Sadly it seems that there are an ever increasing number of relationships that just don’t last the test of time. Often it can be as a result of another person being involved or sometimes financial pressures play there part. In fact, there really many different reasons as to why a couple might well call it a day.
This blog post will take a closer look at some of the important things that should be considered during this stressful time.
Deciding on Custody
The single biggest element of any break up will often revolve around children. The amiability of the relationship tends to determine just how easy this stage is.
In the event of a difficult or less than amicable break up, then it is likely that deciding on custody will also be difficult. Parents that can hardly bring themselves to speak to one another can find this a really tough time. This situation is likely to become protracted with the introduction of solicitors. The knock on effect of this is that it is likely to get expensive too.
To a lesser extent, but nonetheless important, a decision will need to be made surrounding the ownership of any pets. Once again this can end with emotions running high as very often strong bonds have been formed by both parties to the family pet.
Selling Property
High on the list of considerations will be the property. It can be reasonably easy if the family home is rented. One party will normally opt to move out, leaving the other person in situ. Arrangements might well need to be made to cover costs for the single person who stays on, particularly if they have the custody of the child or children.
However, it gets a whole lot more difficult when the property is owned. Considerations will need to be made relating to any secured loans that are on the property. This can easily add to the stress levels for both parties, especially in situations where there is little or no equity in the property.
Circle of Friends
It should be noted that not every element of a break up will revolve around financial issues. One aspect that frequently crops up is that of friends and in particular mutual friends. Quite naturally these people will tend to take sides, often based upon who the original friend was. When this happens the existing circle of friends almost collapses, especially when the somewhat inevitable blame culture starts to kick in.
Extremely strong friendships can be put under real strain, sometimes to breaking point. Adding these issues to the existing break-up will present its own difficulties.
Pressure of Work
Even the most amicable of break-ups will leave their mark on people. One such way can be felt when work becomes more difficult or stressful. Today’s business world means that it isn’t long before bosses start taking note of under-performance. If an individual is not careful they can end up with issues at work to contend with as well.
Trust Issues
A final aspect can come in the form of trust issues. Depending on the circumstances around the break-up, it can be something that rears its ugly head in the future. An example of this might be if one party has had some kind of affair. The other person might well find it difficult to put their faith into another relationship. This can very often be a major stumbling block to truly moving on, with the scars from this kind of emotional damage taking a long time to heal.
Even when there is no evidence of an affair, moving on can still be difficult. The sad reality is that when relationships turn sour there is nearly always a lasting negative effect on one or both of the parties.
Stuart Edge is a freelance writer who is in a writes about relationships. To understand more about the implications that secured loans can have on break-ups, follow him on Google Plus.