First date nerves? Dating can be stressful! Leading up to the big date there are a whole range of things to worry about from what to wear to where you will meet etc… Naturally most people feel pressure on a first date as making a good first impression is important. This article will hopefully show you why you really shouldn’t stress about the first date.
Tip 1: Remember that dating is a two way thing. The person sitting opposite you is probably just as nervous as you are. No one likes to be judged but on a date that is inevitably part of the dating process. What makes it a whole lot easier is to understand that it’s also about whether you like your date. Spend less time fixated on what they think of you and more time thinking about what you and your date have in common and how they will fit into your life. All you can do is be yourself and if they like you then great. Sometimes people click and sometimes they don’t – that’s life!
Tip 2: A first date should be fairly low key. By agreeing to go to an expensive restaurant or somewhere equally posh you’re just creating pressure for yourself. A first date is all about getting a feel for someone so light-hearted chat over a coffee is much easier to cope with and often the best option for a first date. That way also if you really don’t hit it off then it’s not too difficult to get out of the situation.
Tip 3: Don’t stress too much about the venue. If you’re the one who has to decide where the date will take place then you’ll be pleased to know that people generally enjoy a wide range of activities. Try to pick something that you know most people enjoy and you won’t go far wrong. Popular first date venues that are reasonably low pressure includes coffee shops, wine bars, cinemas and bowling.
Tip 4: A first date is all about getting to know someone so if it doesn’t go well then you’re not emotionally attached to them in any way. Simply move one and get on with your life. You really don’t have anything to lose.
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Tip 5: A first date can be as long or as short as you want it to be. If it’s not going as well as you’d hoped then you can make your excuses and leave. Of course you should be polite but if you don’t get on then there’s not really any point in stringing it out.
Tip 6: Whatever happens on your date it’ll be an experience. If it all goes horribly wrong then at least you’ll have a good story to tell in future! All of our friends can recount awful dating experiences, many of them humorous.
Tip 7: The best thing about first dates are that you’re starting from scratch and have a lot to find out about each other. You can talk about all the basics and you shouldn’t run out of things to say. Awkward silences can be embarrassing but on the first date discussion about jobs, family, hobbies should keep you going.
As you can see there’s really no need to stress over a first date. Just be yourself and if you meet the love of your life then great! If not move and enjoy the whole dating experience.
About The Author
Sam Chapman writes independent reviews of online dating websites and is author of the Top 10 dating websites blog. Follow @Top10DatingUK