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Cocky Comedy – Approaching Women

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Here are some fabulous excerpts from David DeAngelo’s newsletters regarding his Cocky Comedy techniques and how to use them to approach women.

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WOW! Yeah, that’s the best word I can describe your techniques with. I’ve been in situations where I can’t help but smile, or even burst out laughing when I see the magic work… keeping a straight face can be hard just because I never thought it would work so well. Anyway, to the point: I’ve been using the ‘Cocky Comedy you can’t get what you want’ on this girl. Well it was working well, but one instance she was discouraged, and I wasn’t sure what to do. I felt bad, like I broke her or something… I was hoping you could help me with a funny line that would give her, or any other girl alike, a good feeling after they turn around and feel bad. I wanted to make sure and not turn into ‘PUSSYMAN’ to make her feel better. Rather, something to encourage her to pursue me, and give her the ‘it’ll be worth your while impression.’ Your advice seems to have covered everything but this, or I just missed something. Help make it clear. I appreciate the time you put into saving our lives. I think I was on the verge of wasting a lifetime before I was introduced to your work.

F. F. Toronto

>>>David DeAngelo’s response in the Double Your Dating – How To Be Successful With Women

One of the things you need to watch for when you’re learning to be cocky & funny and using Cocky Comedy is GOING TOO FAR.

I’ve seen guys get a little too cocky, while forgetting that FUNNY is a key component of the formula… and then winding up turning a woman off instead of making a woman laugh.

I’ve done it myself a few times…

Just remember, if you wind up coming across as arrogant and hurting a woman’s feelings, you need to change the frame of what’s going on.

Try saying:

“Lighten up… what, you don’t have a sense of humor?”

This tells the woman you’re talking to that it was a joke without you turning into a wussy in her eyes.

Then add more humor.

Women are very adaptable, and if you take things too far, just remember to diffuse the situation quickly and learn from it. Once she sees that you were just busting on her, she’ll most likely bounce right back.

Unfortunately, too many guys will turn into insta-wuss and start apologizing. Don’t do that!

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

You are more than just the man; you’re the man’s man. I don’t know how the hell you did it, but you’ve done what Freud couldn’t–figure out what a woman wants. Buy the BOOK!!!! There’s so much more to learn from it, including BRIDGES and SEX SECRETS. In Sex Secrets, Dave even teaches you how to transition into the position that woman hate, but men love…DOGGY-style!!!! You can’t beat this. You had better believe I’ve got a SUCCESS STORY.

My cousin (he has a long-term girlfriend) and I wanted to work on our Cocky Comedy routines, so we decided to go to Barnes and Noble…like you said normal places.

NOTE: he went to work on his Cocky Funny, but not to meet women. Anyways, I tell you what: its nerve racking as hell approaching a girl, but each time I went and talked to girl I became more and more confident. I RECOMMEND this to anyone: find a friend who has some balls and go with him…it was good having the support, and we had an awesome time. In the end, my cousin got this hot ass model chic’s e-mail, along with the usually “you’re kind of rude.” (He accused her of faking a cell-phone call …LOL) But whatever, it worked. Anyways, later we met this chic…I didn’t have anything to lose, so I went balls to the wall with the Cocky Comedy. She completely dug it, she was hinting at sex and all that.

PROBLEM: I eventually found out she was married, and like you say, there’s too many women out there to ruin relationships. The point is THAT A MARRIED WOMEN WANTED TO RISK HER MARRIAGE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO SHE FOUND ATTRACTIVE!!!!!!!!! My question is this:

We sometimes found that our jokes didn’t always catch. For example, my cousin walked into Ravegirl and accused the waitress of stealing. LOL. She didn’t quite take the joke, and she got all pissy (Don’t worry he didn’t apologize). How do you hint that what your saying is supposed to be a joke? Should you smile (I know you say to avoid this)? Also, what books other than Comedy Writing Secrets do you recommend? Also, we’re both attractive (I’m getting a 9 at HotorNot.com), thus we have to work on the FUNNY part of Cocky and Funny because chicks assume the cocky part.

PS. Don’t forget to keep us posted on the videos or audio tapes of the seminar. I couldn’t make it.

PPS. Even when we failed, we laughed our asses off. It was great. Just make sure that your partner pushes you to go by YOURSELF to talk to the chic.

–Student in NY, 21 years old

>>>David Deangelo’s Comments in the Double Your Dating Newsletter:

You have some great points here… and I think that you’re going to find your balance very soon.  A quick distinction that I’ll point out to you:

When you’re first meeting a woman, I think it’s better to just get the email/number and leave.

Then, when you email, talk on the phone, and meet up later start being more cocky and funny…

This will probably help you out A LOT.

As for married women… I don’t recommend going there.

A final note: If you’re a pretty good looking guy, you might turn down the cocky, and turn up the funny.

