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Are YOU Man Enough to Take a Chance?

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Gambling can be fun at times – playing Poker, betting on horses or football games or even in physical situations like skiing.  Most men, however, don’t particularly like to gamble when it comes to approaching women.  I mean, it’s easier to lose a few bucks to a pal than to lose face when a woman rejects you, right?

Naturally, this leads to guys wanting to figure out a way to meet women that involves no risk.  Well, you can always have your buddies pre-screen every woman you want to walk up to and say hi.  They could interview her!  “Hey – my friend over there wants to know if you are interested in him.”  OR – you could do like I did the first time I ever wanted to ask a girl out.  I sent her a note that said, “Will you be my girlfriend?  Check one.  Yes   No”.

Give me a break, it was 6th grade!

Ok, so maybe those ideas aren’t so great.  In fact, they are downright wussie.  It’s easy to see that, though, when you are reading it in black and white.

My point is, there is no way to meet a woman without taking some risks.  Trying to do so creates a mentality of “average-ness”.  Being average is NOT attractive to women.  Women want a guy who can create attraction for them, and that means being a strong, confident, powerful man comfortable in your own skin.

There are two things you can do to minimize the impact of rejection.  One thing is to use a little Cocky Comedy.  The other thing is to not take rejection so seriously.

Cocky Comedy is a technique for meeting women developed by David Deangelo.   What is it?  Cocky Comedy is technique for meeting women that uses humor that not only elevates attraction but establishes you as the alpha male.  What you do is you start busting on her from the minute you meet.  Joke with her, bust on her, keep her on her toes – and this will create attraction for her.

For example, tell her that you noticed she is nursing that drink like a 2 day old baby.  Or tell her she is going to have to work harder than that to get your attention.  Bust on her clothes, her height (NEVER HER WEIGHT!!!) her shoes, her laugh – whatever comes to mind.  Make it witty.  And after that, you give her a sign using body language that shows her you are interested in her.

So you get it?  You bust on her verbally – then with your body language tell her you are attracted to her.  It works like a charm.

Now – there is always risk involved.  What if you go too far and piss her off?  It’s the end of the world!!  Or not.  I, personally, choose the “not” option.  Remember – YOU are TOTALLY in charge of how things affect you.  Does it bruise my ego when a hot woman rejects me?  No – because I CHOOSE to move on and not even think about it again, because it does not matter.  She was probably a freak anyway!

Dating Tips for Guys – Flake Proof your Date!

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For most of us, one of the crappiest things that can happen is when you finally get a date with a really HOT woman, and then she cancels on you right as you are getting in the shower to get ready for the big event.  That sucks sweaty socks.  But it’s a fact of life.

So is there anything you can DO about it?  Well, as a matter of fact, there is.  The thing is, most guys don’t know this, and this is one of the FUNDAMENTALS of dating advice – how to AVOID the flake!  So let’s talk about how.

One of the first things that you can do in order to avoid a woman flaking out on you is to tell her point blank that you HATE it when people do that.  When you are setting up your date with her, whether it be a lunch date, coffee date or a genuine Friday night out, tell her, “Now listen, I REALLY hate it when people flake out on me, so I only want to make plans with you if you are CERTAIN you are going to be there.”

Many men are too intimidated to say something like that.  Or they think it is giving the woman an “out” and that if given a chance to run, she will take it. And it might happen.  BUT – I would SO much rather have a girl flake on me at that stage than right before the date, wouldn’t you?

The thing is, when you say this to a woman, you are telling her that your time is VALUABLE.  It shows her that your TIME is more important to you than meeting her, which tells her in turn that your status is possibly a little higher than hers is.

So then, on the day of the date, if a woman actually calls you and DOES flake on you – now is the time to use a little “Cocky Comedy” on her.  Tell her, “Well thanks a lot for the NOTICE!  When are you going to make this up to me?”

So here you have a great chance to bust her balls a little bit.  Keep in mind, though, using Cocky Comedy, you have to keep it light enough to NOT let her think you are hurt in any way, or you will lower your Alpha-Male status in her eyes, which is a killer for attraction.

David Deangelo has also mentioned that one way to keep a girl from flaking on you is to flake on HER first.  For some reason, this works like a CHARM for him.  It builds anticipation for the woman, letting her know that you are interested in her (because you set up a second meeting right then on the phone, but it makes her WAIT for it a little longer).

Most of the time, your problems with women are created because of your own WUSSY behavior.  I mean, you are never going to get to the point where you NEVER have trouble again.  You may as well say that it’s never going to rain again.  But you CAN get to the point where you are on the ball and actually preventing most of the problems before they happen!

Do You Have Approach Anxiety? Read This!

