’s looking for.

So be sure to ALWAYS be unpredictable in the bedroom.  Don’t be afraid to experiment and try out new things. I’m sure you can think of a few…

7. Learn Some New Moves

An easy way to give a woman the sexual variety she wants is to learn some great techniques… especially some that she has never seen before.  In our interview David Shade shared some VERY interesting physical techniques he uses to drive a woman wild, and I highly recommend you try them out.

Make sure you listen to the later part of our interview a few times, and take some notes. There’s some great stuff in there that isn’t published anywhere else.  That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t get your hands on other material that out there and study it for all it’s worth. Walk into any bookstore and you’ll find a TON of great books on how to please women… many with their own unique spin.  The small time investment you make will have HUGE rewards… of the best kind!  Fortunately for us, not many men take the time to actually do this… so those who DO have a massive advantage.

Women love it when you pull a new trick out… and when you have an ARSENAL of moves at your disposal… that you can pull out night after night to give her a brand new exciting experience.

8. Guide Her Through The Experience

Women want a leader INSIDE of the bedroom just as much as they want one outside of the bedroom.  Simply put: If you’re letting her do all of the work—or even a quarter of it—you’re doing something wrong.  As a man, you need to take charge when you’re between the sheets.

Don’t be afraid to put her into different positions, stand her up to kiss her then lay her back down, or start and stop the action (remember… 2 steps forward, 1 step back!).  David Shade made the important point that you also need to guide her through the experience with your VOICE.

Accfording to David Shade, men must remember… women like to be stimulated differently than us men… and when you talk to her in a soothing and sexual way it increases her pleasure more than you could ever imagine.  Here are a few great examples David Shade shared that you can start using right away:

• Encourage Her To RELAX – Telling a woman to relax and feel totally comfortable while you are giving her pleasure will cause her to enjoy her experience with you a whole lot more.  This tells her that you are in control and you care about her needs… and lets her know that she can just kick back and enjoy the ride.

• Talk About What She’s Feeling – Say things like, “That feels good, doesn’t it?”, and “I know you like that right there” to bring the experience alive in her mind and add the powerful element of verbal stimulation to your physical actions.  David Shade stresses that this is a HUGE turn on to women.

• Encourage Her Orgasms – When you feel she’s close to having an orgasm, encourage her along.  This will often be the thing that puts her over the edge.