Women perceive good looking guys who act cocky as MAJOR PLAYERS, and too much cocky too soon can backfire on you. Learn the art of the “sly smile”… squint a bit and smile just barely. This says “I just teased you but you didn’t get it…”

It’s great…

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Dating Advice for Guys – Tantalize her with scents

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One area that guys don’t take advantage of enough is the power of smell with a woman. Scents and smells are very important to them, and it’s been scientifically proven that women are much more sensitive than men to odors.

One of the most important reasons scents are good for engaging a woman’s attraction for you is that your sense of smell is connected to the most basic part of your brain, the part that was formed long before your ability to reason and think. This was because our early ancestors had to be able to react quickly to scents on the wind that could indicate a threat, such as a predator.

Smells have a way of bringing back memories. Have you ever had the experience of smelling something and having a complete flashback to something you remember from your childhood? It happens all the time, and it’s even more potent when you’ve associated a smell with something, like the smell of burning leaves in autumn, or the smell of homemade pizza. These smells evoke a state in us that pulls us back to the experiences we had with that smell.

I’ve walked into old houses before, ones that were humid and smelled of old bread and tea, and I had these flashes of walking into my grandmother’s house and the same odors there. It’s a little freaky how real it feels at times.

The way you use this with a woman is to find out what scents she indulges in when she wants to relax, or get passionate. I find that getting her into a candle store, or a bath-and-bodyworks type store is the best way. You get her to smell different things, and notice what she prefers. Vanilla is usually a good scent that you can almost bet she’ll like. Find out what she likes to take a bath with.

Scents for women can usually be broken up into two categories: musks and floral. Musky scents are like heavy perfumes, like Obsession. Floral scents are the ones that are, obviously, more like flowers. If she wears any kind of perfume, you can tell which she prefers by smelling what she’s wearing.

Take care with your choice of cologne. One tactic is to find out what cologne her dad used to wear and use that, but I find this strategy highly variable in terms of the response you’ll get. Better to choose the cologne that she remarks on and likes. Make it a point to put on too little rather than too much. You want her trying to get closer to you, not running and gagging from the smell. Have her give you a critique. “Hey, I just got this new cologne, but I’m not sure if I like it. Tell me what you think.” And she’ll have to lean in close to you to get a whiff. If she likes it, she’ll be back for more.
(And don’t go cheap on your cologne. It’s worth it.)

When you can get her sense of smell engaged, you are taking a shortcut to a part of her mind that responds in an almost primal way. She can’t reason or rationalize with it. You can get her in a state of your own choosing by choosing the right scent.

Dating Tips for Guys – Flake Proof your Date!

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For most of us, one of the crappiest things that can happen is when you finally get a date with a really HOT woman, and then she cancels on you right as you are getting in the shower to get ready for the big event.  That sucks sweaty socks.  But it’s a fact of life.

So is there anything you can DO about it?  Well, as a matter of fact, there is.  The thing is, most guys don’t know this, and this is one of the FUNDAMENTALS of dating advice – how to AVOID the flake!  So let’s talk about how.

One of the first things that you can do in order to avoid a woman flaking out on you is to tell her point blank that you HATE it when people do that.  When you are setting up your date with her, whether it be a lunch date, coffee date or a genuine Friday night out, tell her, “Now listen, I REALLY hate it when people flake out on me, so I only want to make plans with you if you are CERTAIN you are going to be there.”

Many men are too intimidated to say something like that.  Or they think it is giving the woman an “out” and that if given a chance to run, she will take it. And it might happen.  BUT – I would SO much rather have a girl flake on me at that stage than right before the date, wouldn’t you?

The thing is, when you say this to a woman, you are telling her that your time is VALUABLE.  It shows her that your TIME is more important to you than meeting her, which tells her in turn that your status is possibly a little higher than hers is.

So then, on the day of the date, if a woman actually calls you and DOES flake on you – now is the time to use a little “Cocky Comedy” on her.  Tell her, “Well thanks a lot for the NOTICE!  When are you going to make this up to me?”

So here you have a great chance to bust her balls a little bit.  Keep in mind, though, using Cocky Comedy, you have to keep it light enough to NOT let her think you are hurt in any way, or you will lower your Alpha-Male status in her eyes, which is a killer for attraction.

David Deangelo has also mentioned that one way to keep a girl from flaking on you is to flake on HER first.  For some reason, this works like a CHARM for him.  It builds anticipation for the woman, letting her know that you are interested in her (because you set up a second meeting right then on the phone, but it makes her WAIT for it a little longer).

Most of the time, your problems with women are created because of your own WUSSY behavior.  I mean, you are never going to get to the point where you NEVER have trouble again.  You may as well say that it’s never going to rain again.  But you CAN get to the point where you are on the ball and actually preventing most of the problems before they happen!

Do You Have Approach Anxiety? Read This!