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While most men have trouble approaching women, some have it worse than others. No matter how many times these guys rehearse lines in their heads, when faced with a woman they find themselves tongue-tied, sweaty-palmed, and unable to even make eye contact. If this describes you, then you really need to take a moment to absorb some of David Deangelo’s dating tips for guys.

You see, you can rehearse lines and act out scenarios in your head all day long, but this won’t cure your inability to approach women. The problem is that you need to work on your Inner Game. This is the crown jewel in David Deangelo’s advice for guys, and it is all about getting you to believe that you are capable of not only approaching, but also getting dates with beautiful, unapproachable women.

The Deep Inner Game is not about the women you want to date, it is about you. Before you even start memorizing pick-up lines, you need to get your head in the right place, and start believing in yourself. You need to begin by letting go of every negative experience you have ever had trying to pick up women. If you walk up to a woman with a killer pick-up line, but a defeatist attitude, you will never get anywhere! Women are not interested in guys with low self-esteem. Women love confidence, energy, and man who make them laugh.

When you approach a woman, you must convince yourself that she is very attracted to you, that she can’t wait to get your number, and that you are approaching her because she was looking at you. It isn’t necessary for you to actually feel this way- you basically are going to fake it until you have convinced yourself that it is true. Approach her as though you know that you will be going home with her number, and you just might.

You should adopt an alpha-male posture: shoulders back, easy smile, and full eye contact. Don’t overdo it!  When approaching women, flash a nice smile and make a positive comment that will get things going on the right track. Don’t compliment her, just  reflect on how great the DJ is, what a beautiful night it is, and so on.

Like anything else in life, approaching women takes practice. You will never get good at this unless you practice a lot. Part of practice means dealing with rejection, and this is something you simply have to accept beforehand. The good news is that the more you deal with rejection, the easier it gets, and the less frequent it becomes. As you practice your approach, your body language will actually begin to reflect your confidence and comfort, and it will make you irresistible to women. But don’t take it from me, get out there and see for yourself!

Grow a Pair – Women Like It!

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Some men are nice guys.  And then, some men are “nice guys” – you know the ones – the ones that have a ton of female friends but have never had a girlfriend in their whole life?  These men, these doomed, lost brothers who are stuck in the dreaded “friend zone” NEED to read this article.  I’m going to tell you what these “Nice Guys” are doing wrong.  And maybe, just maybe, you could be making some of those same mistakes.

 

There are several key concepts that are LAW when it comes to attracting women.   These are in no particular order, but they are each very important to understand if you want to know what makes attraction work – and use that to your OWN advantage.

 

Getting right to it – the first of these immutable laws is that Attraction is NOT a choice.  I know you have probably heard dating advice experts like David Deangelo or Lance Mason say that before – but the thing is – it’s true.  Attraction isn’t a choice.  You don’t look at someone and think, “Hey!  I want to be attracted to HER!”

 

The second law of attraction – the attractive people have the pick of the pack.  In particular – the hot women.  They can almost any man they want, right?  They know it.  Men tell them!  All the time!  Beautiful women are approached CONSTANTLY.  Every day – several times a day.  So try to see this from HER point of view – if she gave her attention to every Chuck Schmuck that wanted it, she could not get through a day.  So if you want her attention, you better earn it.

 

The third rule in attraction is that attraction does not always make sense.  Think about it.  Every woman wants a great guy to treat her wonderfully, bring her flowers and open doors for her.  But she gets him, and she loses interest in about two weeks.  Why?  She is not ATTRACTED to him.  Logically, she should be.  At the gut level – she is not.

 

Law four – STATUS is very important when it comes to ATTRACTION. Beautiful girls are rarely attracted to men perceived to be of a lower status than they are.  Being the Alpha Male is a must if you are looking to attract women.

 

The thing is – women are on the lookout for the man that sparks that attraction in her.  She may not even know what that “thing” is, but …I do.  That thing that women want is the man to be a real MAN.  Not a wuss, not a wimp, not a “nice guy”.  That may seem counterintuitive – but let me ask you this – how’s your current game plan working out for you so far?

 

What can you do to stop this attraction killing behavior?  There are a few simple steps you can take to get your cajones back and get the girl.  One – stop being NICE to attractive women.  No compliments, no pleasing her, no gifts, no crap just to make her like you.  As a matter of fact – bust on her a bit.  Tell her she is a brat.  Tell her she is being bad and you won’t talk to her until she can be nice. 

 

Two – tell an attractive women no at least once every single day.  Doesn’t have to be big – but when some hot woman asks you to hand her the newspaper at the coffee shop – tell her no.  Of course, you can wait a few minutes while she grabs her jaw off the floor and then give her what she was asking for, but just bust her bubble if you can.

 

Three – respect YOURSELF and grow a pair, you know what I mean?  Remember that you are YOU, and do not put aside your personality, your beliefs or your wants and needs for any woman.  Or anyone, for that matter.  Respect yourself and you will get respect.