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While most men have trouble approaching women, some have it worse than others. No matter how many times these guys rehearse lines in their heads, when faced with a woman they find themselves tongue-tied, sweaty-palmed, and unable to even make eye contact. If this describes you, then you really need to take a moment to absorb some of David Deangelo’s dating tips for guys.

You see, you can rehearse lines and act out scenarios in your head all day long, but this won’t cure your inability to approach women. The problem is that you need to work on your Inner Game. This is the crown jewel in David Deangelo’s advice for guys, and it is all about getting you to believe that you are capable of not only approaching, but also getting dates with beautiful, unapproachable women.

The Deep Inner Game is not about the women you want to date, it is about you. Before you even start memorizing pick-up lines, you need to get your head in the right place, and start believing in yourself. You need to begin by letting go of every negative experience you have ever had trying to pick up women. If you walk up to a woman with a killer pick-up line, but a defeatist attitude, you will never get anywhere! Women are not interested in guys with low self-esteem. Women love confidence, energy, and man who make them laugh.

When you approach a woman, you must convince yourself that she is very attracted to you, that she can’t wait to get your number, and that you are approaching her because she was looking at you. It isn’t necessary for you to actually feel this way- you basically are going to fake it until you have convinced yourself that it is true. Approach her as though you know that you will be going home with her number, and you just might.

You should adopt an alpha-male posture: shoulders back, easy smile, and full eye contact. Don’t overdo it!  When approaching women, flash a nice smile and make a positive comment that will get things going on the right track. Don’t compliment her, just  reflect on how great the DJ is, what a beautiful night it is, and so on.

Like anything else in life, approaching women takes practice. You will never get good at this unless you practice a lot. Part of practice means dealing with rejection, and this is something you simply have to accept beforehand. The good news is that the more you deal with rejection, the easier it gets, and the less frequent it becomes. As you practice your approach, your body language will actually begin to reflect your confidence and comfort, and it will make you irresistible to women. But don’t take it from me, get out there and see for yourself!

Grow a Pair – Women Like It!

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Some men are nice guys.  And then, some men are “nice guys” – you know the ones – the ones that have a ton of female friends but have never had a girlfriend in their whole life?  These men, these doomed, lost brothers who are stuck in the dreaded “friend zone” NEED to read this article.  I’m going to tell you what these “Nice Guys” are doing wrong.  And maybe, just maybe, you could be making some of those same mistakes.

 

There are several key concepts that are LAW when it comes to attracting women.   These are in no particular order, but they are each very important to understand if you want to know what makes attraction work – and use that to your OWN advantage.

 

Getting right to it – the first of these immutable laws is that Attraction is NOT a choice.  I know you have probably heard dating advice experts like David Deangelo or Lance Mason say that before – but the thing is – it’s true.  Attraction isn’t a choice.  You don’t look at someone and think, “Hey!  I want to be attracted to HER!”

 

The second law of attraction – the attractive people have the pick of the pack.  In particular – the hot women.  They can almost any man they want, right?  They know it.  Men tell them!  All the time!  Beautiful women are approached CONSTANTLY.  Every day – several times a day.  So try to see this from HER point of view – if she gave her attention to every Chuck Schmuck that wanted it, she could not get through a day.  So if you want her attention, you better earn it.

 

The third rule in attraction is that attraction does not always make sense.  Think about it.  Every woman wants a great guy to treat her wonderfully, bring her flowers and open doors for her.  But she gets him, and she loses interest in about two weeks.  Why?  She is not ATTRACTED to him.  Logically, she should be.  At the gut level – she is not.

 

Law four – STATUS is very important when it comes to ATTRACTION. Beautiful girls are rarely attracted to men perceived to be of a lower status than they are.  Being the Alpha Male is a must if you are looking to attract women.

 

The thing is – women are on the lookout for the man that sparks that attraction in her.  She may not even know what that “thing” is, but …I do.  That thing that women want is the man to be a real MAN.  Not a wuss, not a wimp, not a “nice guy”.  That may seem counterintuitive – but let me ask you this – how’s your current game plan working out for you so far?

 

What can you do to stop this attraction killing behavior?  There are a few simple steps you can take to get your cajones back and get the girl.  One – stop being NICE to attractive women.  No compliments, no pleasing her, no gifts, no crap just to make her like you.  As a matter of fact – bust on her a bit.  Tell her she is a brat.  Tell her she is being bad and you won’t talk to her until she can be nice. 

 

Two – tell an attractive women no at least once every single day.  Doesn’t have to be big – but when some hot woman asks you to hand her the newspaper at the coffee shop – tell her no.  Of course, you can wait a few minutes while she grabs her jaw off the floor and then give her what she was asking for, but just bust her bubble if you can.

 

Three – respect YOURSELF and grow a pair, you know what I mean?  Remember that you are YOU, and do not put aside your personality, your beliefs or your wants and needs for any woman.  Or anyone, for that matter.  Respect yourself and you will get respect.